Everyone else seems to have the map, the job that fits, the person beside them, the
home, the plan, the quiet certainty.
And you're standing at the same crossroads that you were standing at last year, wondering
how everyone got so far ahead while you were just trying to keep up.
My friend, I want to tell you something true, you are not behind, there is no race, there
is no finish line that everyone but you can see, there is only your own life unfolding
at its own honest pace.
Today, we set down the measuring stick, this is a meditation when you feel like the only
one who hasn't got it together.
Welcome, this is calming anxiety, I'm your host Martin, clinical hypnotherapist, former
paramedic, comparison is one of the quietest thieves I know, truly.
It steals a perfectly good life by holding it up next to someone who else's highlight
real is awesome.
And here's the thing, most of what you're comparing
yourself to isn't even real.
It's a feed, a curated window, the best two seconds of someone's whole week.
When I built Anchored the app, I made one firm decision.
Anchored has no feed, no likes, no numbers, no strangers appearing to do better than you.
It's one app on your phone that never asks you to measure up.
It simply asks, how are you?
So find your quiet place today.
Somewhere relaxing where you won't be disturbed and will steady you with box breathing today.
Here's the one science line, by making your in breath your whole, your out breath all the
same, you're sending a signal to your nervous system, a message it cannot argue with.
You are safe and you are in control.
So picture a square, four equal walls and we'll trace it together.
Ready?
With me.
Breathe in, two, three, four, hold, two, three, four, breathe out, two, three, four, hold, two,
three, four.
That's one box complete.
Just draw the next one. 관심isoot
Ready?
Breathe in
2
3
4
Hold
2
3
4
Breathe out
2
3
4
Rest
2
3
4
Relax now
One more time around the square
Breathe in
2
3
4
Hold
2
3
4
Relax
2
3
4
Rest
2
3
4
Now let the box dissolve
Let your breath go loose and easy once more
Did you feel it?
The four steady walls around you
Nothing rushing in
No where you have to go
Just feel that sense of unwinding
With every outwrap
Reach out with your thoughts
Feel your breath
Feel your body
With your mind
And love all that you are
For all that you are
Be proud of even the small moments of success
Now within this moment
Allow a warm golden light to rise
From the floor beneath you
Maybe amber
It's slow, like sunlight moving up a wall
At the end of the day
Let it fill you
From your feet to the crown of your head
And as it rises
Feel the comparing, the counting, the not enough
Feel it lift away
Like early morning mist
And then in the beauty of your thoughts
Say these words with me softly
In your own voice
I am not behind
I am exactly where my life is
I am not behind
I am exactly where my life is
Another person's chapter 20 is not my chapter 5
I am enough at this pace
On this ordinary day
I am enough at this pace
On this ordinary day
I let go of the race
That no one is actually running
I let go of the race
That no one is actually running
I am safe
I am here
There is nothing to fear right now
My worth was never a number
A milestone or a moment I think I missed
I am allowed to be a work in progress
And still be home
There is nothing to prove no one to catch up to
Relax now
Ever deeper
Imagine your soul safe and secure
You are home
And you are worthy
Just you
Breathing
Here
And that is enough
And to help you grow
To help you find balance and self-worth in all that you do
Here are your three daily caring tips
One
When you catch yourself comparing gently ask
Whose life am I actually measuring?
And do I even know the whole of it?
Two
Write down one thing you did today
That your youngest self would be proud of
How ever small it seems
Three
Take a short break from the feed today
Even one single hour
And notice how much quieter your mind becomes
Now softly, gently
Let's come back into the room now
Wiggle your fingers and your toes
Feel the ground holding you up
Steadiest the four walls
Breathe in, hold
And as you exhale stretch out the muscles in your arms and legs
Roll your shoulders
And open your eyes whenever you are ready
You are not late
You are not lacking
You are on your own road
If this brought you some quiet
Come and find the Anchored app
Follow the box breathing there
Create your own moment of magic
The one place on your phone with no feed
No numbers nothing to measure up to
Just sessions like this one
Whenever you need them
And if someone you love has been feeling left behind
Why not share this episode with them
Remind them they are not the only one
None of us are
Your pace is your right pace my friend
I'm Martin
I'll be here again with you again tomorrow
So in all that you do
Smile
Positiveity as often as you can
And then to your beautiful self
Be kind