♪ Made a decision on me ♪
♪ I'll face the sunny sun ♪
♪ And on a head of vision ♪
♪ What is life be like? ♪
- Hey, Ray, what's happening?
I hope everybody had a good Labor Day weekend.
- Oh my gosh.
I, well, we could tell people the truth.
- Yeah, we're recording on Sunday evening.
And the reason why is because,
oh, oh my, I'm Jumom's.
One of my Jumom's is having a party for Labor Day.
And I believe that I couldn't go last,
or we recorded in the morning,
and then I had to go really late.
So I was just like, you know what?
- Yeah. - What if we recorded,
'cause we don't have Kaelin to tell us
boss us around?
- Right.
- I was like, "We're gonna do whatever the fuck we want."
- That's right.
- So we decided we were gonna record on a Sunday night.
- Yeah, so we're here.
- Labor Day Eve.
- Labor Day Eve in Patrick is having a little party
for the kids outside.
They're running around.
- No, you know what they're doing?
They're having swim lessons.
- Oh, is that what's going on?
- So he hired a swim teacher.
This is our Patrick.
And all of these families, he said there's 12 kids
where are coming staggered times and doing a swim lesson.
- Oh.
- And it went from like a 1030 to like five.
- Wow.
It's been going all day.
- Yeah, water safety, man.
That's so nice of him.
- I know.
- That's smart.
Patrick loves to entertain him and his wife, Shuri.
They are entertainers.
- They really do love it.
- They do.
- Yeah, so if you hear little kids in the background.
So happy birthday.
It was just your birthday.
- Thank you.
(laughing)
- If you listen to our page, we just made,
I just had a breakthrough on Patreon
and realized why I resent having to like,
to celebrate people's birthdays, my birthday,
but that is that aside.
I hope you had an amazing birthday.
What'd you do?
- Okay, so yeah, I mean, it's just,
I forget sometimes it's my birthday, you know, whatever.
But so Natalia, tech, so we moved her in last weekend
and then my birthday was on a Tuesday.
So she that weekend, she was like,
oh, you know, your birthday's coming up.
What are you gonna do?
And I was like, I don't know.
I haven't really thought about it.
And she's like, why don't you drive up on Tuesday
and we'll have dinner, you know?
And I was like, okay, she's like dinner on me
'cause she made a little cheddar over the summer break.
- Oh yeah!
- Yeah, she had a job.
So she's like, dinner on me.
Yeah.
So I was like, okay.
And then of course she's like, do you want to invite
like all my roommates or,
I don't like, just let's bring, you know,
her best friend, her one roommate that she's close with,
like, you know, Shelley.
Well, just bring her, you know,
so the three of us, 'cause I really like her.
She's been in my house a lot this summer.
She's really sweet, blah, blah, blah.
She's like, okay, cool, cool, cool.
- Did you say as long as your friend gets me a gift?
Like, what you gonna get me?
- No, no, no.
So I registered on Amazon.
- Right, right.
- For you, Gels.
- Yeah, no, that's not, I'm not like that.
- That's not how you roll.
- No, no, no.
But, okay, so then Tuesday, okay, so Tuesday comes Tuesday morning,
and you inspired me to go to the gym more,
so I've been going to the YMCA,
but I can't fucking take this, do a treadmill,
takes forever.
It's like, you're in my brain going,
oh my God, it's only been eight minutes.
(laughs)
And then it goes to cool down and like,
fuck you and you're cool down.
I'm out.
- Yeah, exactly, cool down in the parking lot.
- I've got some good, my new trick is watching a show.
You gotta get like a Netflix stupid show
that you can watch. - And then you just stick it
on the thing in front of you.
- That's a good idea.
- You just watch TV.
- That's a good idea.
- Yeah.
I was watching my daily dose of Donna podcast.
- Okay.
- You were watching it or listening?
- Yeah, it's on YouTube.
'Cause she shows like pictures and videos and stuff.
- Got it. - Anyway, okay, so,
so I came back from the gym and sunny,
I go, "Sunny, why don't you come with us?
"I'm going to have dinner."
I think I mentioned to him the day before,
like on text and he was like, "Yeah, maybe."
And then so anyway, I said,
- Maybe.
- Yeah, he was like, "Maybe."
- You were like for my birthday.
- I didn't say that.
I just said, "I'm going to have dinner with Natalia tomorrow night."
So then I see him and I said, "Why don't you come with me
"to have dinner with Natalia?"
And he's like, "Oh."
- Is this on your birthday?
- On my birthday. - Yeah.
And he goes, "Did he wish you had a holiday?"
- Hold on, I'm getting my birthday.
- Oh, I'm sorry, sorry.
(laughing)
My brain is working too fast.
- I know, 'cause it's later in the day,
it's not like first thing Monday morning
we're doing a podcast.
- I know.
- Yeah, so anyway.
So I said, he said, "Well, I made plans
"with my friends to play basketball at the high school."
And I was like, "All right."
And then I go, I go, "I said,
"Why do you think I'm having dinner with Natalia?"
And he goes, "I don't know,
"'cause she wants you to have dinner with her."
And I go, "Do you have anything to say to me today?"
And he goes, "Then he thinks he's in trouble."
And he's like, "No, why?"
And I go, "Nothing to say to me today."
And he goes, "Today."
And then he goes, "Oh, happy birthday."
- Oh no, that's how he said it?
Yes.
It's okay 'cause Sonny's whatever, Sonny's sunny.
You know.
- I know, but you do a lot for Sonny.
- I know, okay, so I'll bring him back.
I'll circle back to him.
So then, okay, so I drive out there two hours.
- So that didn't change his mind though?
- No.
- The recollection that it's your birthday.
He wasn't like, "Shit, I can cancel basketball."
- Right, yeah.
- No, and it was fine.
I actually wanted to go to dinner with just Natalia
and the girls.
- Yeah, just the girls.
So, two hour drive out there, I get there, you know, 6'30.
Her friends, her guy friends that she's been friends with,
she's been close with, were there.
All her roommates were there.
They got me flowers and cupcakes.
And her guy friends were like,
"You know, I just wanted to come by and say happy birthday
to you and give me a hug."
And like, it was so sweet.
I mean, it was the best night I've had in a long time.
So that is how I kicked off.
- We know.
- You took the girls.
- I know, right?
Leave it to the daughters, yeah.
So, and then I go, "Well, you guys wanna come to dinner?"
(laughing)
And they were like, "Talya is like, I'm not paying for all that."
- Yeah, I'm not paying for all that.
And they're like, "Now, you know, we're studying."
"You guys just go have fun, whatever."
I love cupcakes when you get back.
So, okay, so I get an Italian car
and she's immediately playing Bruce Springsteen.
- No!
- I know, I know.
And you know, I always told her that like,
when I would play Springsteen for them when they were little,
that I said, "One day, I just want you guys
when you're older, that you're like out in the world
and maybe you're somewhere together
and you hear Springsteen song
and you guys just look at each other and think of mom."
Like, that's my dream, whatever.
So she knows, anyway, so, so, okay, so I get in the car.
It's like a 15 minute drive to a really nice Italian restaurant
and she's never been there.
And we sat outside, the weather was beautiful.
It was so nice, it wasn't cold or hot.
And she's like, you know, order up, you know, whatever.
And she's like, "It's on me.
We had a great dinner.
You know, I got all the scoop on her roommates
and how they are and like, what they're studying
and like, she's learning so much from all these other people
that she's living with.
Like, she said, "We sat on the beach one night
for five hours without our phone."
Talking about one of her roommates is studying political science.
And like, so they were, they were got,
they talked about politics and they were like,
just everybody was like giving, you know,
talking, sharing ideas and whatever.
And then they all go surfing now, like,
at the same time in the evenings and she's,
mom, I just love it out here.
It's great.
My roommates are like so interesting and so, you know,
like, she's learning a lot from them.
And these are new girls that she's living with.
And they're really sweet, you know.
So I got like all the tea at dinner and it was really nice.
And then she surprised me with like, they sang Happy Birthday.
They brought their little cake out and she paid for dinner.
And then like, we get in the car.
- Yeah, for dinner for both of you guys.
- Yeah, all three of you?
- All three of us, she paid.
- Aww.
- Yeah, she got money, she should.
So, and then like got back in the car
and then she played Thunder Road,
which is my favorite Bruce Springsteen song.
And she knows that.
And we were like holding hands and she had the sunroof,
and I was singing and I took video of it.
And we were like singing and she's like singing to me
and she's holding my hand and she, you know,
all the words to all the songs and then she's,
and then her friends in the backseat going,
"Oh my God, this is a great song."
And then she's like, "Oh, wait, let me play you another song."
She's playing all the deep cuts that I love, you know.
It was such a like a magical night.
It was so awesome.
And it's like, I know Natalia loves me,
but she's not really like, lovey-dovey like that.
She was just so sweet and so kind and it's like,
"Mom, I'm so grateful for everything you deserve it."
You know, and then she's telling me to tell stories about us,
like, you know, to her friend, like about me.
She's like, "Imitate your mom to, you know, her friend."
And so it was just such a touching evening, you know?
And then got back to her house and then they sang "Happy Birthday"
again to me and they got the cupcakes and, you know, whatever.
And then, yeah, and then I hit the road and I was like,
you know, I got home at like 1130.
It was just such a great, great evening.
Oh, so then I get home and Sonny was like, I cleaned up,
like I did the dishes, I vacuumed, I took to trash out.
Happy birthday, baby.
Happy birthday, mom.
And the next morning.
One time for the birthday.
Right.
And then the next morning, so then the next day he gets up,
he goes to work and then I talk to Natalia the next day
and she goes, "Did Sonny do anything for your birthday?"
When you got home and I go, yeah, he cleaned the house
and she goes, that's it because she texted him.
And she was like, you better do something for mom.
So then he goes to work, he comes home but he makes a pit stop
at the Italian deli and he bought all the Italian meats I like
and the cheese and the bread and he came into the Italian cookies
and he came home.
He's like, "Happy Birthday, mom."
So that was my...
Oh, hey, that's cute.
Yeah.
That was my one day late.
One day late.
I know.
Day late, a dollar short.
Yeah.
Sonny's not really sentimental that way.
And then he's also the kid that's like,
his birthday comes and goes and he's like,
I'm like, what do you want for your birthday?
One thing he's always like, I'm, you know, he's not,
he's like you, he's not a big, yeah, celebrator.
Yeah, yeah.
So Natalia likes tradition.
So...
So funny because Sadie loves tradition too.
Sadies are a sentimental girl.
Yeah, like you're a certain planning.
Who starts planning your birthday like weeks before
and having secret meetings with the other two siblings
and yeah, it's pretty cute.
Yeah, that's nice.
It's really cute.
So I got one and one, you know, whatever.
Yeah, it's fine.
I'll be cooking care less.
Right.
They, yeah.
And Natalia, well she used to be that way.
She really, I mean, her friends used to have to tell her,
like, today's your mom's birthday.
And then I got texts from all her other friends,
by the way, that they, we grew up with that night.
They were like, happy birthday, Mrs. C.
Miss you, like they're at school,
like two of her friends at her gone to college,
like text me.
It was just really sweet.
Yeah.
It was a great, great birthday.
And then, and then I went out to dinner with a friend.
I can tell you that, should we,
what time?
Well, time.
We got time.
Yeah.
So that, well now, okay, so then Melissa and Suzanne,
Melissa's like all over my birthday every year,
all the time, Suzanne.
And she's, like, we do our birthdays together,
like the three of us,
or will expand it to the ABC girls.
Um, but are there birthdays near yours?
No.
So whenever it's their birthdays will like, you know,
go out to dinner, whatever.
And it doesn't have to be on the day, like,
we just kind of, you know, celebrate.
But Melissa this year, she was like,
I think we should go somewhere and spend the night
and she goes, I'll buy it, be a treat on me.
And there's this like place, I can't even,
it's like in the, not the palisade,
but it's like Santa Monica,
some hotel that has a spot.
So basically, I just want to interrupt to say that
I was asking for a favor on your birthday.
Right.
And you were like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna,
as soon as I get where I'm going and I,
okay, cool.
I never said happy birthday.
No, no, no.
And I have to text her because she was at a town that day.
Oh my God, that's not why I brought that up.
I'm just saying, oh my God, I was like busy going like,
hey, can you do something for me on your birthday?
That's so, why was fine.
No, I gotta do that because,
but that day she was out of town with her family traveling.
But now she's back.
So now we're supposed to go to this weekend's like one night
overnight, just the three of us at some hotel.
Okay, it hasn't happened yet.
Yeah, that's coming next this weekend.
Oh, this weekend you're going?
Coming up, yeah.
Where are you going?
Saturday.
Some hotel like in Santa Monica,
I can't think of the name of it.
I'll tell you, maybe I shouldn't say on the air.
Yeah, don't say on the air.
I thought maybe you'd be going somewhere like,
oh, hi, or you know,
for the massages.
We used to do it at this place when we were like years ago
when we were like, had little kids,
we would go like, just the girls for the day.
Like go get massages and sit by the pool.
But this time she wants to, both of them are like,
we need to get away.
We want to spend the night out and I was like, okay.
When they want to get away from their husbands traveling,
I don't know.
Right.
Yeah, so that's coming up.
Yeah.
And then I got a lot of shit coming up.
Like I got family members coming to stay with me
for like two weeks and different weeks,
not at the same time.
Right.
And then is there a day in between?
There's a week in between.
Okay.
It's like Anthony and his family are coming for a week.
And then the two weeks later,
his brother and his wife and the baby in Wendy are coming
for a week.
And then at the end of that week,
we go to Florida for a week.
That's in October.
Wow.
I'm in New Zealand, Wendy and I go, yeah.
So yeah, I got a lot of stuff coming up.
That's good.
Keep busy.
Yeah.
And then I went out to dinner on Saturday night.
Friend of mine took me out to dinner.
Uh-huh.
Guy friend.
And we went to this place called Kaviar in Pasadena.
Okay.
And I know you like Kaviar.
Love it.
I do too.
My friends never had Kaviar, but he picked the place.
Okay.
So he ordered the Kaviar.
We had sushi Kaviar.
They bring like this big thing and it like,
like, with the smoke, you know, the, the ice, the dry ice,
you know, they take the lid off, ding, you know,
and then they have like the pearl spoons in the Kaviar.
It was really good.
It was really nice.
But here's the weird thing.
Okay.
It's at this really swanky restaurant in Pasadena.
And in the middle of dinner, this woman comes, like,
dancing for us.
Like, yeah, so it's a Japanese restaurant.
This woman, she, beautiful figure, she's tall.
She looks like a professional dancer, but she was dressed
all in a unitarred, like, very, like, from her wrists
all the way to her neck, all the way down to her ankles,
just a unitarred.
And it was like, kind of see through,
but with like black lace over it.
And she's just doing like, she looks like she should have had
like wings on her, like a showgirl.
And she had like showgirl makeup on.
She was young and she was just walk, she came to our table
and she's like looking at us and my guy friends,
like, this is kind of weird and uncomfortable.
Like, what are we supposed to do?
And she's like, like, making icon and like standing in front
and then she moves to the next table.
And then she came back again and it was like for like an hour
while we were eating dinner, she was just walking
or so weird.
Isn't that weird?
Remember when it was a thing where you'd go to dinner
and somebody would come by with roses?
- Yes.
- I don't think that's a thing anymore.
But remember, and then you'd always, it was always so awkward
'cause you're like, you don't wanna be like stuck
having to buy the rose, but if you're on the date with a guy
and then the guy feels kind of pressured,
like, do you want a rose?
And then you'd be like, no, I don't know, I'm fine.
- That was so popular for a long time.
Yeah, that's gone now.
And let's see that.
I mean, like if you're like at a Mediterranean restaurant,
like belly dancers might show up or whatever,
but we're in a Japanese restaurant.
- But sometimes at Mexican restaurants too,
like the mariachi bands that we buy and they're like,
"Duh, like you're playing in front of your face."
And they're like, "Okay, cool.
"Can't hear each other talk."
- Right.
- Yes.
- And then you were like, do I tip a, like, do I?
- That's what I was like, does she wanna tip or something?
He's like, no, I don't think so.
No, no.
It was bizarre, but it was a great, it was a really nice dinner
and then they brought me a cake with a big old sparkler
and saying happy birthday.
And then like walk, we walked around like old town.
Old town Pasadena is kind of changed.
It used to be like very packed with people.
Now I don't know, maybe it's COVID,
but it's like things closed down early and it's kind of empty.
So we just like walked around and that was,
that was Saturday night.
So yeah, it's been nice.
And then a lot of people have reached out.
- That's so good.
- Yeah.
I was just thinking that, do you remember like,
'cause when I was in my 20s, mid 20s to into my 30s,
I lived right next near the Santa Monica promenade.
- Oh yeah.
- And that place was so happen all the time,
but I've heard it totally died.
- Yeah, it's weird.
And the Santa Monica mall, I think is almost closing down,
the outdoor mall, but that whole block used to be,
I mean, we had so many favorite restaurants right there.
- Yeah, I never went down to Santa Monica,
but I just read though recently
that they're letting people walk around with drinks
in Santa Monica promenade.
- Oh, they gotta do something.
- I guess to bring people back.
But yeah, a lot of like, yeah,
old town pastini used to be like hop in people walking around,
like restaurants and bars and stuff,
but like, yeah, it was pretty dead, but it was fun.
- When I was in my 20s, you know,
and it was before I ever had a real job.
So I got my first real job.
You know what?
Let's do an add or two.
And I will tell you a story.
- Yes. - So it's my youth.
- Yeah, girl.
- So I was just gonna say that when I was,
before I ever had my first job working on a TV show
with Mark Wahlberg, it was the host of it.
Before that, I waited tables at a lot of different restaurants.
And because I lived right by the promenade,
I would just go to the promenade.
I worked at Goucho Girl.
- Oh, you still love Goucho Girl.
- Yeah, the food is so good.
- Yes.
- Really good food.
- Yeah.
- The boss, the manager there was just like such a male show
of an ass pig.
Like he would only hire pretty girls.
And you know, I was in my 20s, was a cutie.
- Right. - Back then, walked in,
said I was looking for a job.
He was like, yeah, let me give you an interview.
Sit down, interview's me, offers me the job.
I start working there.
A while later, me and the manager, who I started sleeping with,
(laughs)
found a bunch of like resumes in like by the kind of the host,
like in a drawer basically.
And they were all ranked, he ranked all the girls
of people on their looks.
- Oh, what a douche.
- One of, you know, this girl's pretty.
And he was ranking, like giving them a numerical.
- Oh my God.
- Yeah.
And we were like, oh Jesus.
- Was this in the 80s?
- No, it was 90s.
- In the 90s?
- Well, yeah.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, 90s because.
- Yeah.
- Like mid 90s?
- Yeah.
- That sounds about right.
I feel like there was a lot of douchey guys like that,
back then.
- Yeah, I didn't try and hide it.
I'm trying to think, okay, so it was,
I had a boyfriend at the time.
That's when I was with the guy that lived in Santa Monica
that moved to Italy.
- Yeah, I love that story.
- Yeah.
- And then he told me to continue to start his car
for him once a week.
- Right, yeah.
(laughing)
- And then at one point wanted me to ship him
some of his old CDs.
Like he fully broke up with me and wanted nothing to do with me.
But then it was like, can you send me,
and it was some shitty band like new shoes.
What was up?
And I was like, really?
Like he wanted you to send the CDs to him in Italy.
- Yeah.
- And then start his car once a week.
- Yeah.
- And I had to do it because he was the,
he leased the apartment.
- Mm-hmm.
- I had shitty credit back then.
- Yeah, it was a hot mess.
- Yeah, yeah.
- I was too.
I was driving the knockoff of a Mercedes Mustang,
which was called Capri.
- Uh-huh.
- And I, some point,
something happened in my window and a back window was broken.
So I just drove away on with no window in the back.
(laughing)
And then parking tickets that would just pile up.
- Same.
- Like I don't know what am I supposed to do?
Like I'm so, so, so, I, I know, nobody taught me.
I'm like, I gotta send a check to them within 25 days.
Or what?
What are they gonna do?
- This is why we love each other.
- Yeah.
- I had one my car on the Hollywood squares
and then promptly never paid the taxes.
You remember that?
- Oh, yeah.
- And then people were like, you never paid your taxes?
And I was like, no.
- Yeah.
- I don't know what, like with what?
What am I supposed to just tell them?
- Right.
- You, I gotta be in the mail, but I'm sure I just was like,
- Yeah, what do you supposed to do?
- I know.
I would get jobs and they'd give you the form for the taxes.
I'm like, huh?
What?
I mean, my parents were like, you know,
they were Italian immigrants.
They didn't ever show me or taught me anything.
I had to go to like my friends that had jobs.
- Right.
- I go, what is this?
I'm supposed to claim a dependent, I don't get it.
What am I supposed to do?
- Right.
- And then yeah, so I said,
"Pay taxes?
How does that work?
What am I?
(laughs)
Totally.
Just like, and then insurance for the car, forget it.
- Right, forget it.
I tried to keep up with it and then I was like,
"Yeah."
(laughs)
When I moved out to LA, so I was like,
I was 18, I turned 19 on the road on the way out.
I was saying moved out when I was 18,
but by the time I was living in LA,
I was newly minted 19 year old.
But oh my God, I had a credit card
that my mother had co-signed for me.
- Mm-hmm.
- I had, and my car had like 100,000 miles on it
and was rusted through.
It was my old Mazda GLC,
pieceshit car that couldn't go faster than 40 miles
on the freeway.
- Right.
- And then I didn't pay any bills
because I was like, with what?
- With what?
So I literally had like a few hundred dollars.
My friend that I moved here with
had money from her bought Mitzvah.
- Say.
- So she put the money down for our apartment,
but then like we could waste no time.
We had to get jobs day one.
- Yes.
- 'Cause we were not gonna be able to pay our next month's rent.
- Right.
- So that's when I got the job selling office supplies
over the phone and at the Egyptian movie theater.
- Oh yeah, yeah.
- But then remember,
they wanted me to buy the right color shoes?
- Oh, that's right.
- And I was like, how am I supposed to do that?
If I could afford new shoes,
I wouldn't be working at a movie theater, right?
So I got fired from there.
I would just get fired from jobs.
- Right.
- And then I tempt for a while,
but you know what,
tempering the money wasn't as good as just waiting tables.
- Yeah.
- So I got into like cocktail waitressing
where you could skim a little bit of money off the top.
- Yeah.
- I was a total hustler.
- Yeah.
- Cocktail, I cocktailed it so many different places.
- See, I wanted to do that stuff.
I wanted to be like a bartender or cocktail
or work the front desk or what I was too scared
because I can't count fast.
So people give me money.
And I remember Wendy trying to teach me like,
let's practice, you can do it, you can do it.
I just be like,
20, I don't know how much chain,
I'd be like counting on my fingers.
I could not do the master.
I'm like, okay, I can't do any of those kind of jobs.
So then I got,
like then I,
I know somebody's girlfriend ran a preschool
like in Kanoga Park.
And she was like,
why don't you come, you know, work,
you like kids come work at the preschool.
And I was like,
and then she had a room available.
So then I rented a room from her house.
That was the first time I moved out.
So I got a job with the preschool working
and I just remember.
- There's been much money though.
- No, it wasn't.
But then I got a job as a Budweiser girl.
- Right, so you're doing those jobs concurrently.
- Yes, yeah, yeah.
'Cause the Budweiser got, until I got fired, drinking.
- Right, drinking a course.
- Yeah.
- I was drinking Bud light in a course like Cup, Solo Cup.
- So to be fair, I did,
in their defense, I could kind of see,
- No, I know.
- No, I'm literally a brand ambassador for it.
And then you're showing off a different brand.
- Well, I would go to Jeremiah's, excuse me,
in Northridge and hang out there.
And that's how I met them.
They were like, do you wanna be a Bud light girl?
But you only have to drink Bud light
when you're even when you're not working.
- Oh, so you weren't working?
- No, I was working at the preschool,
but I was hanging out at night.
- Right, but I'm saying you weren't on the job
because the Bud girl was the dream.
- Because you didn't work in course?
- Yeah, so when I got hired, they said,
no drinking anything else, even when you're off,
the talk.
And those guys would hang out at Jeremiah's as well.
So I remember that night, I was not working.
I was off.
- Oh, okay.
- I went to traffic school that night
and then I went and met everybody at Jeremiah's
and they had course light solo cups.
So I ordered the, so the guys from Bud light,
they were there and they were like, yeah, you're done.
I was like, oh great.
That was good money.
That was a hundred bucks a night,
which was a lot of money back then.
- A lot, I thought I was a woo-hoo.
- Yeah, I do it.
I know.
For a couple hours passing out key chains.
- Right.
- At bars on like Monday night football night,
it was great.
- Yeah.
- And then I tried to be a,
what's the green beer?
And not anizer.
Oh God, it's popular.
Anyway, it's great.
Anyway, I tried to work for another beer company
and they never had promotion, so that was that.
So I went back to, I mean, I was doing the preschool.
- Right.
- Yeah.
- I worked at this one place midwilshier area.
It was a hotel and it was all like older Korean businessmen.
- Yes.
- Do you know what I'm talking about?
- Yeah, I had a, if I know what you're going,
where you're going.
- I think it was called Cafe Carnival,
but it was in the lobby of this hotel.
It was only Asian businessmen.
- Yeah.
- And except for, I know I've told you this story
before, except for Tom Likus.
- Oh God.
(laughing)
- What?
So Tom Likus would come.
Like every day, I guess, at a certain time.
- I would be ready when he got off work.
- So Tom Likus was this LA.
He was only in LA, right?
- Yeah.
- And then he drove time.
- Well, then he did, then he think he moved to Seattle.
- Okay.
- Because he was kind of big in Washington for a while.
He was a radio guy, like, drive time,
and he would do flash Fridays where he was such a pig.
He was like-- - He was a real pig.
- Yeah, he would be like, hey, get out there
and when you're driving, you're on your horn,
like, do flash Fridays.
He want people like, you know--
- Shother tits, just the car.
- Yeah, yeah, he was a scumbag.
So he was there?
- So he was there, and you know,
I was the same woke bitch that I am now.
So I was like,
(grunting)
Tom Likus, you know?
He was just like a little troll of a man too.
- Yeah, he was a little troll.
- He was just like a real active, total like,
just with this big,
beer belly and-- - Like, he just looked--
- He looked, just really gross and like,
very alcoholic-y looking.
- Yeah.
- And we had to wear these really short skirts.
We had to wear these mid-drift tops
and then short skirts and it was poked on.
It was so like-- - Right.
- So bad.
But I just remember he was very quiet, very friendly,
and he was a good tipper.
And that was when I learned, like, you know what?
- Whatever.
- The camp you know?
(laughing)
Tips or tips?
I had a friend that worked, she was interesting.
She was very artsy, but she worked as like,
in one of those downtown LA,
like not speakeasy, but like bars,
but they would hire girls to like hang out
to get the, you know, I don't, she was not an escort,
but she would just go there,
just to hang out and like, talk to these guys,
and then they would pay her.
I just remember that was like so long ago.
That's crazy.
I could never do that.
- I had so many one off, like,
cocktail weight-tracing jobs,
because then I would get,
I would either get fired or I would just get burnt out
and that show up. - Quickly.
Yeah, and then I would just be like,
I'm not working here.
- Yeah.
- I had a lot, wow, did I get fired
from a lot of weighting tables, jobs.
I had this one and I've told you this story before,
so I'll make it quick,
it was at that Mexican restaurant, Marix.
I could walk to it from,
I was living on like basically near Second Street,
between Ocean on San Vicente.
Basically, you could walk down the stairs
and I could be at Marix.
But man, I was supposed to work on a Super Bowl Sunday
and I was just drinking at someone's house
watching the game and I was like,
I just can't do it.
Told them, I called and said my car got towed.
Oh my God, I had the most elaborate
thing I know.
- I cannot believe, 'cause I am not a liar anymore.
Like, I couldn't tell, I really couldn't tell why.
- Yeah, right.
- Now, but in my 20s, somehow I just was like,
well, it was a good reason.
- Yeah, I was like, I can't go to work.
- Right.
- What else am I gonna say?
- Right, so I'm drinking at Super Bowl house.
- I told them that my car got towed
and I don't know if you remember this,
but they were like, oh, okay.
And I'm like, yeah, I mean, it's just terrible.
Like, I can't, I don't know what to do.
Like, I'm gonna have to go get my car out
and like, there's no way I can make it there.
The next shift that I worked, they're like,
hey, so can you bring us the paperwork to show that,
you know, to excuse you from missing that shift?
And I was like, totally, yes, like, yeah.
And then I just never went back there again.
(laughing)
And then I turned in my uniform.
It was like, so good.
- I remember that, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- I have this other job in Burbank at this place
that's like a mose I wanna sell.
- Oh yeah, you still love that place.
- I got hired there when I was first doing standup.
And I was, and okay, so I'm like,
oh, this will be a good job
'cause it was gonna be like good lunch rushes or whatever.
Except by the Burbank studios.
- Yes, except they wanted me to come in,
so I had to train there.
So my first few training days,
they wanted me to come in there at like seven in the morning
to like get all the salad dressings out.
I don't know, the lunch rush was started at like 10, 30 or something.
And I did that, I trained, so I had to train.
I couldn't make any tips for like,
I wanna say like four shifts.
- Right.
- And then I was like, yeah, I can't do this.
- Yeah.
- I'm not gonna get to work that early.
And then I had to go there because in order to get my last check,
the check for my stupid four days of training,
I had to turn in my uniform.
(laughing)
You and the uniform.
- I know, so I was like, oh, I needed,
it was like, oh, I really do need that check though.
- Yeah.
- I don't know how many hours it was,
but say it was like 20 hours I'd worked.
- Right.
- And they were so mad.
- Oh, I remember nobody would speak to me
when I went in that no one would guide me.
- Oh my God.
- And I was like, oh, they're saying,
you know what?
You would have been good at Stephanie.
And I tried out for it.
My, 'cause my dad was like, you know what you should do?
'Cause this was when I was still going on auditions and stuff.
It's like a lot of like working actors and actresses.
- Universal tour guide.
- You're gonna say that.
- Yeah.
- 'Cause the old b-sheet should do that.
- Yes, that's a great, I think that would be,
I think I told Natalia that a while ago, but yeah,
I think that--
- It doesn't pay well.
- It doesn't.
Well, it's like minimum wage.
- Right.
Well, I was like, one of my first job, you know,
like going out looking for a real job.
And he was like, you know, you go there,
they give you a notebook, you're supposed to study it,
and then you're supposed to get up in front of everybody
and like, you know, whatever you studied, you know,
talk about the studio and about the shark
and about the, you know, everything.
And I did, I sat there for like six hours training,
and then when it got time to get up to talk, I boned out.
- Ah!
- I bounced, I was like, I was so shy.
I was like 19, I was like, no way.
I can't do that.
- So you studied and everything?
- I was there for hours.
I did the whole like day of training,
and then they took a break,
and then when we come back, we're gonna have you guys get up
and I was like, bye.
- Oh my God!
That's crazy.
- I know.
I know, but yeah, you would have been good at that.
- I was always only interested in tips.
- Yeah, that's true.
- I was like, I need quick money.
From the time I was 16, like my first job was Burger King,
which I got fired.
But then, first after that, I got a job at Abdao's Big Boy
because it was Big Boys, but it was in the Springfield,
so it was called Abdao's.
And that was a shitty job.
It was like family, restaurant.
- Right.
- You get like, sometimes a party of six would leave you like,
50 cents.
- Oh, just.
- And you had to carry like, just an ass load of waters
at the same time.
It was like a flex if you could carry,
you had to learn how to carry like 20 waters at the time.
- Yeah, yeah.
- You're gonna art to it.
- Right.
- And we didn't have trays,
we have as many fleses you could on your hand at one time.
- Right.
- So you had to be, anyway, it was really hard work.
My feet would have worked.
Oh my God.
I was in therapy at the time too.
And I was living at home.
I was like 16.
And I remember that I was always getting into arguments at work
because I was always really, the managers,
restaurant managers are some of the worst people.
- I can never.
- Ever.
- And you know, you know,
you're assholes.
- Right.
- By a large, almost all of them are mean people.
- Right.
- It's just kind of a thankless job.
- Yes.
- I feel like the people that are attracted to it
are a little bit power hungry, but not ambitious enough
for something else.
- Yes.
- They just want to boss around.
- Right.
- Wages is impossible.
- Yeah.
- Dude, your job is shitty too.
- Yeah.
- Like, you know?
- Right.
- Sure, when you're like a 16 year old waitress,
you think they're like at the top of the food chain,
but then you live a life a little bit and you go,
no, that's also shitty job.
- Right.
- You shouldn't be in your forties and be in--
- No, exactly.
- Right.
- Exactly.
And happy with that.
- Yes.
- Just like, yeah, love this gets to like, you know?
- Yeah.
- I'm in charge of like, go do your side work, right?
- All right.
You don't have an attitude.
But I would get really mad at the way the manager would speak
to some of the servers.
And I was always getting like mad for other people.
And I'll never forget it was because it was big boys.
I would get so mad and there was a time I think I like stormed out
because I was like, I was always arguing about something.
- Right, right.
- Things change.
- Yeah.
- And I remember my therapist being like, you have to learn
like boundaries.
Like, you really need to take a breath and go,
does this have anything to do with me?
And I do remember a few times that I'd be like,
okay, I'm going to keep my mouth shut on this.
- Right.
- Yeah.
- On this one, they just yelled at somebody for spilling something
and I'd be like, don't do it.
- I think the therapist would say no.
And then I know I remember that it would just get the best of me
and I'd be like, that's just not fair.
- Whatever.
- I didn't get fired from there.
Then I worked at this Chinese restaurant in Springfield
called Joy of the Walk.
And that owner was such a, he was so mean.
He was really mean to all the servers.
Also, everybody was older than me.
Like I was the youngest person who worked there.
And I just remember being like, I am never going to be like these people.
They're talking about like recipes and their kids.
- Right.
- And I don't give a fuck.
I am 16 years old.
- 16 years old.
- I'm like 17.
And this is when I was getting ready to move.
And I had a horrible time at home.
Like my, you know, I just wanted out and I needed money.
And I would work a shift and just be like burning with like,
God, this place sucks and it's so busy.
And I just remember one day, I was like, some customer was kind of rude.
And I had like five or six tables going at once at various stages.
- I had a hell of you.
- Yeah.
- And then I walked out, oh my God, you see her.
Oh my God.
And I had an apron.
I had my tips.
I took my tips.
I threw my apron in the trash and it had all the tickets.
- Oh my God.
- And I don't want you guys to think that I'm broke.
I'm like, I was so, it was like it was terrible.
- Yeah, no, I know.
- I just didn't care.
- Yeah.
- I was angry.
I had a chip on my shoulder.
I was like, very mad at the world.
And I was like, I just want to move out of Springfield.
And my stepfather was a monster at the time.
And my mom wanted me out of the house.
And I was just like, fuck all y'all.
- It's a town for losers and I'm pulling out of here to win.
- Yeah.
- That's a spring stencil thunder rope.
- It is? - Yeah.
- Yeah.
- I was so unhappy.
But as you see, when I moved to LA, things did not change very quickly.
- Well, it's you've changed so I mean, you're like not that person anymore, which is incredible.
- I feel like, honestly, what changed me a lot was meeting John.
- Yeah.
- Maybe when I started to be a lot happy.
Well, first of all, when I moved to LA, I was immediately much happier and more stable
because I wasn't fighting with my parents every day.
- Right.
- I wasn't crying ever.
I remember thinking like, oh my god, like I don't cry every day.
- Yeah.
- Like I've got like many days without crying about anything.
- Right.
- But then the irresponsibility took over and then I was like not paying bills.
- That was the same leg, girl.
- I think the repo man wanted my car.
I got notices that my car was going to get repossessed.
- Oh my god.
- It was so bad.
- You didn't shape up for me until literally until I was 27 or 28 and got my first writing job.
- Yeah.
It's around that time, I think.
Like when you, I think for me, it was probably around 24, 25.
When I got my first job in entertainment as a receptionist at a production company, a syndication
company out in Aguora.
- How old are you at that time?
- I was 22 or 23.
- So you have like a good five years on me, responsibility wise.
- Oh.
Well, because I had no money and I didn't, I didn't want to live with my mom and I didn't want
to keep working at a preschool.
My dad, you know, told you what my dad told me to do.
So then, and then only a few years later, I think I met Adam and then, yeah, and then you
just kind of settled down at some point.
But well, not right away though because you dated him for a while.
- Right.
- And you guys broke up and you were broken up for like a whole year, right?
- Yeah, but I feel like I was more an adult during that time.
Like I worked, you know, I was working at New World and then I worked at ABC, Carcy Warner,
you know, so I had adult jobs and then he came into the picture.
So I was, yeah, so we did date for a long time.
But I got it all out of my system like it's 16, 17, 18, and you know, and then also my
friends, Suzanne was the only one that went off to college.
None of my friends, everybody just went to work.
That's how it was back then.
Nobody really had money to go to college.
Really?
- That's so interesting because it's so different now.
- It is so different.
My two brothers went off to college, but my dad was like, eh, she's going to be an actress.
She doesn't need to go to college, you know, whatever.
- Right.
- You know, so.
- Did you ever think about going back to school at that point where you like, eh,
- No, I wanted to work in television and I just found my way in and that was that.
There was no going back.
- Because nobody really asks you, no, back then, like if I had a college degree or anything,
they don't really ask you when you get the job if you're working your way up.
And then it doesn't, it didn't, I mean, I guess did it come up in conversation?
I'm trying to remember if I was always happy to tell people I didn't go.
- Yeah, then later when I was, you know, working in entertainment, you know, people went
to college and I would be like, oh, I went to Pierce.
Because I did.
I went to Pierce College for like a year.
- Have you ever heard of Pierce?
- Pierce, yes.
- Is it in France?
- Yes, Pierce.
- Yeah, yeah.
- It took some time off and, but yeah, no, it never really came into play that I didn't
go to, yeah, because when you're in there, once you're in, you work your way up and you
had experience and then you meet people, you know people and I loved it.
I was one of the happiest times when I was working.
I was living in Northridge and I was driving to Century City and I just remember I had like
stupid convertible Mazda, not convertible, T-top Mazda stick shift and I would drive in traffic
all the way to like Century City, but I would loved it.
I just remember having like, I have the best job.
I love it, living in house with my roommates and it was great.
My young 20s.
Yeah.
- When I first got my job at the big date, yeah, I thought I was like, well, my first car
before that I'd won on Hollywood squares.
So I was driving around that Buick Skyhawk.
And so this is the first car I bought. I bought this red Toyota Celica and I was so happy
about it.
It was a stick shift and I had come from driving an automatic and I think I was like, I
thought it was such a steel.
Well because I'd been raised on a stick shift so it didn't bother me that I had a stick
shift, but somehow in my mind, I think I was like, because it was fairly cheap.
- Yeah.
- I was like, how is this car?
- So because everybody drove automatic so that's the point, but it didn't really occur to me
that was a problem.
Because it wasn't, because that's fine.
But so I buy this car and I made the huge mistake.
I'm pretty sure I went by myself to, and I can't remember, I think it was like long go
to, there was this place where there were like seven dealerships around, right?
I went by myself in my 20s, girl in her 20s.
Oh, these people were like sharks, I charm at me because, and I thought I was like, I'm
pretty tough.
I'm not going to let them like sell me anything.
Cut to me like in front of the desk and they're like, all right, I mean, it's really, they
were really hardcore with me because I drove the, I test drove the car.
I was like, I cannot believe it have like 50,000 miles on it, which was to me low mileage
for the fact that I could afford to buy the car.
I didn't have really, I mean, I had a little bit of money to put down.
Somehow I knew I would need financing, but I was like, but I have like a good job now,
right?
Yeah.
Terrible credit, but like a good job.
Well, so then I think I tried to play them like, I was like, I'm in the driver's seat
here.
I'm going to tell you because guess what?
Like, I think I walked off the lot.
I like the car, but like, I don't know, like left went to a different dealership, but
then I came back.
You know?
Yeah.
Oh, as soon as I came back, you know, they were like, yeah, we got her.
Right.
So then they saw me the car and they tell me like, okay, we're going to get you this financing.
And somehow I took a deal that was like 20% like financing.
Uh-huh.
And thought I won.
I was like, yeah.
Well, in this car, that was probably going to cost me like $100,000 over the, like, I mean,
I'm sure I spent, wait, I mean, yeah, they were like, well, you're credit, whatever.
And then I got a freaking letter.
Oh, my God, I'll never forget this.
And the guy who ran the company, this that I've complained about, Howard Schultz, who was
a total asshole.
I remember going into his office, I got this letter and they were basically telling me
to bring the car back because they were going to raise the, they, I don't know why and
I don't know how it was a very shady kind of thing.
The finance company was like, yeah, we changed our minds unless you pay more.
And I remember that Howard Schultz was like, just rip it up.
Just don't, you have, it's like squatters rights.
Yeah.
Like you already have the car.
Right, right.
They can't change their mind and do a different deal now.
They let you drive it off the lot.
Right.
We were fine.
Yeah.
And I was like, okay, but I still was, I was paying like 19% of the same thing.
That was smart advice though.
Yeah.
And then I've never heard about it.
But from that time on after making that horrible deal, I remember paid my bills on time.
Yeah.
Always had a job, right?
Like paid off credit cards.
Yeah.
You know, it's like pretty responsible until I got the notice from the IRS that the Hollywood
squares thing came back.
Oh, God.
And then I got a bill for like $8,000.
Oh my gosh.
Which could be like $100,000.
I mean, I was just like, good luck.
Yeah.
But that was later.
I'd already met John.
Oh, okay.
And then I hired an accountant and they went and did the, they, and I ended up owing $800.
I see.
Wow.
And then ever since then, I always paid my tax.
Yes.
Right?
Been like a very law-bying.
Right.
Yeah.
You did a guy friend to take you to buy a car.
I had Mike Gerstein.
Oh, really?
Yeah.
Because when I bought the, the, the stick shift, I was like, I don't know how to drive and he
goes, just get the car.
I'll teach you how to drive.
And he taught me how to drive.
Oh.
Yeah.
Because it was cheap.
Yeah.
It's the only car I could afford.
But yeah, you needed a guy friend.
But isn't that interesting?
And maybe you had to learn it fast because that was your car.
Yeah.
It was my car.
I learned it break quick.
I mean, I screwed up a bunch of times.
I mean, I grinded the gears and like, you know, yeah.
But you know when you're first learning on a stint, you know, you're first learning
on a stick to and you like stall out of the light.
Oh, my God.
And people are honking behind you and you're worst.
Yeah, I just learned how to drive.
I know.
There's that hill on Sepulveda.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, God.
I did never wanted to go down that route.
I always avoided that hill.
Yeah.
It was, yeah, took me a while.
Yeah.
Oh, and when you're stopped at a light and you're, and you're, and you're facing upward at
all and then you're like, as soon as you go into your first gear and you let your
foot off the gear, you bet you got to hit that gas pedal hard or you were going to
roll backwards.
Yeah, I hated it.
Yeah.
All right.
Oh, my gosh.
This was super fun.
Yeah.
Memory lane, baby.
Yeah, that was nice.
All right.
Well, let's say hi to our fabulous people like, um, like, Christa, get this job and Stephanie
is a stinker.
Rinker and Athena.
We love your lipstick.
Oh, frickin' match.
Chanel stuff you put on.
And Sandra is not easy being green, but you do it.
Jennifer, get up.
Erin's a dirty sandwich has less with the coughing.
All right.
Oh, COVID's back.
I probably just got it right now.
Alicia, go on, Taylor in the city of Almonte and Kelly Brandt.
She's not your aunt, but she'll take you to Planned Parenthood.
That's right.
Rebecca Lubin is so cute.
Yishon.
That baby.
Yeah.
Oh my God.
We met like, baby, not like, yeah, baby is cute.
Yeah.
I'm your baby is cute.
Yeah.
So your ass.
Missy and Gabby, you guys.
I really love you too.
Yeah.
And Katarina, check that molar, you know, Valerie Bubba Fenwick, it's out of the park.
Polly, we love your pancakes.
And Rita, we love your bassinet that you rock all of Elizabeth Williamson's kids in.
And Nikki, call your girl and Dick is a frolicer.
And also, oh my gosh, did you see on my Instagram and I posted a picture on Facebook of Courtney
Moore who has IE embroidery.
I made a guide liner hats.
And I have pictures or I put a picture in the, oh, I didn't see it.
So cute.
And all the kids went crazy.
Oh, that's so cute.
She made a couple of them like Walt, like beanies and a couple of them like checker hats.
Oh, I love that.
And they all have their logo on it and they are, they were so thrilled.
I bet.
Oh, that's so cute.
Yep.
So go to IE embroidery on Facebook and check them out.
And also pop culture rescue dot org.
That's where Robin got Bosco her sweet, sweet dog and they try to get all the dogs out of
the overcrowded shelters.
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And find them home so they could use your tax deductible donations.
Pop culture rescue dot org.
Gabby is shouting out the United Farm workers.
So go to you FW dot org and help them out.
Also, my friend writes stories for medium dot com at the handle unbecoming stories.
And these are really great stories.
So check that out.
Also, woman Frida.
Yeah.
Great.
Your impulse brings.
Yep.
Go check them out.
Yeah.
Get yourself a mimosa or a latte.
Yes.
Say you're with them for crying out loud.
Family skeptical.
It's a podcast for any, any people that are raising their kids.
Without church or anything.
They talk about that and it's really cool and it's the family skeptical.
If you want a t-shirt or a mouse pad or something fun, you know, go to basic Becky, just
basicbecky.com or basic Becky on the Facebook.
Also, if you're on the island of Kauai, why not stop by Sugar Skull and say hi to Marin?
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There has been it to have this small bakery and gift shop and they do wedding cakes and
little great desserts.
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And if you want to get there and use a travel agent, why not use Christine Black with waves
and wonder travel?
Her Facebook is Christine Concierge Travel Planner, where you can find her in our Facebook
group.
Yeah.
She's in there.
"The makeup is my sweetheart," and he is shouting out the ACLU.
Yes.
Things are just getting worse and worse every day, but the ACLU is helping fight.
That's right, thank you, Jacob.
Yeah.
And FernCandle.com, that's our friend Kelsey.
She runs the business out of her home.
She makes sweet candles, that like tobacco sage and lavender, sandalwood, and they last
a long time because they're made with soy wax, and that's FernCandle.com.
And then Adam Learner is shopping me, "I'm gonna
see Adam tomorrow," which is why we're recording today.
I'll see Adam and my friend Sussley at a Labor Day party tomorrow, and he's, we're gonna talk
cars.
He's the best.
He's getting us the ID4.
ID4?
Yeah.
And you can just go to Adam's.
Got a car.com.
And then also, if you need a plumber, you can check out, hit up my friend Mike.
He's got his plumbing business out of Maricopa County, Arizona, and you can go check out his
website, which is, "Drain Surgeons with an S, drain surgeons, A-Z, like Arizona, dot com."
And he's got his phone number, his email, everything is right there.
If you mention F-C-L-L, you'll get a $99 sewer line inspection.
So check him out.
Yeah.
And we love you guys.
We love you guys.
Thank you.
We'll see you on tomorrow for Patreon, which is a good Patreon.
It was a breakthrough.
Yeah.
I had a breakthrough.
Crazy story.
And then we'll see you on Friday.
Yeah.
Bye.
♪ It's a good holiday.
Let it go.
♪ In the rain ♪
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