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Love God with all your heart, mind and soul.

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>> Well, hello and welcome to the Stand Up Dude podcast.

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I'm one of your hosts, Stewart White, along with Tim Bisagno.

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>> Yes, sorry.

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>> Tim, we have a-- >> I'm doing great.

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>> I'm really good, how are you?

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>> It's good to know.

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>> Yeah.

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I would like to hand off to you this part, but we have a guest today.

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>> Yes.

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>> His name is Kenneth Heroff.

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>> Oh, yeah.

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>> He's a friend of yours.

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>> Yes, he is.

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>> I will let you handle the intro, the bio for him.

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We're really excited to have him.

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We want to welcome him to the show.

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And you guys are going to get a lot out of this.

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So I hand that off to you.

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>> All right.

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Welcome Kenneth.

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Great to have you, brother.

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>> Thank you.

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I'm honored to be here.

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Thank you, Stewart, Tim.

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>> Straight up from Longview, Texas.

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Oh, central.

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All right, East Texas, that is.

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You, sir.

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So great to have you, man.

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For those that don't know Kenneth and I are friends.

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He is a coach of men encouraging them to be exactly who God created them to be.

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What a perfect match.

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I just love Kenneth.

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You'll see that he has a beautiful ability to be succinct and firm.

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And yet he's also quite a gentle spirit.

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Sounds like Jesus to me.

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And I'm not putting you up on the quite that pedestal, sir.

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But I love you and I'm thanking God that you're here with us, man.

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>> Thank you, Tim.

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And as I love you, you mentioned some of my parts, but not all of my parts.

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>> Okay, sir.

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>> All of their good and bad parts to every man.

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So, yes.

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>> Yes, sir.

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>> So thank you for that.

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Yes, I have been a men's life coach for approximately five years.

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I've coached thousands of men of all different faith backgrounds.

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And believe me, Christian men need coaching and mentoring as much as anyone else.

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And we have the greatest role model on the planet for men's work, for men's coaching

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and mentorship.

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And that's Jesus Christ, the most masculine man that ever walked the planet.

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He did it perfectly.

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>> It's a controversial statement a bit because a lot of people don't look at Jesus as

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being that manly, right?

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He's sort of portrayed as like, you know, a little bit soft, but kid glove, when kind of guy.

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>> He was a very vulnerable, emotional, beautiful, loving man.

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And he also knew how to make a whip and turn over tables and run people out of his house.

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So he had a strength to him that didn't require violence.

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He had a strength to him that didn't require force because he was powerful.

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That's what we're talking about, the difference between men being truly congruent with their

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masculinity and men who pretend to be something else, whether it be too soft or the toxic masculinity

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that the society tends to lean towards when you use the word masculine.

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>> Kenneth, you're five years of running with men and hearing their stories.

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I've been there with you on many of them to say that their intense would be an understatement.

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And you've mentioned to me there's two or three things that men come in there wanting.

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What are those?

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What do you usually see?

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>> Whether we're conscious of it or not, men are looking for challenge.

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They're looking for support and they're looking for accountability.

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And we find this in a lot of different ways.

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For a man that kind of, I want to say they do it part way.

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In the world of technology today, there's 2,600 million apps.

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I can get a Bible app where I can read my scripture every day and check off that I read

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my scripture.

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That doesn't replace having a spiritual director in my life.

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Somebody that then is on that walk with me challenging me to live what I'm reading.

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The only accountable of the things that I know that I have to do.

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Again, challenging accountability and supporter key for men in this day and age.

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Because we will rise with challenge.

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Any man will rise if he's challenged by another man.

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And when we're left to our own which again in this day and age, we know that the latest

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studies show that there's some 30% of men that can't say they have one friend.

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The loneliness that men are experiencing today is beyond anything that we've seen in history

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because we've been separated and told you should be able to do this on your own.

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Just Google it.

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You can get directions from the maps or just don't ask for directions that'll joke.

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You don't even stop and ask for directions.

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It takes a lot of courage for a man to stand up and ask for help.

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There's a statement, I believe I've heard you say, about vulnerability.

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It's the opposite of what we normally think of weakness but in a man it's considered what

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It is our core power.

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It is our superpower.

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He went down and was drawing in a sand as people around him were picking up rocks.

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I mean, how vulnerable can you be?

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How vulnerable can you be?

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He put himself in many, many, many situations in which is completely open and vulnerable.

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I just love the words he put together there.

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Jesus was incredibly vulnerable and just the image of him leaning, talking to the prostitute,

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And while other people were picking up rocks to probably have his head down and shoulders

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geared towards showing love and presence to a woman that was committing adultery and

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had, I don't know, gotten the very act.

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Got in the very act.

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Where was the man, by the way, in this story?

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Very peculiar situation, wasn't it?

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Man is so good at hiding.

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Yeah, that was a man that needs challenge, support and accountability.

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He needed to be pulled out into the street and made a count of two.

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And the other men around there obviously weren't doing that.

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We're challenged today with finding men to surround ourselves with that are willing

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to do things that may not be liked.

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What other challenge do most men come to you with?

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Not only if I've done thousands of one-on-one phone calls, Tim knows this.

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I do a lot of group coaching.

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I'm in charge of groups.

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Through that, I've seen and heard thousands of other men.

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We like to think that we're different.

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We like to think that my situation is weird or strange.

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We like to think that, oh, you can't help me because I'm too bad.

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I'm too far gone.

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I'm too far down.

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In reality, on the inside, we're all identical.

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The same thing keeps coming up over and over and over again for every man.

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If you talk to a man long enough and ask him enough questions,

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you will find out that deep down inside, he has those feelings of not being good enough,

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of being unworthy and being unlovable.

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pot and alcohol and gaming and all these things that we do to run from and not feel pain.

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It's the pain of those feelings we don't want to feel.

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So feeling not good enough, unworthy and unlovable, I know that you teach and have encouraged me

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to not get rid of but get with those feelings of not being good enough, not being worthy of love

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How do you get with those things?

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of course, if Stu said his left shoulder hurt, I'm going to say, Jesus asked you to take away

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this pain of stew that you'd heal it.

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Jesus name, thank you, we believe you and trust you.

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We go straight to the get rid of.

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Nothing wrong with it.

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People are healed all day long.

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Praise God.

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More of that, please.

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And it's a good thing and there's a power and prayer.

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And then the other side of that is God may not heal his shoulder because

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there's something that he's supposed to be learning from that ailment and he's going

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to have that ailment until he learns to listen.

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Oh, maybe God's telling me I need to slow down.

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Maybe God's trying to tell me to stop overworking.

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There's a message that his body is giving him through God that he's not paying attention

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He needs to learn that.

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They were healing others, but they couldn't heal themselves because God wanted them to have

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that pain in the side because they needed to be reminded.

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They needed that.

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So we need to be reminded that we have these feelings and I'll use a simple emotion

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of that everyone experiences.

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You can run from it.

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You can pretend it's not there, but until you actually feel it and go through that grieving

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process, it's not going away.

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I love that in the Jewish tradition, they have, I think, the word is sub-off, where it means

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to sit with somebody that's grieving, not to take their pain away, not to put your arm

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around them, not to pray that their pain goes away, but just to actually be in their space

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while they're feeling the emotion, while they're grieving and not to interfere with it.

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And at times we do interfere with each other's emotions when we stand back and let somebody

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feel what they need to feel.

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Kenneth, my dad, as you know, was a pastor and we would make hospital visits and he told

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me, Tim, the people that I visit will never remember what I told them, but they'll never

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forget that I came to the hospital and the sharing in that grief, just sitting with

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in a sub-bot, that's getting with, isn't it?

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I was just getting with feeling that emotion.

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This is common, I wasn't going to bring this up, we're talking about emotions.

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There's a wide variety of emotions, if you look at an emotional wheel, they make these

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emotional wheels, they're like 230-animations or some great number.

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And most people can name five or ten.

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We don't think about our experience, a wide range of emotions, most of us.

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want to feel down, I don't want to feel lonely, I don't want to feel not good enough, I

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don't want to feel unlovable, I want to feel joy, I want to feel happy,

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I want to feel peace, so I want these emotions, but not those emotions."

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Wow, who created emotions?

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God, God make anything that's bad, no, all emotions are good.

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We wouldn't be alive or feel alive if we had no emotions, we're all robots, if we would

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literally be a machine without emotions.

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I now literally love having sadness when it happens, I love when I'm feeling something

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anything, I don't put them in categories anymore, it's not good or bad emotions or all

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just emotions and they help me feel alive.

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I like that you put it that way because it's a bit like my wife just took her kids to

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And I love the first one I haven't gotten to see the second, I heard it was amazing, but

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what we treated is if they're good emotions and they're bad ones and if we want to be happy,

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get rid of the bad ones, only have the good ones all the time.

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And the movie, in a very simplistic way, but a clever way, puts it out there that it's

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like, no, without sadness, you can't truly have joy, you can't truly experience love and

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other things because you realize that those things allow you to process what's going on.

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I've heard it said, emotions make terrible leaders, but they're great followers, they

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should follow the truth.

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They should follow what the reality is and it's a bit like a check engine like coming

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If you just tape over that thing and you don't ever go, hey, I wonder what that was about,

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you're going to constantly have problems, but instead it's telling you, hey, there's something

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inside your heart that's telling you your emotions are the symptom, telling you something's

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And there's also emotions, energy and motion.

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Look, if I didn't have fear, I want to get out of the way of the train coming.

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There are absolutely reasons for emotion.

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Love.

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If I didn't have love, why would I stay with the same woman all my life?

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Man, she bothers me and she yells at me sometimes.

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As a parent of six kids without love, I know that none of them would be like today.

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None of them would be alive.

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I get emotions are so beautiful when experienced and not far, not battled with, trying to get rid

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of, like Tim was mentioning, trying to get rid of him is just causing you more pain.

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So we've been taught suffering is from the avoidance of suffering.

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Just described by our friend and your boss, I guess, your co-leader, David, as the exquisiteness

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repeat that.

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It's something like the exquisiteness of suffering and how he would never give that up now.

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I'm going to put it in a different context, David, but however, and this is a man that teaches

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many things.

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Tim and I can go on and on about what David teaches.

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The one thing that David says if he could teach the world, only one thing would be how to suffer.

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If every person in the world does knew how to suffer, we would have less suffering because

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again, a lot of suffering is created by people trying to get away from their suffering.

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But then we'd also learn from what it is that's trying to teach us because I don't have to

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go very far in a group of Christians, but to point to the cross.

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Again, suffering.

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We are called to suffer as Christians.

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There's a part of our journey that will include some suffering.

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Jesus isn't avoided.

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He didn't try to go around it.

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He didn't try to circumvent it.

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He didn't get drunk first.

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He didn't get high on something first to try to not feel it.

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Like he went in full force and felt everything that he needed to feel.

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Three days later, he rose again.

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Yes, he did.

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I have to do the suffering to rise again.

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I have to do the suffering to get to the other side where all the joy is and all the

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triumph is and where life is.

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I have to go through the suffering.

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I can't go around it.

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I can't avoid it.

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I can't pretend it's not there.

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These are things that we do.

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We all do it.

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We all do these things.

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So we get with.

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We go through instead of avoid and push away.

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The joy is found underneath.

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Until we get with, until we accept and even embrace the suffering, we end up never finding

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the joy underneath and the payoff, if you will.

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The lesson learned, the joy that comes from embracing that suffering is a gift.

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Again, the suffering comes from the avoidance of suffering and we spend so much time and

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so much energy to avoid the suffering.

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And money, we keep mine.

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We live in a world today that says if you're suffering in some way, there's a pill for

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Oh, you don't feel good enough about yourself by the new $75,000 pickup truck.

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If everything's not going well at home, grab your wife and kids and add to Disneyland, we

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live in a world today that says spend, spend, spend, buy, buy, buy.

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There is something that's going to make you feel better.

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It doesn't exist.

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I've studied marketing things and marketing tactics and marketing itself is always you expose

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and press into the pain point.

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They offer a solution that usually isn't really a solution.

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It's usually like, are you terrible at such and such?

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Take this pill or you'll be happy again.

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It's like, that didn't really solve the problem, but I forgot I had a problem in the first

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place.

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I love that you put it in terms of the cross because I have a friend.

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She wrote a song.

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She's a Christian recording artist and she wrote a song and the lyric was, the cross is

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on the way to joy.

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Every now and then that line will pop into my head when things are kind of difficult and

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I go, how about I press through?

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It's not run around, circumvent, bypass.

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It's no, you have to go through this in order to get to the other side.

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We occasionally in our bench group, we talk about the buffalo.

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The buffalo is the only animal on the planet that runs into the storm.

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All the other animals are trying to get away from it.

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They're out trying to outrun it and storms don't go away.

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They're obviously going to get clobbered by it at some point.

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But the buffalo are smart enough to know if you run towards the storm, you get to the other

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side of it much quicker.

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They go right through the middle of it and then they're on the other side where there's

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no rain, there's no wind, there's no tornado.

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They get to the other side much quicker than the rest of the animals.

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I think they're pretty smart.

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Thank you for that visual.

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I've always heard the way of the buffalo to know that they're running towards it, to get

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to the other side because that's where the calm and the sunshine is contained.

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You had mentioned in the context of the things that we're talking about that I think will

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be very applicable to men trying and working towards, not trying, walking towards being the

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men that God has created and to be.

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There's a couple of scriptures that you love that should be very helpful if you're loving

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them, considering what you do.

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What are those?

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In my coaching, especially when I'm coaching Christian men, in the beginning, I love to bring

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up the scripture.

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There's a Pharisee that's questioning Jesus.

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What are the main commandments?

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Jesus says, "All of the law are in these two."

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Love God with all your heart, mind and soul.

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Love your neighbor as yourself.

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If you ask a man, if you don't love yourself, is your neighbor going to feel loved?

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The answer would be no.

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The journey here for us men are to truly love ourselves.

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It's right there in scripture.

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If you look up that particular scripture, love your neighbor yourself.

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I don't remember.

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It's 13 or 14 times, founded in the Bible, in the scripture, starting in the Old Testament.

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I think it's important.

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And Jesus repeats it.

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I think it's even more important to look at the scripture.

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Now unfortunately, I've been to church most of my life.

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I've heard a lot of sermons on the scripture, but they usually stop at loving your neighbor

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and what that's all about and how to love God.

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And they kind of drop off that last part as yourself.

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That's a little pet peeve of mine about the church and pastors.

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And generally, we don't talk about this self-care enough.

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We don't talk about how important it is to love yourself because here's the other part.

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You ask a man.

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I'll ask him, "Do you love God?"

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Yes.

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Did God create you?

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Yes, sir.

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Why wouldn't you love his creation?

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Yes, sir.

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This will separate you from God.

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If you don't love his creation, there's a disconnect.

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You don't love his creation.

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You're not going to have that fully plugged in power of the Holy Spirit.

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If you don't love yourself, how are you going to be a part of the body of Christ?

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Because as a body, we move.

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As a body, there's a huge power in that.

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But I'm going to disconnect myself from the body.

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If I don't love myself, I'm no longer part of what God created, which is all of us creating

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his image.

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Here again, I might say something that might sound really easy, but it's really hard.

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It is really hard for men today to seek out help, to reach their hand out, to strond themselves

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with other men.

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They're willing to challenge them, support them, hold them accountable, to help them see who

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they really are, to live more congruently.

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Because every man's an individual, I'll never be Tim.

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Tim's never going to be me.

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We're all beautifully made as an individual.

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We need to find out who that is, who did God create me to be?

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What are my gifts and my giving notes to the world in a manner which pleases God?

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And it's all connected, but it's all going to come right back to that.

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All the big funnels, all the problems we can have, all the addictions that we have, the

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funnel, the funnel, funnel.

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I don't believe I'm good enough.

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I don't feel I'm lovable and then I don't love myself.

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That's at the core of it.

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And why in the world of men's work or men's coaching, as long as you're focused on the man,

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and helping him see who he is at a much, much deeper level and heal from a lot of past traumas

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and wounds that we all carry around, starting with our parents.

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We all have mommy and daddy things that go on in our lives.

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Bringing forth that man into mature, vulnerable, masculine leadership.

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And men at the time would change the face of the earth.

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Yes, sir.

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And it's always time for that.

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It's always been time for that.

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It just seems to have been elevated that it is an absolute time and necessity that we do

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that now.

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And Hebrews, it talks about the now season is to step through a window or an opening with

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power. And in this window is open right now where the country needs us, women need us,

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our sisters needs, our mothers need us, our wife needs us, our daughters need us to operate

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in the responsibility that God has put upon us and in us to be the man that we're created

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to be, to be the masculine.

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It's not chest beaten.

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It's not hear me roar.

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Although sometimes that will possibly call for you on some days.

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The majority of the time is to show up present, to speak in love and graciousness and yet truth.

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Truth brings freedom in your household.

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It brings freedom in your body.

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It brings freedom right here and right now.

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We're speaking truth and a wonderful power of freedom to encourage young men to be the

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men that they're created to be right now in this time, in this day, and to stand up to rise

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into your biblical masculine.

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It's actually our responsibility to not believe the lies that because you are masculine,

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you are toxic, unbelievably untrue.

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There are numerous ways to entrain this.

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There's opportunities even on the website to help you.

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That's what we're here for.

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There is no charge for what we do.

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Our charge is to remind you who you are and who you're created to be and who you're created

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right now to represent.

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That's the power and the presence that God has put on you, the giftings, the leadership

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to wear that.

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Not as an ill-fit coat that's been tailored by culture.

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But to just live into the masculine leader that you are.

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Kenneth, if you take it from here, what we've done is we've always and we'll always encourage

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young men to start the journey.

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If they're going to be the man that created to be understand, to know, to love, and to accept

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Jesus because he is their creator.

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How in the world are we going to know what we're created to do without knowing our creator?

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Will you take that from here and help young men understand what that means today for

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them right now?

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Being created in God's image just that it's important and to understand who is God and who

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is the creator.

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We're all called as men to be the priest of our homes.

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And that can be as a single man.

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It can be as a father and husband.

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It can be in any form of fashion.

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We're called to be priests as men, not just in a religious context where you're serving

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of the parish of your church, where you're ministering and teaching, but just for a couple

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of visuals, the man at home at 10 o'clock at night, after he put his kids to bed, on his

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knees praying for his family, that is powerful.

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That's power.

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That's enough power to change the world.

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And then there are men.

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One of my favorite scenes that I've seen is that over in Greece, this was probably 10

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years ago, there are huge riots.

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And on one side of the street there's a lot of thousands of rioters.

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And on the other side of the street are several hundred police officers in battle gear ready

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to go beat on these people.

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And then the medal is one Greek Orthodox priest standing in between these two groups.

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And it brings tears to my eyes because that is masculinity.

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That is love.

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That's vulnerability.

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He was being Jesus in that moment.

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But for a moment, whatever that was, he brought peace to that scene.

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And things stopped.

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It was mind blowing.

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It was absolutely mind blowing.

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And we're not all here to save millions or whatever it is.

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We might be called just to say that one person next to us.

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I love mother trees or for that.

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How am I supposed to help all these people?

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You're not.

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You're supposed to just help the person that's closest to you.

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But really, really, really simple just to reach your hand out and help the person that's closest

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to you.

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And how that would change the world.

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I don't want to get lost in who God is for everyone.

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I know that I'm created in my God's image, my creator's image in a way that I'm meant here

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to be of service.

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I'm here to help my fellow man.

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There's a ripple effect.

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And they go out and they help somebody.

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And then they help somebody.

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It doesn't take millions and millions of people doing it.

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It just takes a handful to change the world, which I believe that you two men are doing.

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So thank you for the work that you're doing.

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Yes, sir.

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And it's thank you for doing what you do, brother.

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Stuart, your presence here, your help with what is going on here, your friendship, your

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consistency, and your calmness has always been a blessing to me.

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It helps me a lot.

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00:26:51,140 --> 00:26:52,940
Thank you for that.

479
00:26:52,940 --> 00:26:59,500
As Kenneth has said, it's one person at a time reaching out and helping one person at a time,

480
00:26:59,500 --> 00:27:04,540
beautiful story unfolds from there when you take that particular responsibility.

481
00:27:04,540 --> 00:27:08,180
What about the people that have never decided to be that person?

482
00:27:08,180 --> 00:27:09,900
They've maybe never met Jesus.

483
00:27:09,900 --> 00:27:11,980
What would you tell that guy?

484
00:27:11,980 --> 00:27:15,340
Well, I would tell him the great thing is the gospel.

485
00:27:15,340 --> 00:27:19,500
You said it the season of now and right now is the time.

486
00:27:19,500 --> 00:27:22,220
Peter talks about it today is the day of salvation.

487
00:27:22,220 --> 00:27:25,460
The things that you've done in the past were enough.

488
00:27:25,460 --> 00:27:30,100
Your season of sin, your season of chaos and all that is over.

489
00:27:30,100 --> 00:27:36,000
It can stop now and you are invited right now into the kingdom and that it's not you working

490
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:40,540
your way and earning something, but that it's a ticket that has been paid in a price that

491
00:27:40,540 --> 00:27:43,780
has been purchased by the blood of Jesus.

492
00:27:43,780 --> 00:27:49,880
If his blood covers you and you have your faith in that, then his resurrection also gives

493
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,780
you that new life that he promises.

494
00:27:52,780 --> 00:27:53,780
That is something I would say.

495
00:27:53,780 --> 00:27:55,180
It's like you can pray that right now.

496
00:27:55,180 --> 00:28:00,180
You can ask Christ to redeem you right now, put your faith in what he has done.

497
00:28:00,180 --> 00:28:02,220
Stop living for yourself.

498
00:28:02,220 --> 00:28:09,600
You can't redeem yourself, but Christ can begin to make you the moment you receive a new

499
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:10,840
creation.

500
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:15,580
That is that power, that everything being made in God's image, all of this is possible because

501
00:28:15,580 --> 00:28:16,580
of the blood of the Lamb.

502
00:28:16,580 --> 00:28:20,040
It says, we overcome because of that.

503
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,640
That is what I would say to that person.

504
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:23,640
Beautiful.

505
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:28,120
If there are young men out there that would like to take that step, it's a simple prayer.

506
00:28:28,120 --> 00:28:35,080
It's humbling yourself, dropping your pride that is just a self-protection of your ego.

507
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,080
That's the first thing that gets to go right now is your pride.

508
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:44,160
If you'd like to drop your pride and say, God's favorite words, Jesus loves these words,

509
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:47,520
these three words, God, I need you.

510
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,840
Those four words, I need you.

511
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:52,400
I need you.

512
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:59,000
For those men that are willing to admit they need God, you can ask them right now.

513
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:04,640
You say, dear Jesus, I see you would step out of heaven and into my heart.

514
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,560
Thank you for dying on the cross for me.

515
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:09,760
Thank you for suffering.

516
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:17,520
Thank you Jesus that you did that before I even knew you, before I even knew I needed you.

517
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:25,840
Thank you for coming to life again after you died in my place and I give you my heart and

518
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:27,680
my life and my will.

519
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:32,080
In Jesus' name, I will serve you for the rest of my life.

520
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:35,800
Please use me to help others.

521
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:39,320
Please use me to do your will.

522
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:41,520
I hand you the pen.

523
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:45,840
You're the new author, the new boss of my life.

524
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:47,720
In Jesus' name, I pray.

525
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:48,720
Amen.

526
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:49,720
Amen.

527
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:56,000
You guys, if you prayed that prayer with us, just go to the very bottom of standupdo.com site

528
00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:00,200
and you'll say a button called Be More and that's where some tools are there.

529
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:06,040
A growth path to help you become the man that God has made you to be.

530
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:07,920
Thank you for being here, Kenneth.

531
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,040
You are an inspiration to us.

532
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:11,880
Thank you for being the man that you are.

533
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:16,920
Thank you for caring and having the heart that is doing that one man at a time.

534
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:17,920
It's not easy.

535
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:18,920
I see that.

536
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:19,920
I know that.

537
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:20,920
I hear it.

538
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,080
Brother, you're standing in that gap.

539
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,880
You're that guy in that middle of that street going, it's okay.

540
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:28,840
Let me hold presence for you.

541
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:33,400
That's what that man did and that's what you do for men all day long.

542
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,000
That is huge, brother.

543
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,200
I hope I never get used to that.

544
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:38,920
So thank you, everybody.

545
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546
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