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- What's up everybody?
Welcome to F-C-O-L.
- Hey Stephanie.
- Hi.
- It's so good to see you this weekend.
- I know, so fun.
- We had a great weekend.
- We have the best time at Pat.
- We're literally where we are.
Look how beautiful it looks.
They put it back together.
- Yeah, our studio, yes.
It's nice and clean because it was over the weekend,
like the green room for the party.
- Yes, yes.
- As Patrick had a party on Saturday.
Our friend Patrick Hickey from Bad TV,
shout out Bad TV.
He had a party, okay.
So there's so much funny about this party.
So Patrick invited me to this.
It was billed as a music festival.
- Uh-huh.
And I guess this was the second year?
I didn't come last year.
- Yeah.
He did like a couple of years ago,
he did his backyard like the Hollywood,
but comes Patrick loves the Hollywood Bowl.
And so I think it was like a year after COVID
or like, I don't know, like 18 months after COVID.
He had like a backyard gathering small
and he had like, he made it like the Hollywood Bowl.
So everybody was eating like outside
and then the band was playing outside.
And then he loved it.
And then yes, last year he did one,
but he had like two bands play I think
and it really wasn't focused on kids.
Although there were kids there, it was like a family,
but it was like a mixture of kids and adults
and then there was a DJ guy playing music
and there was karaoke, but that wasn't,
I don't think when was the karaoke,
when was you in Robin there the year before
when you guys, that was a karaoke party though.
Yeah, that wasn't the like music festival.
- That wasn't a music festival.
- That was different.
Okay.
- It's just like a summer party.
- Okay.
Was it a fourth of July party?
No, I think it was just a summer party.
- This was a summer party.
- Yeah.
So anyway, yeah, this was the second year of doing
like bands playing in the backyard, inviting like parents
and their kids.
So I didn't, I mean, I assume that there would be
a lot of kids because Patrick's kids are young.
They're like Kaelin's kids age.
- Mm-hmm.
- Well, the older Ellie is the same age
as Kaelin's older daughter.
- Right.
And then Patrick has a baby, the baby is not quite too.
- Mm-hmm.
- Okay, so he told me he's having this music festival
and I said, hey, do you want to have Zander's band?
I just threw it out there because he had,
he literally had planned a couple gigs over the summer.
Zander's band called GuyLiner.
So Patrick was like, yeah, absolutely.
So Chris Luxemann is playing and then there's a band
called Beat Buds.
Now when you think Beat Buds, you think like,
Stoner, I was thinking like Reggae music.
I don't know.
I'm thinking Buds, right?
I'm thinking like, yeah, some kind of sort of Stoner
fun party music, right?
- Right, right.
- Hey, it's the Beat Buds, right?
That's what I'm thinking.
So he said, so the Beat Buds will play first
and then Zander's band can they do three songs after.
I was like, yeah.
So Zander was all into it.
So we get here for the party and it is like so many little kids.
It was like like romper room.
I mean, the backyard, all blankets on the ground
was kind of a BYUB and people were eating,
sitting on blankets and little kids like five and six
for three or five, yes.
Yes, yes.
We're just mosh pitting it up in the front of the stage.
Yeah.
- So, but meanwhile, my kids came to Soundcheck early, right?
There's no sign of the Beat Buds, but Chris is there, right?
Chris is there.
He does his Soundcheck, super professional.
And then like I said, my kids came and they brought,
they plugged in their amps like little professionals.
Meanwhile, we're all like, where's the Beat Buds?
Where are the Beat Buds at?
So we just don't know what to expect.
Well, suddenly the Beat Buds arrive at its two guys
and they're both wearing like green t-shirts
that say Beat Buds on it.
Still don't really get,
I don't get what's about to happen.
- Right.
- What it turns out, as you know, is that this is like a
fresh beat band.
This is like a newer version of the fresh beat band.
- Yes.
- They've been around.
They're apparently super popular.
- Patrick hired them.
- Okay.
- Yeah, Patrick paid them.
They're not like struggling musicians trying to do a fun gig.
- Right.
- They're like a very popular kids band.
- I didn't know that.
- Patrick bought them and then invited all these kids.
Do you remember when my kids were a little
and I would tell you I would take them to see Gwendolyn?
- Yeah.
- I took them to see the fresh beat band.
There's another Yo Gabba Gabba type.
- Oh yeah, the Yo Gabba.
- It's kids music.
- Right.
- So it was so funny because they're doing like the parachute.
- Yeah, kids and the wheels and them.
- It's like a round end.
- It's a fucking kids party.
So at first I was just like, oh no,
how's this gonna go for, you know,
my kids are about to sing like Oasis, the chair.
- Yeah, yeah, you're right, right, right.
- They're gonna rock, right, right.
But and then the under was like,
you, it's all good, it's fun.
- You text me and you're like, you were here
and I was like, I'll be there by this time.
And then I text you and I'm like,
I'm in the Uber on my way and I'm thinking I'm gonna miss
Zander because I thought Zander was gonna be playing first
so I didn't know the beep buds were playing.
- Oh yeah, the beep buds were the main part.
- I didn't know that.
So I'm like, can you like step on it
and I had this like slowest driver,
like people on the freeway were platforming me
and I said something in my text you.
I was like, I'd rather just gotta do I at this fucking point.
I just wanna get to the fucking party.
Like Suzanne's on her way to meet me there.
- Oh yeah, well that's because I was like,
I don't know that you really needed to Uber.
I was like, that's what you saw.
- Oh yeah, drinking event.
- Right, and you're like, I don't know, yeah.
You really like, there's all, it's all four year old.
Not a lot of boo's going and I was like, oh, okay.
- Well, not saying that they didn't have alcohol
that you couldn't drink, but I was like, I don't know how fun it's,
I don't know who's like,
- It's like party-ing really.
- Yeah, they didn't expect it.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I mean, I knew there were gonna be a lot of kids there
and I knew it was gonna be like a rager
people doing shots and stuff, but you know,
it's a barbecue you have a couple beers
and I don't wanna take the risk, but yeah, you're like,
there's just all, it's a sea, it was a sea of little kids.
- Oh yeah, it was so funny.
But once I adjusted to the fact that I was like,
this is gonna be silly fun.
It's gonna be fine.
So then you arrived with Suzanne.
You give a Suzanne.
Okay, so you walk in, you're like, I'm here.
I see you in the driveway.
I see your blonde friend and I know Suzanne
to be blonde.
Now keep in mind I've met Suzanne one time
unless it was freaking Jody, but I know Suzanne
at your house in the Hollywood Hills.
- Uh-huh.
- Two houses ago.
And she had super short blonde hair at the time.
Do you remember?
- She'd never had short hair.
- Then maybe she was wearing like, she could have had it.
- I don't know, but okay, so I'm like, okay, so yeah,
she's like, you know, it's been like 10 years
since I met her at least.
So she walks in and I was like super happy to meet her
you know, and I was like, hey, Suzanne, I was like,
oh my God, I go, I'm Stephanie, I'm, you know, Stephanie.
And she's like, hi, and I said, yeah, I go, I have not seen you.
I go, I've met you at her house
when it was in the Hollywood Hills, like by the reservoir.
And she was like, oh my God, that's so funny.
So I was like, yeah, well, it's good to see you again,
you know, and she goes, I know you too.
So then life goes on, we're all hanging out.
And then another woman comes up to me and she's like,
oh my gosh, hi, she's like, I'm Suzanne.
(laughing)
- It's like a totally different person.
And I was like, wait, what?
(laughing)
Who's, who's that other lady who I was talking to?
She was like, what?
I don't know what you're talking about.
I was like, well, I met fake Suzanne.
(laughing)
That is, did not fucking correct me
when I was called her Suzanne
and told her when I last saw her.
She just nodded.
- She, I didn't know.
Okay, first of all, I didn't come with Suzanne.
Suzanne got here like 15, 20 minutes after I got here.
- Oh my God.
- Yeah.
So that girl did walk in after I noticed
that she was walking in the same time I walked in.
- Uh-huh.
- But yeah, that was not Suzanne.
- Yeah, I thought you guys were Uber together.
(laughing)
- So I was like, of course, that's Suzanne.
You only were walking up the driveway
with one blonde person.
- Right, right, right, right, right.
How did this bitch not correct me though?
- I don't even know.
And then you're like, so then you're like,
there's fake Suzanne.
- Yeah.
- And I was like, and she was like looking at a smiling face.
- I know.
- And I was like, who is she?
She kind of looked a little familiar,
but I don't know if she was.
Because maybe she was like, should I know her?
Like, yeah, she was probably like,
she was probably like, I don't wanna be like,
I don't know who you are.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, she wanna be rude.
I guess, I do feel like I said Suzanne though.
I was pretty confident that she was,
I mean, I wasn't questioning it at all.
I was like, yeah, that's there Suzanne.
- Right, right.
(laughing)
She's gonna be very happy to make my acquaintance again.
(laughing)
Yeah, she did keep staring at us.
And she was like, yeah, she was staring at us.
And, no, yeah, then Suzanne came with her boyfriend.
Who she met on match.
- Right, like five years ago.
- Who's so nice.
- He's super sweet.
- He's adorable.
- Yeah, I loved him.
- Yeah, he was really nice.
And she just moved in with him, right?
Because they had to wait for their kids to grow up.
- Yep.
He raised four kids.
- Yeah.
- So, she lives way far away now.
She's like in the city.
And so they came separate.
And they're, and no, he drove, he drove.
But yeah, and then Suzanne was like,
oh my God, Stephanie's kids are freaking awesome.
She's like, they are so sweet and so polite.
And that Elby, she kept talking about Elby
'cause we went out after dinner, we went had dinner.
And she's like, that Elby is unbelievable.
Like, she is not like a kid.
The things that come out of her mouth,
I go, you know, she wants to be a therapist.
She goes, I could totally see that.
Like, she would be great.
- Except that I don't think she wants to be a therapist.
- She is. - I think that.
She was like, oh, help people, shmell people.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- I wanna be in the entertainment bit.
I don't, she doesn't know what she wants to do.
- Right, right.
- And then she was like, say he was so cute.
And then she was like, and Zander had such a great personality.
He was so funny.
And he was fucking rocked.
Like he was so good.
Even Ray was like, yeah.
Like, they're good.
So it was really cute because,
so the beat beds go up and they're full on kids music.
And we were like, okay, interesting.
They played for a long time because they were paid.
- Yeah, now they did play for a long time.
- A long, long time, which was the kid,
which was all for the kids.
- Right.
- So then they finished and then Zander and his band
got up there and they just did their thing.
And it was so cute.
They played a replacement song.
- I know.
- Cause John loves their replacements.
- Yeah.
- And so they did a replacement song.
And I saw a lot of adults like, all right.
- I like this.
- Yeah, you felt really proud of them.
And then they did, the next song was Zander's original song.
- Right.
- And he wrote and the lyrics and they all played that.
And then they played an Oasis song.
- Right.
- Oh, yeah, that one.
- Yeah.
- That one.
So then, yeah.
Every Patrick was like, holy shit, they were so good.
- Yeah, I know.
I know.
A lot of people were like, I love when I saw
the adults rocking out to them.
- I know.
- That was the best.
Like when they were like, what?
The adults were like, wow.
Patrick sent me a text that night and he goes, honestly,
a guy liner was the highlight of the night.
And then he said, are they available?
He said I might have a birthday party for them to perform.
- Oh, really?
- And then I was like, yeah, where and when
and he goes, hold on, getting the details.
And then I haven't heard from him.
- Yeah.
All right.
But watch Patrick be like their road manager.
- I know.
- I could see that.
- So Patrick was in a boy band, right?
- Yes.
And they were kind of popular?
- I guess so.
He's from Boston, you know, he like the Boston area.
And I kind of want to look it up.
- You know the name of it?
Of his boy band?
- Patrick, I'm looking him up.
His name's not.
Well, there's a Patrick Hickey soccer player.
That's not him.
It does a Patrick Hickey park.
I'm gonna write boy band.
- I don't know.
I think they were famous.
I can't remember.
I've heard the story a few times,
but I think they were famous more in his in the local scene
around where he was like in the Boston area.
And I just remember seeing picture of him
and his hair was like dyed like blonde
and like tip like frosted tips and stuff.
- Oh, hilarious.
- Yeah.
- How Patrick Hickey is one of the nicest people.
- Yeah, he is.
- He really is.
- How was he so nice in giving?
And then like, I mean, I've known him for so long now.
I first for a while, I was like,
there's something going on with him.
What does he want?
Why is he so nice?
Like, I was just, you know, 'cause he kinda,
I don't remember how he met,
but he wanted to do business with Corolla Drinks and stuff.
And I was just like, this guy's so smart.
And then I got to know him really well
and then worked with him, then hired him.
And I know.
And now like just dear friends with him to this day.
And he's just him and his wife,
they're this really like the sweet most down to earth.
Like just always up for sure.
Hey, yeah, like that's what I loved about Patrick.
When you're especially you're running an alcohol business
where there's like red tape galore, you know,
he's like, all right, that didn't work.
Let's figure something out.
How about we do that?
You know, he's a problem solver.
He will always be upbeat and always be willing
to try and find a solution to something
which is what you want when you're working with somebody.
And then he's just the most friendly as person.
And like funny and just sweet kind.
And I love his wife.
She's so nice.
She's super sweet.
And she like last time this year was it last?
I don't know.
I remember one party he had and she was like nine months pregnant.
And I was just like my and with a toddler.
And they're saying, you know, it's a huge party going in the house.
And I was like, you must be wanting to like just shut this party
down any minute.
And she's like, no, it's fine.
Like we love to entertain.
I was like, okay, I don't, but you guys do you like all come to your parties?
They love they like to have parties.
I know.
Yeah.
He was like, he's just he's just very kind.
And he was just going on and on about
the Sanders band and they're so talented and it was really cute.
Yeah.
And they're loved it.
Did he?
Yeah.
And he said people or other people are coming up and being like, you were so you were really
good.
Yeah.
Sounded professional.
They sounded like a real band.
They did.
They sounded like a real band.
He's great voice.
The instruments.
They played great.
They sounded great.
I liked watching them rock out to Laxamana's band to Chris's band, Laxie.
Well, that's what I was going to say too is I know you've been going to them for years.
I mean, you've seen them play, but I'd never hurt them.
You've never seen them.
I mean, I feel like they played the barbecue, but I don't, but I feel like.
You really pay attention.
No, I might have left before they played because it was a, like, a long lead up before they
play because I watched, I know I saw Dawson play.
Right.
So, yeah, they were always like the headliner.
Yeah.
Yeah, they're, they're great.
And people don't expect it because Chris is such like this, you know, quiet, very studious,
very sweet kid.
And then he gets up there and he's just rocking out and he's like singing with passion.
His voice is amazing.
He's so good.
Mm-hmm.
You're like, how's this cute little guy?
Like little teddy bear looking guy is suddenly like singing like, you know, sonny used to come
hourly, hourly.
Because Chris would, Chris would go on trips with Sonny and Adam when they would go to
like a Monterey and Chris would have to be there working and he would always look out
for Sonny and, you know, like, take care of Sonny and Sonny had an owl, stuffy.
Oh.
And he was like, you know, looks like Chris.
Put the big eyes.
Yeah.
So I love Chris.
I have a special spot in my heart for Chris.
Yeah.
It's a sweet heart.
Dawson seemed more, a little more like cleaned up.
He did.
Right?
I haven't seen him in years and I only saw him for a second.
Yeah.
I came in and gave my, he was the first person I saw and he's like, you just miss bald
Brian.
And I was like, ah, because I didn't know bald Brian was, he was at the party.
He was not for very long.
I think they had something else to do.
Yeah.
But as I told you, all Brian seemed like he was doing great.
Yeah.
Good.
Yeah.
Which is crazy, right?
I mean, he's had brain cancer for like, a ton of years, right?
Yeah.
Twelve years, something.
Yeah.
Over 12 years.
13.
I think it may be been 17 years or something like that by now.
Yeah.
Where he got a diagnosis that wasn't looking good.
Yeah.
And he only had like a couple of months.
Yeah.
He seemed great.
He seemed good.
As good.
He was, was totally normal.
Good.
Yeah.
And by my wisdom, I know.
It was such a funny crowd because it was like a few, corolla people, you know?
But then like tons of like moms and dads and little kids and little kids, tons of little
kids.
Yeah.
And then it was really cute because so it's just funny having high school kids in a band
because the parents are really proud.
Right.
So we do these shows at school as you know that we that are like fundraisers for the school
and all the parents come.
But the guy, the drummer guy, who names Jacob, he's just like adorable.
He's very tall.
Yeah.
And I always thought, I was bummed for Xander because I'm like, oh, he's graduating and Xander's
like, no, he's a freshman.
I was like, what?
So anyway, that guy is in their band now.
He's their drummer.
He was in their music program and he did grease with my kids when he did grease.
But anyway, so the mom, the parents of the guy with the hat, the guitarist with the hat
who's saying the oasis song, she came, like the parents basically came and then Jacob, the
drummer's dad was there with the brother.
I didn't know that.
So there were like randos, but I asked Patrick, I was like, is it, would it be possible
the parents of some of the band members want to come?
Right.
And he's like, of course, everybody is welcome, right?
I didn't think they'd come, but they were all like, it was just funny.
Is this funny?
I don't even know that they're parents are there.
That's cute.
And they blended because they're sort of the same age as everybody else.
Yeah, yeah, but it was just cute.
That's so cute.
And then they, like the dad of the drummer was like, thank you for doing this.
Like, like the kids are, like, my son is like, so happy.
He's really been wanting to like be in a band and this, like, is, is so great for him.
And I know it's really nice to see your kids like, do a thing.
I'm sure they have the same way about Sonny's podcast.
Yeah, it is.
It's cool.
It's cool when, when adults are like appreciative of whatever your kid is doing, whether it's watching
volleyball and they're like, oh, Natalia, a nice one, you know, or whatever.
And like watching your kid play in a band, you know, in the backyard and watching other
parents going, wow, looking at each other and like rocking out going, these guys are good.
It's got, it's a great feeling.
I know.
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I know.
So yeah.
So, yeah, so I, it's so funny being, I know I'm not old, but I do feel, I feel, I've been,
it's been catching up with me a little bit.
I even felt like just being in the sun.
You're so keen, Stephanie, by the way, you were, Stephanie was wearing this elastic flowery
headband because it was like supposed to be like a 60s.
Yeah.
You got some shit from party city that was like, yeah, elastic thing.
Yes.
Now, I didn't know that.
I didn't see any of that.
Yeah.
So you were wearing that.
I mean, I saw other people wearing it.
And then you had little crystals on your cheeks, which I forgot about.
And then I was like laying down later that evening.
And there was like, I was like, what is on my face?
Like, I have like a growth on my face.
And then it came off.
And I was like, Oh, I forgot to take the crystals off my face.
Yeah.
They, they, they lasted.
I don't need alcohol.
I'm high on my, right?
Yeah.
So I was so tired because it was hot.
Yeah.
And then I was like, how do people like, how did I used to do this?
I know.
And I, being outside, you know, all day, the thing is, is that on Saturday, it was so hot
leading up to the weekend.
And it actually cooled.
It was cooler than usual.
But it was still flipping hot out there in the backyard.
Yeah.
And not a lot of shade at sometimes, you know, not a lot of shade.
But yeah, how do we, I mean, you know, I had a couple beers and then that was that, you
know, and the party was from four to seven.
So it was, it was over.
Oh, it was really supposed to be over by seven.
Oh, it was over when the bands were, when, when Laxie was done playing, it was, you
know, Pete, like Suzanne is very like hyper.
Sensitive, especially of the host of the party and other moms, like she's loves kids.
She loves moms.
You know, she's just one of the, like, she's like, I always wanted to be a stay home mom.
Anyway, so she like saw Sheree and she's like, I think Sheree wants to like wrap it up.
So we should get going.
And yeah, I mean, everybody was done.
Yeah, everybody was breaking it down and getting out.
So Suzanne is very normal.
I was so happy to talk to, I was just like, Oh, she is down to earth.
She is.
It's so cute that you guys have been literally friends since you were in high school.
Junior high, junior high school.
Mm-hmm.
Well, she was in sixth grade.
I was in eighth grade.
Yeah.
Because our school, right, was kindergarten through 12, right?
And we met because she was wearing a Bruce Springsteed shirt in the lunch line.
Well, she never liked me because I was on a bus with one of her best friends.
And I would stick up for like whenever there was this one girl name, I don't want to say her
whole, well, Wendy Lodge, I don't know.
Anyway, she was on our bus and she was in Suzanne's grade.
And I was somehow, like, me and my girlfriends were like the protector of the little sixth
grader.
And she would tell me like Suzanne and her friends would like pick on her.
So I would be like, Hey, leave Wendy Lodge alone, you know?
And Suzanne would like just stare at me like fuck that bitch, you know?
And then so we were in lunch line one day and just standing there and she's, I'm, she's
wearing the river concert shirt Bruce Springsteen because her mom went the night before.
This was in the 80s.
Brought her some merch.
And brought her some merch.
And I'm standing in the lunch line and I'm giving her a dirty look and then I look down
and I see she's wearing Bruce Springsteen and I was like, wait, what?
And because my brother loved Bruce and at our school, nobody fucking talked about Bruce
Springsteen.
Everybody talked about the Randoran and, you know, Van Halen and it was all that.
No Bruce Springsteen.
So I was like, wait, what?
You like Bruce Springsteen?
Because I at that point never met anybody outside of my household that liked Bruce Springsteen
because of her my brother because I, and then me, I like loved his albums.
So I'm like, you like Bruce Springsteen and she's like, yeah, you like Bruce Springsteen?
And I was like, yeah.
And that was it.
Like best friends for the rest of the time.
About that Wendy Lodge, bitch.
She likes the Randoran.
She doesn't even know Bruce Springsteen is.
Yeah, that's how he became best friends.
And we told Bruce that story when we met him.
Oh, really?
Yes, we did.
At the sagebrush canteen, we told him she's like, you gotta tell him.
We gotta go and say hi and you gotta tell him how he met how he became friends.
I didn't know you met him at the sagebrush canteen, huh?
Yeah, met him at the sagebrush.
I met him a couple times, but the very first time I know about the one that wounded at the
beacon theater.
Yeah, yeah.
We were in the green room with him for a while, like 45 minutes, right?
Yes.
I know about that time, but yeah, the sagebrush.
So we were wet, we went and watched football Sunday at the sagebrush.
Like how long ago is this?
This was like in the 90s, like 94 or something.
So he was huge.
He was huge.
Yes, yes, yes.
And it was, oh, it was 95.
It was a year after the earth, 94 earthquake because, and I'll tell you, so we get to the
sagebrush and Suzanne, I tell Suzanne and her pre, her boyfriend, but then became husband
at the time.
Okay.
Like you guys go get tables, I'll go to the bar, I'll get in line at the bar and then
come meet me at the bar.
So I get in line and then I look over and I see Bruce sitting at the bar, sitting at the
bar, like everybody else just having a beer with a baseball hat on, talking to the guys
next to him.
And it was a packed place and nobody was bothering him.
He was just hanging out and I had to do a double take.
I was like, we, what, what?
I cannot believe what I'm seeing.
And I, I, I left and I went and found Suzanne and I don't, I remember this.
And I don't know why I was laughing uncontrollably.
I go, Suzanne, Suzanne, Suzanne, Bruce, for Hancy, is that the bar, Bruce, Bruce?
And she's like, no, he's not, no, he's not.
No, he's not.
Somebody looks like Bruce.
I go, no, no, come, come with me, come with me.
We go to the bar and I go and she like looks like she saw ghost and she goes, oh,
shit.
Oh my God.
And then she started crying.
Oh my God.
She started tearing up.
Okay.
She goes like, let me have, we have to talk to him.
She's like, I don't, I can't, she goes, I can't, I can't talk to him.
I go, I'll talk to him.
I'll talk to him and she goes, wait, wait, what are you going to say?
And I go, I don't know we're going to say hi.
She goes, tell him how we met.
And I was like, okay.
Like, you know, I was like, all right, I got it, you know?
So we walk over and we're like, hi, Bruce.
We just really had to say hi.
We're the biggest Bruce Springsteafans.
Like we grew up listening to you and we just, we were at all your concerts and then he was
like, oh, that's, that's really nice.
And he smiles, turns around in his seat to talk to us and he's smiling.
And I was, he's like, that's really, that's really nice.
You guys grow up out here.
And I was like, actually, we were became best friends because of you because that's the only
thing I could think of.
So I tell that story.
And after I tell him the story, he goes, well, I take my hat off to you girls.
And then he says, then he says, did you grow up out here and he said, we had to leave California
because of the 94 earthquake.
Like after the earthquake, we couldn't take it.
And that's when we were like, I live in chats or then I was right near the epicenter of
the earthquake and blah, blah, blah.
And we talked to him for a few minutes and that was it.
And there was no cell phones to take pictures or anything back then.
But then we like, oh my God, we could die happy.
We got on the, the pay phone at the sagebrush to call Suzanne sister, Danny, who is a huge
spring season.
And we just met Bruce Springsteen at the sagebrush.
And it was just a glorious day.
We came home, we blasted born to run.
It was a Sunday night.
We had to get to work in the next morning.
We were like, up late, like doing shots, listening to Bruce like, oh my God, with the
best day of our life.
Yeah.
That is so funny.
So when you met him years later, did you remind, did you remind him or were you just like,
is it never going to remember?
No, because then it was now, like fast forward, 2011.
And I'm like at the beacon theater with John Stewart, right?
Who takes me to introduce me to him.
And they're doing like a, they're doing stand up for heroes, a charity event.
And John comes, he's like, Lynette, you gonna come with me?
They go meet Bruce.
Let's go say hi.
And I was like, oh my God.
And we sit down in his dressing room and then they knocked and said, John, you're up.
And Bruce was in the middle of a story.
And John left the dressing room and the door is slowly closed.
And Bruce was still talking.
And now I'm just sitting in the dressing room, just me and Bruce.
And we talked for like 45 minutes.
We talked about kids.
I wanted him to know that I was a real fan.
So I asked him like technical, like song questions about when you're singing this song, why do
you guys do an extra, you do an extra opening and he told me what it was called in musical
terms.
And he's like, well, you're pretty, you pray, pray a lot of attention.
I was like, yeah, I am telling him a huge fan.
And we just talked and talked for, yeah, for 45 minutes in the dressing room.
Wow.
In 2011.
Yeah.
I know.
That's so cool.
Yeah.
Bruce is brought me and my sister and I windy together because she loves Bruce and Suzanne,
the three of us.
We would go when we were traveling and going to see Bruce, we would go to the three of us
together.
Yeah.
Did you bond with any of your friends at school over any musicians like bands?
I don't remember, but I will tell you that Zander bonded with Lyle, Lyle crocodile, who
by the way, you met, you saw because it's in Zander's band.
Yes.
He was so sweet.
He was so cute.
I know.
Everybody who listens to us, who's helped, who chipped in, I mean, that kid has changed.
He's, and you could tell both you, I mean, all of the kids in the band, but especially him,
you could tell that he's like into music, very into music, in the music.
So remember, I told you this, his mom sent him to a different, to like the main sort of
neighborhood high school because his older brother had gone there, but he didn't like it.
And then Zander didn't want to go to that school, but he really, really wanted to be at school
with Lyle.
Yeah.
And then he was always telling Lyle, like, listen, this high school that I'm going to
do, has this really cool music department, right?
And then Lyle was playing guitar.
I mean, he's very into music and they had a guitar class at his school, but when we'd get
together with him, he'd be like, yeah, it sucks.
Like it's just, yeah, you don't really get to do it.
Right.
You don't really get to play songs.
You're just playing scales all the time.
And I would talk to Lyle's mom, right?
I'm a crocodile and I'd be like, you really got to think about moving schools.
And she'd be like, no, everything's fine.
We're fine.
And then eventually I was like, you, you come on.
Yeah.
No, we're fine.
And then at the end of his freshman year, beginning, like, end of the summer, she was like,
okay, he wants to go to your kid's school.
And he got in, but it was a little bit late to sign up for the music department.
And you have to audition into it and he had an audition.
And then I, I hold the teacher aside.
I wrote him an email, then I pulled him aside and I was like, listen, listen, you gotta,
you gotta let this kid in, right?
You have to.
You'll change his life.
Yeah.
And so he had him come play for him.
Really?
He's like, I'm gonna let him, I'm gonna let him play.
And so he came and he played and he was like impressed and he found a place for him.
It was full.
He swed, juggle things around and he got him in there and he's just like blossomed.
Like he loved it from day one, is in a band and, you know, to see his mom coming to like
the music show, she sits in the, she's just little.
Uh-huh.
And she sits in the front row with his little sister who's starting the school to and she
just like, she's like the best mom.
Yeah.
And to think that like she lost like that her kids had to be in foster care for, I mean,
over a year.
That's I know she didn't have her kids, you know, I forgot about that because I was telling
Susan Howles about what, you know, what you did for, for the family and that we are all
the audience literally bought her a car and got her out of a shelter and into an apartment.
Right.
And I forgot that her kids were in foster care because her heart, she had a heart thing
and she had no family and like nobody to help her.
So they, she couldn't take care of the kids.
She was like in the hospital and they just put her kids in foster care and then she couldn't
get them back because she had to prove because she lost her job, then she lost her place.
So then she had to prove that she could take care of them.
Eventually she got them back, but she was in a housing play like an ice shelter basically.
Yeah.
So such a mess and now and the kids were traumatized and we all came in and fixed some stuff for
that.
Yeah.
And like now you just see him and he's just so blossomed.
Yeah.
He's like a happy kid.
I know I love it really talented.
Very talented.
Yeah.
And they were having, oh my God.
So we were driving with him the other day and we were having the cutest conversation because
he was talking about how he would love to like play music, do something with music for
a living, but he was like, I know that's really hard.
Like I know this is a really hard business, but you know, I'd also, I'd love to like teach
guitar to kids and he said that some some families in his apartment building want to hire him
to teach their kids to play guitar.
And I was like, oh my God.
I love that.
I know.
That's amazing.
I know.
Oh, that's so.
It's very hard warming.
It's so hard warming.
It is.
I mean, is in the mom's doing good?
And mama, mama.
Yeah.
I'll raise money for her again for the holiday for Christmas, but you know, she's not, I
mean, she's still, you know, she works on minimum wage job.
Right.
She's like, but she did that like we got her, we paid for her little, it's not really a nursing
program.
It's a, it's a, a nurse is assistant basically.
And then she works at like a nursing home and she works with, but she's the old people
love her.
Yeah.
She's just the sweetest.
She's really a little sister.
The little sister is doing great and she's starting at the school and she kind of can't
wait.
Does she have like a, she just auditioned for the music program and she got in.
Wow.
She'll be doing that too.
I know.
I just remember like driving, you know, well, oh, the reason I brought that up is because
the way that Zander met Lyle was, they were, it was COVID.
So they were all online.
So he didn't really know anything about him.
And he would just see him on the online, but he had written something in the chat about
Elton John and like classic rock.
He mentioned and Zander was like, wrote back, oh, you like Elton John or Zander had said
something about liking Elton John and maybe Lyle wrote, wait, you like Elton John and then
they were started talking music and they, neither one of them had met other kids that like,
like classic rock kind of sounds like me and Suzanne.
Yeah.
So then they started then Zander.
I remember Zander being like, oh, my God, I met this kid.
He has my taste in music, but he's like really cool.
Like, I don't know if he's going to want to hang out with me because keep in mind this
was seventh grade.
Yeah.
So that's when I asked the school, could I have the mom's info and they were weird about
it.
Because I didn't know there are circumstances at the time at all.
So they're like, we're not sure if we can give you her info because it was like she was
at a shelter.
So they were like, they keep everything private.
So they reached out to her and asked if I could contact her.
I still didn't have any idea what the deal was.
And then I basically called her or texted her and I was like, hey, our kids met on Zoom.
Like they want to hang out.
Is there any way you'd be open to like, could we have your kid over or whatever?
And she was like, yeah, but I don't have a car.
So like I can't.
And I was like, oh, that's okay.
And in my mind, I was like, that's probably in the shop.
Maybe she means it's in the shop or like, you know, right?
And then, and then I started figuring it out slowly.
And then the aisle was just like, yeah, I've just.
I was in foster care.
Well, you sort of started leaking out and I was like, wait, what?
Like I had no idea.
And then we started getting all the details and then I talked to her and that's when she
was like, yeah, I'm just like, I don't have a car right now.
So I want to go to this like nursing thing, but like she wasn't asking for anything.
Yeah, yeah.
She was just like, yeah, I'm just right now.
I'm trying to save up like $1,500 for a car and I was like, girl.
There's no cars for $1,500, you know?
And then I came to everybody who's listening.
Yes.
And everybody was like, yes, hell yes, let's get our car.
Everybody.
Yes.
We have the best community.
That was one of my favorite things.
Yeah.
All time of doing this podcast is how people come together and look out for each other and
support each other.
And if they could just see like somebody going from literal in a shelter, having lost
her kids to like kids being happy, going to a normal school, having, you know, hope for
their futures.
Yeah, that's, it's so nice.
Yeah.
Everybody really came together during that time.
Yeah.
I mean, you pulled it off.
Did Adam Lerner get her the car?
Oh my God.
Okay.
Yes.
No.
Yes and no.
I started looking.
He was basically like, I don't know about a used car for that price.
It's like pretty low because I was like, I wanted to, at first I wanted to get her one for
like $8,000, I think, but then we ended up making more than that.
So I was like, okay, we could do like $10,000.
I think the car ended up being like $11,000.
But basically I found cars and then he checked them out and ran the VIN numbers for me.
And then he called the dealership and made like a cash deal.
I see.
Okay.
Because apparently a lot of these dealerships, they do not actually, you would think like,
I'm going to offer cash.
So I'm going to like low-bomb, right?
And Adam's like, this is just not how it works because that's not how they make their
money.
They make their money on giving you this crazy financing.
Right.
They make their money on people that don't have money and have shitty credit, right?
Getting like a loan for 20%.
Yeah.
So they're not going to give it to you.
That, they're not making a big profit margin off the car.
So unless they just want to get it off the lot.
So he did like dealership talk with them and they agreed.
Right.
I think he literally like told them the situation and was like, come on.
What can you do?
Wow.
But then remember this, remember when we went and got the car, she was kind of a ballbuster
because there was, I wasn't expecting it.
She is like, she's like four, 10, maybe four, nine.
Yeah.
She's a little, little lady.
And she, we took her down there.
John and I took her down there to the thing and she test, she drove the car and then she
was like, yeah, I don't like, there was like the arm rest was like needed to be glued
down or whatever.
There was something else a little bit funky and she was like, yeah, so this arm rest,
just like no go, like her whatever.
And they were like, okay, we'll fix that.
And she was like, yeah.
And there's something a little with the steering or the whatever.
And they're like, okay, no problem.
And then I mean, it came the car had a warranty too.
But she was just like, I fixed it.
Yeah.
I know.
She should turn on the air.
Yes.
I know.
Oh, so the other thing I just wanted to bond with you on is that when I was in junior, when
I was in junior high, I had just moved to Spokane, Washington when I was 12.
So going, I was going into seventh grade.
And there was a girl who lived across the street from me named Jamie and who became my best
friend like like your Suzanne.
Yeah.
But somehow we made friends like she lived like across the street in a few houses down.
Right.
So when we had just moved into the house and she was like outside shoveling snow or something.
And so we met and then we started school at the local junior high school.
And I sort of made friends with a girl and she and Jamie had a friend and I made a friend.
And then both of us got in a big fight with the other two.
So Jamie and I had to hate each other because the two needed a town.
So I was like, my name is Paul.
That's between you.
Right.
But I got dragged in because you know, I'm saying like, yeah, her best friend and my best friend
were at our new best.
I say best friend, but I just probably met them a few weeks ago.
Right.
But they got into a thing.
Uh-huh.
Like me and my friend had to hate her and her friend, which was inconvenient because she
lived across the street for me.
Yes.
And then so that one on for like, I want to say like six months maybe.
Wow.
I would see her outside and like, what about like walk into school and stuff?
Did you guys think like that?
Well, we just didn't, I guess we just, we, I don't remember.
We must have ignored each other.
And then one day we were both outside and somehow we started talking and we were like,
this is really stupid.
Yes.
And we should probably be friends because like, we like, like, you're nice.
Yeah.
And then we both like broke up with our other friends.
Yeah.
And then, and then Jamie and I hated the other two.
My God.
Their names were like Karen and Michelle.
I still kind of remember.
Uh-huh.
Vagely.
And then, and then Jamie and I were mean like we would write, we would make up song lyrics.
We would change song lyrics.
Yeah.
We would change, you're a rich girl.
And we changed that all to be your a bitch girl.
And then we added, we'd made different lyrics for like making fun of them.
Right.
And did you sing it to them?
We were?
No, we were completely into their face, but we, it was mean.
Yeah.
We got a lot, a big kick out of like, yeah.
Creatively finding ways to really hate on them.
Interesting.
Yeah.
That's like what teenage girls would do back then.
I remember making songs up in my house or in my friend's house.
I had a friend that lived across the street and a couple houses down Wendy Thompson was her
name, but she, her mom was a single mom and they had a Dobermen Shepherd.
My dad, and my dad would not let me go over there.
Right.
Oh hell no.
I have a my dead body.
Are you going to go when the mom's at work and nobody's around the dog's going to attack
you?
Okay, dad.
Why did everyone have Dobermens though by the way?
I know, right?
And now where are the Dobermens?
I don't know.
Nobody have a Dobermen anymore?
Guarding like car lots or something.
Yeah.
So, but yeah, I had a friend that lived across the street and we would make up songs.
I remember we did this thing called hot stuff incorporated.
That was our thing.
And we would just write because we loved Laverne and Shirley and they do that, that,
and then it didn't happen except incorporated whatever in the mean.
So we were like, didn't know what they were saying.
So we made it up as hot stuff incorporated and that we were Laverne and Shirley.
And of course, I was Laverne because I had the L.
Oh my gosh, that's so funny.
But that's what like, this is the girls teenage girls did back then.
Yeah, our generation.
I think that and go to the wall.
I was really mean though.
And the reason why I was mean is because I was teased a lot.
Like I was teased a lot in elementary school and then I was just kind of bullied.
So I became like, if there was somebody that was sort of like, I thought of as below me,
that I was like, me?
I was mean.
Yeah.
But I don't, I wasn't like a bully to anybody's face.
I was too curious for that.
Right, right.
So they might have like beat me up.
Yeah.
Because, oh, we would just mercilessly like, yeah, make up the songs.
Yeah.
You know, bad mouth them have like all sorts of inside jokes.
Give a crank column.
I mean, I did so much crank calling in my day in my time.
I remember Wendy Thompson and I were crank calling people.
I don't know how it happened because her mom was like a legal assistant.
She was at work.
And that was the days where we could just got the click over like, oh, somebody's
on the line.
Yeah, call waiting.
And it was like, oh, somebody's on the other line.
So she clicked over and went and Wendy was like, go on.
You know, like is your mom home?
Like, is your is your is your refrigerator running?
You better go get it.
Like that kind of said, and then we're laughing and giggling.
And then, and then when he goes, like, hello, hello.
And then her mom goes, are we having fun?
And I looked at way, I was like, and her mom could be me.
And we're like, oh, shit.
She was okay.
But she called to tell us that there was stakeups in the refrigerator.
Remember stakeups?
Oh, of course.
I'll never forget that because I love stakeum and my mom wouldn't buy it.
I don't know why too rich for her blood or something.
I don't know.
I always wanted them because Wendy always had them.
I love those things.
Stakeups.
I remember this thing called space sticks.
And they were like, they came in like chocolate and like peanut butter flavor and they were
sort of healthy.
But they were like these, like almost like the look of a beef jerky.
Stake, but they were like, sweet, sweet.
And like kind of healthy.
I remember the name.
I heard you were soft granola bar and then you would just, yeah, I remember people's
houses that had those was like, oh, yeah, yeah.
Space sticks.
Yeah.
Oh, how did I die and went to heaven?
Right.
You know, I do remember stakeum, though.
That would have been like, he comes early high school for me.
Yeah.
Yes.
Yeah.
Because my dad would come home and eat sardines, you know?
He would like have a glass of beer and sardines for dinner.
And once in a while, like if my mom made a mistake or he would, he would cook a steak.
But yeah, he would have sardines and then he also had this like meat and a can thing and
it was like devil's, devil's ham.
Yeah, devil's ham.
But it, but it had the devil aren't in a white can, can and it tastes sort of like a hash
browns or not.
Corn, bam.
Corn, yeah.
Corn beef hash.
Yeah.
Corn beef hash.
Yeah.
It tasted something like, but that's, you know, so then I went over to her house and I was
like, whoo, stakeums, yeah.
And then I remember seeing a bong in her, her mom's bedroom and I was like, oh, your mom
smokes pot.
What?
I was like, what?
Wow.
I didn't know that because we were like, like smoking pot, but like, you know, out of like
a toilet paper roll thing, right?
Right, right, right.
But I never knew a parent smoked pot because my parents didn't do shit.
My parents smoked pot, especially my stepfather.
And I know I've told you this, but he would grow pot in our house and it was so embarrassing.
It was like cringe, you know, because, yeah, because I would have friends over and he just,
he was very, he never had a job.
He was just like considered himself a hippie and his establishment.
So he had pot growing like in our, basically in our kitchen slash breakfast room where you
would go down the stairs to go to my bedroom.
There was a line of pot plants.
Oh, yeah.
And it was not cool.
It wasn't cool.
No, it wasn't cool.
Yeah.
It was embarrassing.
Yeah.
Not that I was like totally straight edge or anything, but you know, it's just weird.
It was weird though.
It was not like people didn't go cool.
Your parents like grow weed.
Yeah.
They were like, what the fuck?
Yeah.
What is that?
And parents are total hippies and her stepdad Stan always had like a pipe, a pot pipe.
And I knew and Suzanne knew where he hid it.
So whenever they go out of the town, I'd go and like scrape resin out of his pipe.
Now to this day when I see him, you know, he's like, still scraping resin out of a stepdad
so his pipe's lately.
But I always thought it was cool.
And Suzanne never, ever, ever smoke pot, never, never smoke pot.
Still to this day doesn't like the smoke pot.
Doesn't only think she does his drink.
That's it.
Like she was very like.
And then when we were growing up, you guys got to go get stoned.
And I'm in and then we would all laugh and laugh and laugh and she go, God, sitting in the
bunch of stoners.
That's so funny.
Yeah.
Yes, Suzanne said to me, I don't know where you were, but she was like, we've got to get
Lynette took what smoking.
I know.
I was like, you know what?
She's got a little bit of an addictive personality.
She's got, she's like, I know, you know, when she was going through her divorce, it's
one thing, but like it's time to stop.
Yeah.
It sounds she was saying that.
Yes.
I know.
That's so funny.
Yeah.
I think it's so cute that after all this time, you guys are still like, oh, yeah.
And I think what's really nice about some adult friendships when is like, you had a period
where you weren't like super close.
Right.
Well, like then you come, you know what I mean?
Like you have some like differences and maybe parenting opinions and like, you know,
whatever.
Everybody goes the different ways.
And then, but then you like come back together because you have that foundation.
Yes.
Exactly.
Which is nice.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Yeah.
I love it.
I love Susanne and the death.
What I love about having raised my kids in the same house and say, and you know, they're having
valley kids is that these kids that they like, you know, Elbe's friend that she met when she
was six months old, you know, is still her friend.
Right.
It's not going to be 21 and like they have so much.
She has so much history with her friends.
That's the thing when you have history with somebody, there's a comfort level there, you
know, you know, and yeah, you can go your separate ways for a while.
People, life sets in, but yeah, just to have that foundation to come back to, it's really
nice.
Yeah.
Well, I got no, let's say hi to speak of our foundation.
No, we didn't like a Dick Frolaker and Kelly, Gladida and Nikki, all your girls.
Elizabeth Williamson's got a ton of kids Rita, rocking that bass and that.
Holly, we love your pancakes and the Cesare and Mallory, Bubba, Fenwick and Katarina still
trying to figure out the molar situation.
I got to get it.
I got to make a dentist appointment for myself.
I shouldn't be coming.
I shouldn't be judging Katarina.
Yeah.
And Missy and Gabby, they were at Patrick's, but they were like walking or they were
controlling the block.
Yeah, they, yeah, they were like trying to valley cars, even though there was no valley.
And then Rebecca, no one is so cute and you shot it so hot and Kelly, Brant.
Yeah, she'll take you to play in the parent.
Yep.
Alicia Escalante, the city of El Monte, Leslie, coffee of the storm.
Still, she's got a summer cold.
Aaron is a dirty Sanchez.
Jennifer, get up.
Sandra is not easy being green.
Athena, we love your dancing.
Stephanie is a stinker rinker and Ashley, you're so chic.
And I got a new one for you guys.
It's my friend, Tamara Mellows, business gray by Tamara Mellow.
This is handcrafted jewelry.
It's great.
It's perfect for anniversary gifts or for everyday jewelry.
I, Zander has a, she does like hand metal guitar picks and they come on a chain and it has
an X on it for Zander and he loves it.
So good, good gifts for men, women, kids and if you enter the code F, C, O, L, she'll give
you 20% off, which is pretty nice.
Then there's Robyn's charity where she got her dog, pupculture rescue dot org.
They, you know, are helping get these dogs.
We love dogs.
Yes, we do.
We love those puppies.
Yeah.
Pupculture rescue dot org and then, oh, you know what?
Gabby of Missy and Gabby elevated her thing up because she wants to do a shout out for
United Farm Workers.
Oh, nice.
So great, Gabby.
Thank you.
Go to ufw.org.
This was founded by Caesar Chavez and Dolores Huerta and Philip Veracruz and this is the
labor union for Farm Workers.
So that's so nice.
Yeah.
Thank you, Gabby.
UFW dot org.
Then, of course, as always, friend of the show, my friend, whose name I won't say but she
has a medium account and it's called unbecoming stories and she tells really good stories.
Family skeptical is the podcast about raising kids without religion.
I might have a story about that for Patreon.
I might add that into our page.
Our Patreon this week is kind of gossipy.
Okay.
And it's about kids' friendships.
Thank you.
Check it out.
It kind of goes a little bit with our theme.
And then, Wilma and Frida, that's our friend Kelly, Palm Springs or Palm Desert.
They do amazing food, mention of COL.
Yeah.
And for brunch.
Yes.
And then, basic Becky, if you're listening, basic Becky, you'll me a mug.
Yeah.
She does mug.
She does mouse pads.
She'll print anything for you.
She's fast and affordable.
So go to justbasicbecky.com or basic Becky on Facebook.
Marin has a place called Sugar Skull.
It's a small bakery and gift shop on the island of Kauai.
You guys know all about Sugar Skull, but go follow their Instagram page at Sugar Skull
808.
Give them some more followers.
And then, if you want to plan a trip, why not use waves and wonder travel?
Go to Instagram, travel with Christine B or find her like on our Facebook page.
Yeah.
That's around.
And then, Jacob Crowley is doing ACLU because I told him to, which is a, I mean, he's awesome
and he wants to.
Yeah.
But ACLU is fighting for a lot of, a lot of good causes right now.
Please, if you have any extra money, give it to them.
And then, every episode, Adam Learner, Adam's got a car.com.
Can't say enough good things.
Everybody loves Adam.
They super easy, super simple.
Get's it done.
I just saw Lynette's car.
It's adorable.
Love it.
Little sporty, little sporty Mercedes SUV electric.
Yeah.
Got her a great deal.
Yeah.
Got me a great deal.
Came, picked it up, the old car, brought the new car, super simple.
Didn't have to do anything.
Yeah.
So there you go.
Peace care of everything.
Yeah.
Great, everybody.
Thanks, everybody.
You're a parent now.
Don't eff it up.
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