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Everyone else seems to have the map, the job that fits, the person beside them, the

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home, the plan, the quiet certainty.

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And you're standing at the same crossroads that you were standing at last year, wondering

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how everyone got so far ahead while you were just trying to keep up.

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My friend, I want to tell you something true, you are not behind, there is no race, there

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is no finish line that everyone but you can see, there is only your own life unfolding

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at its own honest pace.

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Today, we set down the measuring stick, this is a meditation when you feel like the only

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one who hasn't got it together.

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Welcome, this is calming anxiety, I'm your host Martin, clinical hypnotherapist, former

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paramedic, comparison is one of the quietest thieves I know, truly.

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It steals a perfectly good life by holding it up next to someone who else's highlight

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real is awesome.

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And here's the thing, most of what you're comparing

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yourself to isn't even real.

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It's a feed, a curated window, the best two seconds of someone's whole week.

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When I built Anchored the app, I made one firm decision.

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Anchored has no feed, no likes, no numbers, no strangers appearing to do better than you.

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It's one app on your phone that never asks you to measure up.

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It simply asks, how are you?

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So find your quiet place today.

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Somewhere relaxing where you won't be disturbed and will steady you with box breathing today.

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Here's the one science line, by making your in breath your whole, your out breath all the

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same, you're sending a signal to your nervous system, a message it cannot argue with.

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You are safe and you are in control.

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So picture a square, four equal walls and we'll trace it together.

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Ready?

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With me.

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Breathe in, two, three, four, hold, two, three, four, breathe out, two, three, four, hold, two,

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three, four.

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That's one box complete.

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Just draw the next one. 관심isoot

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Ready?

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Breathe in

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One more time around the square

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Breathe in

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Let your breath go loose and easy once more

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Did you feel it?

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The four steady walls around you

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Nothing rushing in

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No where you have to go

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Just feel that sense of unwinding

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With every outwrap

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Reach out with your thoughts

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Feel your breath

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Feel your breath

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Feel your breath

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Feel your body

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And love all that you are

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For all that you are

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Be proud of even the small moments of success

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Now within this moment

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Allow a warm golden light to rise

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Maybe amber

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It's slow, like sunlight moving up a wall

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Let it fill you

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From your feet to the crown of your head

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And as it rises

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Feel the comparing, the counting, the not enough

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Feel it lift away

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Like early morning mist

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And then in the beauty of your thoughts

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Say these words with me softly

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In your own voice

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I am not behind

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I am exactly where my life is

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I am not behind

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I am exactly where my life is

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Another person's chapter 20 is not my chapter 5

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I am enough at this pace

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On this ordinary day

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I am enough at this pace

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On this ordinary day

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I let go of the race

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That no one is actually running

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I let go of the race

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That no one is actually running

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I am safe

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I am safe

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I am here

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There is nothing to fear right now

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My worth was never a number

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A milestone or a moment I think I missed

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I am allowed to be a work in progress

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And still be home

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There is nothing to prove no one to catch up to

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Relax now

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Ever deeper

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Imagine your soul safe and secure

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You are home

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You are home

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And you are worthy

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Just you

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And that is enough

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And to help you grow

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To help you find balance and self-worth in all that you do

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Here are your three daily caring tips

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When you catch yourself comparing gently ask

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Whose life am I actually measuring?

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And do I even know the whole of it?

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Write down one thing you did today

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That your youngest self would be proud of

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How ever small it seems

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Take a short break from the feed today

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Even one single hour

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And notice how much quieter your mind becomes

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Now softly, gently

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Let's come back into the room now

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Wiggle your fingers and your toes

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Feel the ground holding you up

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Steadiest the four walls

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Breathe in, hold

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And as you exhale stretch out the muscles in your arms and legs

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And open your eyes whenever you are ready

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You are not late

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You are not lacking

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You are on your own road

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If this brought you some quiet

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Come and find the Anchored app

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Follow the box breathing there

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Create your own moment of magic

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The one place on your phone with no feed

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No numbers nothing to measure up to

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Just sessions like this one

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Whenever you need them

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And if someone you love has been feeling left behind

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Why not share this episode with them

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Remind them they are not the only one

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None of us are

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Your pace is your right pace my friend

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I'm Martin

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I'll be here again with you again tomorrow

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So in all that you do

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Smile

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Positiveity as often as you can

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And then to your beautiful self

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Be kind

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