If you aren't acting like a man, you may be acting like a boy.
Hey, welcome back to the Stand Up Dude podcast.
I'm your host Stewart White, along with Tim Bisagno.
What's up guys?
Hey.
So, last podcast, which happened to be our very first podcast.
I'll even say what?
You hit on a few things and can you just, by way of refresher, tell us what those were?
Yeah, I said that the Stand Up Dude stands on the rock.
I got that from the Lord says, "Behold, there's a place beside me, and you shall stand there
on the rock."
That's actually the 33-21.
And a Stand Up Dude stands for the truth.
Jesus said to him, "I'm the only way to God and the real truth and the real life."
Oh man, the real truth and the real life.
That's what I'm talking about.
That was my addition, by the way.
And he said, "No one comes to the Father, but through me."
That's John 146.
"That's why we start with Jesus, with Stand Up Dude, by the way, because he says, "Did
God come through me?"
And I said that a Stand Up Dude stands with God and other men.
He said, "Have I not commanded you to be strong and courageous, to not be terrified or
dismayed?
For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."
So yeah, we hit these main points that you're standing on, you're standing for, and you're
standing with.
And so those were kind of the foundational things we covered in that first episode.
And you also, you had a verse that you shared.
And I think that actually leads into this episode really well, but could you read that one
again for us?
Yeah, it's kind of the anchor.
And it's got little, it's got five anchors throughout.
It's in 1 Corinthians 16 13 through 14.
Right at the top of the website, actually you'll see these anchors in this verse and little
unwrapping of what we're going to be talking about today.
In Corinthians 16 13 14 says, "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong,
and let all that you do be done in love."
So I like that you've got these ideas of these five anchors, right?
Why did you pick anchors?
What's kind of the significance of that?
Well, if you imagine a ship that's just adrift by itself, adrift at sea, just being tossed
by the waves at every whim of emotion or culture or negativity that's surrounding them.
Anchors are the things that I just mentioned in our life that will, that specifically in
this situation that men need as anchors to remain firmly grounded.
I like that.
It's kind of these soul anchors, these life anchors, if you will.
Yeah, that's awesome.
And I just love anchors.
Yeah, me too.
It's cool.
They make great tattoos.
If I had enough skin, I'd get like 50 anchors all over.
You could probably set a world record with that.
I probably could.
Yeah.
So tell us about that again.
We kind of, you hit on the very first one you mentioned it, but let's just hit all five
real quick and we'll circle back on them.
What is anchor number one?
Yeah, man.
Just the first two words of that incredible verse that I kind of feel is custom made from
men. The first two words are be watchful.
And I like to, I like to think of that as a watchful man is an aware man.
He knows what's going on.
He does.
He knows what's going on his family.
He knows what's going on around him.
And he knows what's going on.
He's in touch with emotionally.
He is aware that he is, he's out of line.
He's aware that he's possibly procrastinating.
He's aware.
His tongue is too sharp.
He's also aware of his household.
He's aware of his spiritual condition.
He is aware what you're really describing as a man.
He's present.
He can be those things and be living in the past or your head and the clouds in the future.
Right.
You're aware of what's going on.
That's, that was the next thing that comes to mind about being watchful as a watchful
man is present.
And a watchful man also shows up.
He shows up when he says he will emotionally, physically and spiritually.
He shows up.
And this actually just those first two words in that verse is in relation to stand up
dude.
This is our challenge for men to not check out.
Men check out a lot.
Yeah, they do.
And this is our challenge to be watchful.
You can't check out and be watchful.
So we got watchful down.
What is that second anchor in the list?
Yeah.
Second anchor is stand firm.
Actually, it's just the next two words in the verse stand firm.
And standing is hard.
Faith is hard.
But men are built to do hard things.
This is our challenge at stand up dude to challenge men to stand up to walk out their
faith and keep standing.
So we have stand firm.
That's a big part of the stand up dude.
What is anchor number three?
Anchor three.
Anchor three is act like men.
I like that one.
Yeah, that's that's moderately clear.
It says just act like men.
The third point.
And what I love about that is men are just so built for action.
Men are not passive.
Men take responsibility for their actions.
That's one of the first things that you're taught.
If you have grown up around other men, maybe grandpa and their grandpa talk them and it's
that men take responsibility for their actions.
And this is our challenge at stand up dude to act like the man that were created to be.
To take responsibility for your life.
To take responsibility to be the man that God has created you to be.
I love that.
And there's this implication that if you aren't acting like a man, you may be acting like
a boy.
Yeah, it's a choice to act like men.
Yeah, so good.
So good Stewart.
Yeah, so many pieces in society today are just kind of set up to keep boys, boys forever
and certainly not for men to be men.
So thank you for that great reminder.
Yeah, you're definitely right.
The culture does seem geared toward ease and pleasure and not difficult hard things.
That man are built for action.
That's the crazy part.
That's craving it, but you're also denying it.
Yeah, that's the part where I sometimes see not all, but many young men.
There's a little bit of a zombie look to their eyes because they've only chosen the easy
way and they wonder why they're depressed or what's wrong with them.
And it's because they're built, they're built for action.
They're built for difficulty.
They're built to solve.
They're built to stand up.
And when they don't do that, like I said a minute ago, depression is can be waiting at
the door for that.
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
So number four, we have B strong digging to that a little more for me.
All right.
Well, strength comes from standing really.
The gravity really can be very fierce.
The good thing is we don't stand alone.
This is really our challenge to become strong by standing.
All of that, according to the verse, it kind of wraps back into this idea.
Like all of it sounds pretty masculine.
Then we end up on this last part.
Number five, which is do in love.
Do in love.
Okay.
Unpack that a little bit.
Okay.
Well, the do part like personally, men do.
They like to get things done.
Yeah.
And that's when they know they're living in what they're designed to do.
And when we don't live in that again, you can find yourself pretty lost.
So men are made to do.
Do in love, it says.
Very interesting, I think, because all those other four anchors could kind of look like
the key man, you know, Chess Beaton, woman hater, almost type of, type of, the true toxic
of the culture's tolling toxic.
Yeah.
Right.
But it matches it so beautifully and balances it with the end by, but make sure that you do
everything that you do in love.
Love is not a feeling.
Love is something that you do and doing can be hard.
A man puts others first and this is our challenge to be a real man like Jesus.
This verse isn't really only about being a man.
It's about being a leader.
A leader is what we're built to be.
And a leader is one who knows the way and shows the way and he goes the way.
And I can't help but ask who does that sound like to you Stewart?
Who does this sound like?
Someone that knows the way shows the way and goes away.
Sounds a lot like Jesus.
I might be the Sunday school answer though, but I think I know.
I know.
That's the Sunday school.
I hear you and I hope that I didn't set that up in a way where it sounded like that, but
I think I did.
Jesus just lived it always.
He knew that people don't always follow your words, but they'll follow your feet and leaders
call forward the best in us by first walking the walk.
No one did that better than Jesus.
That is so good.
I love that one of the key things that we do at Stand Up Dude is we mentioned it in the
first episode.
We're not just calling men out in a shameful way.
We're actually calling them forward and into a life of risk, of taking risks, of a challenging
life, but of facing the truth about themselves and then dealing with that truth.
And so we talk about a Stand Up Dude is a Christ follower.
They're a leader because as they're following Christ, others are following them, right?
Yes.
A Christ following leader doing what he says that he's doing will call forward other men
to be their best as well.
That's what a leader does.
That doesn't mean it's easy.
They're willing to take an uncomfortable look at their life and wrestle with the question.
These are Stand Up dudes.
If I had to paraphrase, it would be a man that is willing to wrestle with the question.
Am I really living all out?
Am I all in?
Am I willing with God's help to do the work, to discover and uncover or rediscover the man
that I'm created to be?
So good, man.
I feel like this is something.
One of the reasons I think guys, we mentioned in the first episode.
They have a vitriol to some of this.
It's because it actually is poking something that's a little raw in them.
They think it's like you go to the doctor and if they're checking your, like for appendicitis,
if they push on it and you think, "Oh, the problem is the doctor's pushing.
I'll just slap the doctor."
Instead of going, "Oh, no, the doctor just pinpointed.
There's a problem right there, right?"
I think that some of the men who are listening, maybe that's you listening right now, some of
these things are hitting you and you're going, "I don't like you guys.
I don't know about this.
I want to challenge you that as you're listening and you're thinking it through, maybe it's hurting
for a different reason.
Maybe it's hurting.
Maybe it's tender because there's something there that I believe God is revealing to you
through us through this Stand Up Dude podcast.
And if it is, I want you to be able to go to our website.
There will be links in the show notes.
We want you to follow up.
We have a few different things on there.
You'll see a link in the show notes for, if you don't know Jesus yet, we want you to know
Jesus.
So that's your first step.
That's the first step we always push.
But if you know him and you've just been kind of stagnant or you just became a Christian,
we want to help you in your growth.
So go to those links, look them up in the show notes and then hit us up.
You can email us at the website.
You can reach out to us at podcast@standupdude.com.
We want to hear from you.
We can take it.
You can send your hate.
You can send your love.
You can send your questions.
We serve a God who's big enough.
Absolutely.
Thank you guys for tuning in.
Thanks for listening.
Thanks for caring enough about yourself and the people in your life to be a stand up man, to be
a stand up dude.
And to be the man that God has certainly called you to be.
Thank you for listening.
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