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If you aren't acting like a man, you may be acting like a boy.

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Hey, welcome back to the Stand Up Dude podcast.

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I'm your host Stewart White, along with Tim Bisagno.

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What's up guys?

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Hey.

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So, last podcast, which happened to be our very first podcast.

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I'll even say what?

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You hit on a few things and can you just, by way of refresher, tell us what those were?

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Yeah, I said that the Stand Up Dude stands on the rock.

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I got that from the Lord says, "Behold, there's a place beside me, and you shall stand there

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on the rock."

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That's actually the 33-21.

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And a Stand Up Dude stands for the truth.

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Jesus said to him, "I'm the only way to God and the real truth and the real life."

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Oh man, the real truth and the real life.

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That's what I'm talking about.

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That was my addition, by the way.

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And he said, "No one comes to the Father, but through me."

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That's John 146.

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"That's why we start with Jesus, with Stand Up Dude, by the way, because he says, "Did

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God come through me?"

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And I said that a Stand Up Dude stands with God and other men.

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He said, "Have I not commanded you to be strong and courageous, to not be terrified or

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dismayed?

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For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

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So yeah, we hit these main points that you're standing on, you're standing for, and you're

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standing with.

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And so those were kind of the foundational things we covered in that first episode.

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And you also, you had a verse that you shared.

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And I think that actually leads into this episode really well, but could you read that one

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again for us?

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Yeah, it's kind of the anchor.

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And it's got little, it's got five anchors throughout.

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It's in 1 Corinthians 16 13 through 14.

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Right at the top of the website, actually you'll see these anchors in this verse and little

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unwrapping of what we're going to be talking about today.

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In Corinthians 16 13 14 says, "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong,

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and let all that you do be done in love."

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So I like that you've got these ideas of these five anchors, right?

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Why did you pick anchors?

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What's kind of the significance of that?

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Well, if you imagine a ship that's just adrift by itself, adrift at sea, just being tossed

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by the waves at every whim of emotion or culture or negativity that's surrounding them.

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Anchors are the things that I just mentioned in our life that will, that specifically in

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this situation that men need as anchors to remain firmly grounded.

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I like that.

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It's kind of these soul anchors, these life anchors, if you will.

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Yeah, that's awesome.

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And I just love anchors.

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Yeah, me too.

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It's cool.

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They make great tattoos.

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If I had enough skin, I'd get like 50 anchors all over.

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You could probably set a world record with that.

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I probably could.

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So tell us about that again.

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We kind of, you hit on the very first one you mentioned it, but let's just hit all five

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real quick and we'll circle back on them.

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What is anchor number one?

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Yeah, man.

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Just the first two words of that incredible verse that I kind of feel is custom made from

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men. The first two words are be watchful.

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And I like to, I like to think of that as a watchful man is an aware man.

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He knows what's going on.

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He does.

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He knows what's going on his family.

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He knows what's going on around him.

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And he knows what's going on.

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He's in touch with emotionally.

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He is aware that he is, he's out of line.

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He's aware that he's possibly procrastinating.

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He's aware.

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His tongue is too sharp.

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He's also aware of his household.

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He's aware of his spiritual condition.

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He is aware what you're really describing as a man.

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He's present.

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He can be those things and be living in the past or your head and the clouds in the future.

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You're aware of what's going on.

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That's, that was the next thing that comes to mind about being watchful as a watchful

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man is present.

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And a watchful man also shows up.

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He shows up when he says he will emotionally, physically and spiritually.

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He shows up.

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And this actually just those first two words in that verse is in relation to stand up

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dude.

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This is our challenge for men to not check out.

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Men check out a lot.

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Yeah, they do.

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And this is our challenge to be watchful.

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You can't check out and be watchful.

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So we got watchful down.

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What is that second anchor in the list?

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Second anchor is stand firm.

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Actually, it's just the next two words in the verse stand firm.

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And standing is hard.

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Faith is hard.

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But men are built to do hard things.

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This is our challenge at stand up dude to challenge men to stand up to walk out their

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faith and keep standing.

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So we have stand firm.

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That's a big part of the stand up dude.

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What is anchor number three?

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Anchor three.

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Anchor three is act like men.

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I like that one.

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Yeah, that's that's moderately clear.

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It says just act like men.

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The third point.

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And what I love about that is men are just so built for action.

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Men are not passive.

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Men take responsibility for their actions.

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That's one of the first things that you're taught.

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If you have grown up around other men, maybe grandpa and their grandpa talk them and it's

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that men take responsibility for their actions.

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And this is our challenge at stand up dude to act like the man that were created to be.

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To take responsibility for your life.

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To take responsibility to be the man that God has created you to be.

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I love that.

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And there's this implication that if you aren't acting like a man, you may be acting like

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a boy.

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Yeah, it's a choice to act like men.

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Yeah, so good.

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So good Stewart.

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Yeah, so many pieces in society today are just kind of set up to keep boys, boys forever

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and certainly not for men to be men.

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So thank you for that great reminder.

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Yeah, you're definitely right.

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The culture does seem geared toward ease and pleasure and not difficult hard things.

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That man are built for action.

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That's the crazy part.

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That's craving it, but you're also denying it.

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Yeah, that's the part where I sometimes see not all, but many young men.

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There's a little bit of a zombie look to their eyes because they've only chosen the easy

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way and they wonder why they're depressed or what's wrong with them.

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And it's because they're built, they're built for action.

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They're built for difficulty.

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They're built to solve.

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They're built to stand up.

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And when they don't do that, like I said a minute ago, depression is can be waiting at

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the door for that.

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Yeah, yeah, for sure.

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So number four, we have B strong digging to that a little more for me.

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Well, strength comes from standing really.

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The gravity really can be very fierce.

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The good thing is we don't stand alone.

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This is really our challenge to become strong by standing.

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All of that, according to the verse, it kind of wraps back into this idea.

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Like all of it sounds pretty masculine.

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Then we end up on this last part.

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Number five, which is do in love.

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Do in love.

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Unpack that a little bit.

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Well, the do part like personally, men do.

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They like to get things done.

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And that's when they know they're living in what they're designed to do.

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And when we don't live in that again, you can find yourself pretty lost.

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So men are made to do.

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Do in love, it says.

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Very interesting, I think, because all those other four anchors could kind of look like

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the key man, you know, Chess Beaton, woman hater, almost type of, type of, the true toxic

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of the culture's tolling toxic.

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But it matches it so beautifully and balances it with the end by, but make sure that you do

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everything that you do in love.

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Love is not a feeling.

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Love is something that you do and doing can be hard.

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A man puts others first and this is our challenge to be a real man like Jesus.

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This verse isn't really only about being a man.

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It's about being a leader.

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A leader is what we're built to be.

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And a leader is one who knows the way and shows the way and he goes the way.

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And I can't help but ask who does that sound like to you Stewart?

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Who does this sound like?

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Someone that knows the way shows the way and goes away.

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Sounds a lot like Jesus.

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I might be the Sunday school answer though, but I think I know.

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I know.

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That's the Sunday school.

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I hear you and I hope that I didn't set that up in a way where it sounded like that, but

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Jesus just lived it always.

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He knew that people don't always follow your words, but they'll follow your feet and leaders

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call forward the best in us by first walking the walk.

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No one did that better than Jesus.

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That is so good.

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I love that one of the key things that we do at Stand Up Dude is we mentioned it in the

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first episode.

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We're not just calling men out in a shameful way.

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We're actually calling them forward and into a life of risk, of taking risks, of a challenging

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life, but of facing the truth about themselves and then dealing with that truth.

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And so we talk about a Stand Up Dude is a Christ follower.

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They're a leader because as they're following Christ, others are following them, right?

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Yes.

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Yes.

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A Christ following leader doing what he says that he's doing will call forward other men

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to be their best as well.

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That's what a leader does.

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That doesn't mean it's easy.

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They're willing to take an uncomfortable look at their life and wrestle with the question.

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These are Stand Up dudes.

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If I had to paraphrase, it would be a man that is willing to wrestle with the question.

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Am I really living all out?

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Am I all in?

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Am I willing with God's help to do the work, to discover and uncover or rediscover the man

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that I'm created to be?

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So good, man.

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I feel like this is something.

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One of the reasons I think guys, we mentioned in the first episode.

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They have a vitriol to some of this.

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It's because it actually is poking something that's a little raw in them.

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They think it's like you go to the doctor and if they're checking your, like for appendicitis,

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if they push on it and you think, "Oh, the problem is the doctor's pushing.

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I'll just slap the doctor."

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Instead of going, "Oh, no, the doctor just pinpointed.

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There's a problem right there, right?"

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I think that some of the men who are listening, maybe that's you listening right now, some of

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these things are hitting you and you're going, "I don't like you guys.

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I don't know about this.

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I want to challenge you that as you're listening and you're thinking it through, maybe it's hurting

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for a different reason.

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Maybe it's hurting.

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Maybe it's tender because there's something there that I believe God is revealing to you

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through us through this Stand Up Dude podcast.

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And if it is, I want you to be able to go to our website.

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There will be links in the show notes.

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We want you to follow up.

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We have a few different things on there.

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You'll see a link in the show notes for, if you don't know Jesus yet, we want you to know

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Jesus.

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So that's your first step.

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That's the first step we always push.

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But if you know him and you've just been kind of stagnant or you just became a Christian,

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we want to help you in your growth.

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So go to those links, look them up in the show notes and then hit us up.

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You can email us at the website.

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You can reach out to us at podcast@standupdude.com.

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We want to hear from you.

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We can take it.

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You can send your hate.

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You can send your love.

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You can send your questions.

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We serve a God who's big enough.

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Absolutely.

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Thank you guys for tuning in.

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Thanks for listening.

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Thanks for caring enough about yourself and the people in your life to be a stand up man, to be

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a stand up dude.

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And to be the man that God has certainly called you to be.

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Thank you for listening.

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