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If you've ever stood in a meeting, holding an award, accepting a promotion and quietly

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thought, "Why do I feel like I don't deserve this?"

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Like any second now, someone's going to tap you on the shoulder and ask you to give

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it all back.

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I want you to know that feeling has a name.

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It's called imposter syndrome and it is so common and far less true than it feels right

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now.

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Hi there and welcome.

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This is the calming anxiety podcast, your daily sanctuary.

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I'm Martin, clinical hypnotherapist and I've spent years helping high achieving people

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quite at voice that tells them they're about to be found out and I felt like that every

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day is a paramedic.

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Hello, let's settle in now with the breath, find your quiet place somewhere you won't

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be disturbed.

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You can sit or lie down, headphones on as well and if it's safe, close your eye.

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Today, we'll use the breathing pattern I've lent on so heavily all my life in the seconds

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before walking into emergency in the moment before I stepped on the mats as a sparring martial

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outing.

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This is box breathing.

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It works because it gives your nervous system something steady to hold on to.

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We'll breathe in for full through the nose always.

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You'll hold at the top to be steady and then breathe out through your mouth for six.

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Gentle and relaxed, ready with me.

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Breathe in to who?

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Three, four, fours, two, release, two, three, four, five, six.

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Allow yourself to one wine.

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Let's do that again.

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Ready?

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In.

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Two.

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Three.

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Four.

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Howell.

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Two.

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Release.

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Two.

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Three.

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Four.

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Five.

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Sit.

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Allow yourself to melt

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into the surface beneath you.

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Let's do that again.

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Breathe in.

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Two.

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Three.

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Four.

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Pause.

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Two.

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Breathe out.

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Three.

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Four.

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Five.

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Sit.

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One more round.

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Allow the muscles to one wine on the out-wrapped.

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Breathe in.

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Three.

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Four.

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Howell.

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Two.

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Breathe out.

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Two.

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Three.

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Four.

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Five.

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Six.

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Just rest.

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Truly held in this moment.

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Just you.

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The almost hypnotic rhythm, the rise and fall of each and every breath in the sound of

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my voice.

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Breath after out-wrapped.

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You drift deeply.

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Save in the sanctuary of your consciousness.

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Relighting your own strength, your own focus and clarity, because simply put, you are worthy.

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Just feel the weight of your body on the surface that supports you.

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Within this moment of calm today, in your mind's eye, truly, see these next words, visualizing

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them in your thoughts, taking note of the colour that you chose, the brightness.

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Once heard, repeat them softly in your thoughts and then imagine the echo of them, becoming

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part of all that you are.

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My success was not an accident, I built it one decision at a time.

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I do not need to feel ready to be qualified.

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I already am.

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The doubt in my mind is not evidence of incompetence, it is simply doubt.

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I am allowed to take up the space I have learned.

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I do not owe anyone an explanation for how far I have come.

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Breathe in, two, three, four, whole, two, relax, two, three, four, five, six, and allow these

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words to settle a little deeper.

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I was chosen, hired, promoted and trusted, not by accident, but because of what I bring.

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Other people's confidence is not proof of my inadequacy, it is just their costume too.

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I release the need to be flawless to feel deserving.

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My achievements do not require a disclaimer.

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I belong in the room, I worked hard to enter.

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Now just rest here a moment, within that truth, there is nothing to hide behind, there is

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no script to fear forgetting, just you, fully qualified to be exactly who you are.

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And to carry with you, this growing sense of self-worth, here are today's three daily

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caring tips.

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One, the evidence file.

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Next time the fraud feeling creeps in, write down one concrete thing you did to get where

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you are, a skill you built, a problem you solved.

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After running list, doubt really survives contact with evidence.

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Two, the universal doubt to check, remind yourself that the most accomplished people you admire

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have likely felt this exact same flutter stage.

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Imposter syndrome doesn't shrink with achievement, it just gets better dread.

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And three, the pause before comparing, when you catch yourself comparing your behind the

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scenes to someone else's highlight reel, pause and ask, am I comparing my whole story to

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their best five minutes?

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Now gently bring your awareness back into the room around you.

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Keep deep breath in and as you exhale gently wiggle your fingers and toes then stretch out

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the arms overhead.

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And when you're ready my friend, open your eyes.

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Showing up today, doing the work despite the voice whispering, you don't deserve this,

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that takes real courage, that is not nothing, that is everything.

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I suffer from this more than anyone, I turn up each day, I do these meditations to quash

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the four year old within me with all those doubts and I've become who I've always wanted

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to be and I hope you become you.

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Have a lovely day.

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If you want more support, why not check out the anxiety circuit break course, a calming

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anxiety dot FM, it's only sixty seven dollars, it's five of my most focused clinical hypnotherapy

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sessions, anxiety, take care, smile often and your beautiful soul, be kind.

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