It's the start of the week, and if you're already bracing yourself, already feeling
that familiar tightness in your chest, that low hum of tread before the week has even begun.
I want you to hear this.
You are allowed to start differently today.
Welcome to calming anxiety with me, Martin Hewlett.
This is your guided meditation for stopping negative thoughts on a Monday morning.
A 10 minute practice designed to help you nick anxious thinking in the bud before it takes
hold.
Because here's the truth that most people miss.
You don't have to wait until negative thoughts have ruined your morning to do something
about them.
You can intercept them, you can meet them at the threshold and decide calmly, deliberately,
that they don't get to set their tone for your entire week.
That's exactly what we're going to do together right now.
Just before we settle in, that quick word, that little reminder about the app I'm building
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There's a link in the show notes to join test flight, have a look around, let me know
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I'd love to hear from you.
And if today's episodes beaks to you, this week's post will be in the calm room.
That's the weekly blog within the app.
It digs deeper into how to reframe negative thinking with practical everyday techniques.
It's a short read, completely free, and it pairs nicely with what we're about to practice.
So find your position, sitting, standing, lying, whatever feels right, there's no wrong
way to arrive here.
Raise your eyes if it's comfy and safe and just breathe.
There's no count, there's no rhythm, just your breath moving at its own pace.
Now bring all of your attention to the out breath, not the inhale, that will take care
of itself.
Focus entirely on what happens when you let go.
Feel your shoulders drop half an inch, feel your jaw and clench, feel the muscles around
your eyes soften.
Every single exhale is doing something quietly and powerfully, it's activating.
Your body's own calming system.
As a paramedic, I watched that same mechanism work in the back of ambulances on the worst days
imaginable.
One long, deliberate exhale could shift the person from panic to presence in seconds.
Your body already knows how to do this.
You're simply giving it permission.
Breathe in through your nose, gently, easily.
And as you breathe out, imagine the tension leaving your body like steam rising from a warm
pavement after rain.
It lifts, it disperses, it's gone.
So breath in and then out and this time.
Imagine any negative thoughts that you've been carrying as a scrap of paper.
Watch it catch the out breath like a draft under a door.
It tumbles away from you, end over end until it is too far away to read.
Keep going at your own pace.
Each out breath, a quiet act of clearing, not forcing anything out, just choosing not
to hold on.
If the thought arrives about work, about a conversation you're dreading, about something
that hasn't even happened here, that's fine.
In fact, that's perfectly normal.
You don't need to wrestle it.
Just notice it, the way you would notice a car passing on a distant road and then return
to the out breath.
Feel your posture settle, not rigid, not collapsed, just present.
Your spine longs, your hands relaxed, your face completely neutral.
You are here.
You are breathing and right now that is more than enough.
Now with your breathing settled and your mind a little clearer, I'm going to offer you
five affirmations.
These are yours for the whole week ahead, not slogans, decisions.
Each one is a line you're drawing in the sand before the day has had a trance to draw
one for you.
I set the tone for my day, no person, no deadline, no memory gets to set it for me.
I create difficult thoughts with curiosity, not combat.
I can observe them without obeying them.
My mind is open and my outlook is mine to curate.
I choose what I dwell on today.
Other people's tension is not my assignment.
I can stand beside it without absorbing it.
I carry lightness into this week, not because everything is perfect, but because I have decided
to lead with warm.
Five decisions already made before you've even left the house.
That is how you stop negative thoughts before they start.
Not by pretending they don't exist, but by filling the space they wanted to occupy with
something you chose deliberately, because so simply put, you are stronger than you know,
and more worthy than you appreciate.
Now here are your three caring daily tips to take with you for the week.
One, the threshold check before you walk through any door today, your front door, your office,
your car, pause for one single breath within that breath, ask yourself, what am I carrying
into this room?
If the answer is tension, frustration, or someone else is mood, set it down on the threshold,
you can always pick it back up later.
You almost certainly won't want to.
Two, the fuse, the negative sentence, the very first negative thought that arrives today,
this is going to be awful.
I can't face it, here we go again, catch it, then rewrite it out loud, not into toxic positivity,
into something honest and open.
I don't know how today will go, and that's actually fine.
At one tiny act of intersection, revise the momentum of your entire morning.
And three, lend your warmth thoroughly within the first hour of being around other people,
offer one piece of genuine warmth, a compliment, a question about someone's weekend, a moment
of unhurried eye contact.
This isn't about performing kindness, it's about steering your own energy outward before
anxiety has a chance to turn it inward.
You'll be surprised how quickly it lifts your own mood.
Now bring your focus back into the space around you.
Take a breath in, hold, and as you breathe out, stretch out your arms, then open your mind,
and then your eyes.
That's your Monday morning, be set done.
10 minutes, 5 affirmations, 3 practical turns, and a week ahead that you've already decided
to meet with an open mind rather than a clenched fist.
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Thank you for being here.
Thank you for choosing to start your week like this.
And remember, in everything my friend, be kind.