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Welcome to the Empowered Leader podcast where proposing meets practice, vision for those

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actions and legacy stats today.

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Hey, I'm David Jeremiah Aheedby, Leadership Coach, Business Mentor, and a Teacher of the

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Word of God.

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I help people like you rise above the noise and lead with clarity.

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This is episode one of the Empowered Leader.

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And today we are stripping a way to myth because let's face it, leadership isn't about wearing

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the title.

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It also isn't positional.

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It's about children to wait, whether you are in a startup team running a non-profit or

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the go-to person in your circle.

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If you've ever felt the pressure of leadership, but wondered why it's not clicking, you're

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literally where you need to be.

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That's right here.

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So let's talk about it.

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Picture this.

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You've been asked to lead your team through a project, a project launch, or maybe it's

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a church project, or a volunteer initiative.

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Or the first time your boss says, "Hey, I need you to take this one."

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Suddenly you're in charge, you're excited.

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Don't prep your slides, plan the tasks, maybe even rehash your opening lines as usual,

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but then it's like something is missing.

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You begin to notice that people are nodding or non-moving.

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Tasks hang in limbo.

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Your energy is up, but the follow-through is down.

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The feedback from your people are not encouraging.

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You're wondering, "I thought I was doing everything right."

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Why isn't this working?

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Trust me, I know that space.

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And I've actually experienced people also and also helped them through that space.

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And here is the thing.

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What you hit isn't actually failure.

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It's not a failure.

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It's the leadership gap.

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The leadership gap is something I call the leadership gap.

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And that is the space between that position and the influence that comes with that position.

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In fact, the influence as a person, as a leader.

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The leadership gap is the gap between the title you actually hold and the influence that

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you command.

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And today I want to show you how to close that gap.

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How to close that gap.

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So this episode is the foundation of everything.

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We'll explain this show, the base of everything.

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As far as the empowered leader podcast is concerned, this is the base.

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It's the foundation of everything.

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And here is what you walk away with today.

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You're going to walk away with why waiting for a title is holding you back.

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That's number one.

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Number two.

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The three core pillars that make leadership real.

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So there are three core pillars that make leadership real.

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And you're going to know that today.

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Whether you're fresh in as a leader or you have one 10 years deep.

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And also you walk away with a personal or deep framework to help you lead more intentionally

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this week.

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Now I want you to know this is in theory.

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It's not theory.

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This is what works in the room.

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When it's go time.

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So let's go.

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Okay, so we're going to explore to leadership myth.

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Let's crush two of the most common leadership myth.

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And let's start with number one.

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The first myth is you need a title to lead.

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You need a title to lead.

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To lead.

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I'm sure that you know quite a number of you listening to me right now have at a point

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in your life felt that way.

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Kudos to anyone who has actually left that you know space.

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Awesome.

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But then if you're still here trust me.

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This is your solution.

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So we've all bought into these at some point.

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You know you get to say things like when I manage are when I get that role then I'll start

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leading.

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But leadership doesn't wait for title.

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Like I said from this from from from from the scratch of this episode.

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Leadership is not a title.

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Leadership is not what is not a title.

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It's not.

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It's a responsibility just like the title suggests when I say title I'm in the title of this

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episode.

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So leadership is not a title.

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It's not positional.

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It's influence based on responsibility.

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So you say when I manage are when I get that role then I'll start leading then I'll be

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able to do this.

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I'll be able to take up this responsibility.

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But leadership doesn't wait for the title.

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Leadership shows up where ownership leaves.

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So the day you begin to take ownership of something that is when leadership shows up.

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You don't get influence from a job title.

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Now you earn it from how you show up every single day.

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I repeat you don't get influence from a job title.

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Now you earn it from how you show up every single day.

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Note you don't get it when you show up every single day.

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You don't get it as you show up every single day.

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You don't get influence from a job title.

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You rather earn not get you earn it from how you show up.

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So you don't get it when you show up.

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You don't get it as you show up but you earn first of all how so you earn it from how you

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show up.

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So you need to learn how you show up and it is from how you show up you earn it.

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So the earning of you know the influence that you actually get emanates from the how you

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understand.

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I'm going to congratulate you for being and tuning into this podcast.

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This show because there is a whole lot.

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There is a whole lot that I'm looking to pour out and I'm looking to impact you with.

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I'm glad you're here.

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I'm glad I'm here.

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You know?

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Because this is value.

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So you don't get influence from a job title.

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You earn it from how you show up every single day.

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I mean I've had my wins, I've had my losses, I've had times when I have defaulted in this.

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But thank God for information.

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Thank God for you know this transformative information that has actually helped me scale

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through and then learn what leadership really is and then I've applied it.

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You earn it from how you show up every single day.

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The second myth, let's destroy it.

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It's a leadership is about personality.

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Yada yada.

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You know?

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We often assume leadership is for the loudest voice or the one with the natural charm, you

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know, charisma.

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The loudest voice in the room, the one who speaks, you know?

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No, no, no, no, I think this should be done like this.

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No, you know, there is this tendency for you to gravitate towards not even gravitate

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like, you know, to think that the one who speaks loud in the room is the leader or the one

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with the natural charisma he has, you know, that aura, you know, is got the charm around

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him and all that.

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But charisma without consistency is chaos.

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I need you to know that charisma without consistency is what is chaos.

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Real leadership is not about how loud you are in the room.

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Now, it's about how steady you are.

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Anything school sideways.

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Real leadership is not the loudest in the room.

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It's the clearest voice in the room.

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The one who speaks with clarity, not the one who talks loud.

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So, clarity and consistency.

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It's not about how loud you are in the room.

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It's about how steady you are when things go sideways.

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It's about building trust, not hype.

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And trust requires consistency and clarity, consistency and clarity.

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Trust requires consistency and clarity.

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Not hype.

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We are building trust here.

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So, what is leadership really?

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And let's delve into that.

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What then is leadership?

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You know, leadership is the daily decision to take responsibility for outcomes for people,

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for culture.

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That's it.

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The daily decision you make to take responsibility.

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So, leadership is about responsibility.

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That's how you show up.

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That's how you show up.

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You earn influence by showing up.

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Do you understand?

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So, it's the daily risk and decision to take responsibility.

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So, when you show up daily, you make that additional take responsibility for what?

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For outcome number one, number two, for people and for culture.

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Outcome results, people.

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Definitely, you can't run something or lead something without people involved.

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And then culture, the culture, the system, where everything, where the result is going to

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be turning out from, where the people are involved in.

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You are taking responsibility for these three things mainly.

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The outcome results people and then the culture.

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That's it.

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The daily decision you make to take responsibility.

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Now, I'm going to state something here.

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Leadership is not given.

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Leadership isn't given.

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It's claimed daily by the choices you make.

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Leadership isn't given.

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It is claimed daily by the choices that you make.

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Now, let's talk about three pillars of responsibility-based leadership.

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Three pillars, the three pillars of responsibility-based leadership.

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You see, when I work with leaders, especially those transitioning into new roles or scaling

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their impact, I always bring it back to these three pillars.

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Number one, accountability.

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Not just accountability, but accountability to people.

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Now, really, that's just don't deliver tasks.

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They take ownership from how the whole team performs.

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So ask yourself, if the ball drops, do I point fingers or do I lean in?

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Do I point fingers or do I lean in?

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If something goes wrong, do I start looking for

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who to blame?

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Or I go back?

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Or I go back and then check how I've done it.

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It takes responsibility for wins and losses.

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Take responsibility.

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Command who you need to command.

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Critic, constructively and rightly.

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So you ask yourself, if the ball drops, do I point fingers or do I lean in?

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So here is a practical move.

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Here is a practical move.

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Shadu weekly one on one with your team.

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With your team.

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One on one.

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Or if you're not in a formal team, reach out to people you're collaborating with.

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And then ask, what's blocking you?

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Ask them.

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What's blocking you?

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Not are you done?

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You see, when you have people who you are collaborating with something or you're

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working with something and then they hit a roadblock, you understand?

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You don't, you don't, you don't, you don't, you need to show that you are interested in

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what they are doing.

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Remember you are showing up and taking responsibility for outcomes for people and for culture.

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Three things are happening at the same time.

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Not just the outcome, but also the people.

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What is going on in their lives?

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What could be blocking them?

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Because no matter how you try to create a wall and be like, oh yeah, we're paying you

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to do this.

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So this, this, this, you have to show up.

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You have to do this.

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These are real people you're talking about number one.

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Number two.

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Two things happen in their lives.

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Whether you like it or not, whether you pay them or not, whether you remind them or not,

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it cannot stop what is happening from happening and the effect of what is happening to have

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an impact in their lives and their delivery.

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You need to understand that.

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So you need to ensure that you are not just, you know, concerned about what you have them

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to do.

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Are you done?

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You ask what is blocking you?

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What do you need from me to move forward?

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That's leadership.

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The second pillar.

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Service above self.

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Service above self.

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Now this one flips the script completely.

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You see, forget command and control.

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I know that, you know, when you think of leadership, you think that's what I see.

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I love the, because I title this leadership isn't about title.

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So you need to understand.

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If it hadn't done on you yet, how critical it is when we say leadership isn't about title,

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I think now it's becoming real to you because it flips the script completely.

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Make sure you realize, oh, this is really what we are talking about.

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We are talking about this right now.

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Forget command.

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Forget control.

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Nah.

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Forget it.

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Forget it.

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It's serve and support.

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As a leader, you are the chief servant.

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Because what you're doing is service.

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So forget command.

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Forget control.

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Think.

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Serve and support.

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Forget command and control.

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It's serve and support.

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So start Monday mornings by asking someone.

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You work with how can I make this easier for you this week?

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And in it, how can I make this easier for you this week?

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Really do people do that?

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I'm not saying, you know, you know, how it feels when a subordinate, you know, sees his

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leader or the person who like, oh, he's superior, come to meet him and ask how can I make this

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easier for you this week?

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Literally, it's not about command and control, telling them how things work and what to do.

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We are literally there to serve and support them, help them make their job easier, help

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them.

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Because what happens is that they're like, this person is really interested in me and, you

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know, it's keen about my survival in this company, in this business.

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You know, they actually see it.

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You have no idea how far they see this.

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They see it beyond you coming in to actually help them get the results you need.

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They see beyond that.

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They actually see that you are interested in them and helping them.

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When people do not perform, they stand at the risk of losing their job.

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Trust me.

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It goes into their minds as well.

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They think these things too.

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And it is to understand that.

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So you start Monday mornings by asking someone you work with.

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How can I make this easier for you this week?

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And you have to minute.

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So don't feign it.

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This is not a fake it until you make it because you are here because you want to step up your

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leadership.

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So it means that it is an inward transformation that should work.

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Edge out.

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So it's an inside out thing.

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You understand?

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That is going on here.

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So you have to be intentional about the change you want to make and the changes you

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want to see by influencing them yourself, starting it from yourself.

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So if you are going to make this moves, then you have to minute.

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When you walk up to someone to ask them, how can I make this easier for you this week?

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You have to minute.

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Support removes friction.

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When you remove friction, momentum builds.

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Support.

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Now here is.

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Support removes friction.

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When you remove friction, momentum builds.

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Let's leave that at that.

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The thought pillar.

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Influence through integrity.

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Influence through integrity.

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This one is the deal breaker.

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Yeah.

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This one is the deal breaker.

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If people can't trust your word, listen to me.

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If people can't trust your word, they will never follow your lead.

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Nah.

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If people can't trust your word, they will never follow your lead.

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So keep your promises, especially the small ones.

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Oh, yeah.

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Keep your promises, especially the small ones.

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Show up early.

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Return that message.

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Deliver that feedback.

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And if you miss something, only it.

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Repair it.

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Fast.

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And fast is on what?

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Fast.

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If you miss something, only it and repair it.

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Fast.

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Let me tell you about, you know, a client of mine.

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So just for emphasis, you know, we're going to call her, la, la.

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She was a team lead who made a commitment to her team that every Friday should share

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update, transparently, you know, like wings, losses, plans.

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But one Friday slipped.

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She didn't share.

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And then another.

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Then someone finally said, I was still doing this.

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One moment, strong.

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And you see, what I love about that was that she didn't get defensive.

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No, she didn't.

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She called a team meeting apologize without excuses and asked how they'd prefer to move forward.

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That move, her.

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Rebute trust faster than months of speeches.

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Or she did was what she called a team meeting with the same set of people, apologized without

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excuses.

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No, only in it, taking responsibility.

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And then she asked how they'd prefer to move forward because at that point, man, you messed

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up, you know, but it's not like you come to them and then start sulking.

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But let them know that, you know, at some point, she actually giving them the reign of control.

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How do you prefer to move forward?

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Should we still do this?

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Because you're letting them know that, okay, yes, I'm not just putting it on you that we're

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going to continue the way we are going to continue, you know, now that I have messed up

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and I've owned it.

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Nah, I would like to know.

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Would you like us to continue?

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And how do you prefer for us to continue?

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That way, they know that it is genuine and sincere.

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They know that you've actually owned up to it.

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They're not doubting if you think you're right or wrong or not.

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These are people.

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One of the things that can't be fully understood is how emotions work.

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And trust me, emotions can build and pull down.

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Emotions can make and more anything that's involved in.

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Leadership, marriage, relationship, call it anything.

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It can't.

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Don't discredit it.

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Influences isn't always loud.

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Nah, but it's always earned at a constant.

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See.

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Because if you need to live here with something concerning influence is that it is always

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earned.

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Influences isn't always loud.

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It could be loud.

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You understand?

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Depends on whoever is wielding it.

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But it isn't.

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That it is wielded by someone who is loud about it doesn't mean that it is always loud.

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It could equally be wielded by someone, even more so, by someone who is milder.

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But one of the things that guarantees what's a constant across all of them is that it is

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always earned.

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So for the loud person he earned it, for the person who is mild and softer he earned it,

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an influence it's always shown.

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Because you don't earn something without people giving it to you.

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Do you understand?

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The reason it is earned is because it's in the possession of the people who would entrust

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it to you.

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So whether loud or soft amount wants it is given it works regardless of how loud or soft

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it might be.

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Now quick note, quick note.

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The P-VIAL framework I teach connects here.

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If you listen to the trailer you know what I'm talking about.

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The P-VIAL is my framework for leadership.

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Understand?

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The P-VIAL is P-V-I-A-L that is purpose, vision, influence, authenticity and legacy.

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The P-VIAL framework I teach connects here.

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Purpose fuels accountability.

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Vision fuels service.

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Authenticity holds up integrity.

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It all flows together.

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It all flows what?

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Together.

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It all flows together.

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Authenticity holds up integrity.

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That in turn produces influence.

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Vision fuels service.

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Produces influence.

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Purpose fuels accountability.

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Produces influence.

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Down the line with the impact you begin to make you begin to leave legacy.

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Haha.

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Truly, the ship dissolves titles.

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It shapes life.

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You need to understand that.

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If you are leading truly, titles are dissolved.

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You hold position of titles for structure and order, but it does not mean that there is

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influence at play.

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That is why you would find someone in a position and still find him say things and then things

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not happen.

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Like I said, said at the start of this episode.

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It dissolves titles.

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It shapes life.

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Understand.

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So, a leadership audit you can use today.

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I'm going to leave you with that.

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You understand.

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A leadership audit you can leave in use today.

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So, let's bring it home.

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Leadership can feel abstract.

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It can feel like far-fetched.

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It can feel like something that is not practical.

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So, I would like to make it practical.

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So, this week, do a three step responsibility audit.

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I call it three step.

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Do a three step responsibility audit.

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Step one.

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Reflect.

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Step two.

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Recommit.

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Step three.

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Report.

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I go again.

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Step one.

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Reflect.

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Step two.

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Recommit.

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Step three.

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Report.

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Reflect.

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So, let's go over step one.

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Think back over your last three decisions.

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Or so, three to five.

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And then ask yourself these questions.

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Who did they help?

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Number two.

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Who did they leave out?

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Number one.

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Who did they help?

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Two.

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Who did they leave out?

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That is your three decisions.

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Who did your three?

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Your last three to five decisions help?

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Who did they leave out?

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Did you make the call for your convenience or for the team's clarity?

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That's the last question on the reflected.

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First of all, you ask yourself after thinking about your last three to five decisions that

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you made.

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Number one.

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Who did they help?

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Number two.

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Who did they leave out?

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Number three.

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Did you make that call for your convenience?

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And the decision was for your convenience or for the team's clarity.

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Now, so that's that about reflect.

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Number two.

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Recommit.

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So, pick one daily leadership habit.

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One daily.

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So, just one.

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Are you do daily?

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Maybe it's starting a day or each day with a check-in.

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Maybe it's post-emitting debrief with your team.

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Before the end, before they leave after, you know, at the end of work day, you understand,

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a post-emitting debrief.

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Keep it simple, but make it visible.

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Let them see you.

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Let them feel your impact.

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Trust me.

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But I had an issue with this.

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Pick one daily leadership habit.

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Maybe it's starting a day with a check-in.

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Maybe it's a post-emitting debrief with your team.

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But keep it simple.

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Keep it simple, but make it visible.

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Now, report.

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This part takes guts.

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You have to be vulnerable.

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So, share your audit with the pair, mental or coach.

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Share your audit with the pair, a mental or coach.

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So you say things like, or you say something along the lines of, "Here's what I've seen

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in myself this week.

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When you reflect, based on what has happened.

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Here's what I see in myself this week.

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Anything you'd like to add."

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You say that kind of vulnerability, that's power.

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That kind of vulnerability, that's power.

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It turns you from a title holder to a trusted leader.

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That kind of vulnerability, that's power.

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So here's the recap.

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Leadership isn't a status.

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Nah, it's a responsibility.

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And the three pillars that anchor it are accountability, service and integrity.

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Accountability, service and integrity.

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Start your responsibility audit this week.

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Start your responsibility audit this week.

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You'll be shocked by how much clarity and confidence you gain.

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You'll be shocked by how much clarity and confidence you gain just by slowing down and

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owning your leadership moment.

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Start your responsibility audit this week.

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I say again.

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You'll be shocked by how much clarity and confidence you gain just by slowing down.

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Emphasis on slowing down and owning your leadership moment.

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It's not a rush.

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You're not in a hiss.

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It could be time bound to deliver a result.

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But then, of what uses a result that has no effectiveness.

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A result that has no effectiveness in the long run would point out people and then you

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find yourself having to be sure for people, having to, you know, rebuild the division in

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your mind, get them to, you know, run with the vision and fresh, having to teach them

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what you're communicating about.

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Because you've burnt out the ones who already know the vision.

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It's not a rush.

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You're not in a hiss.

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You understand?

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You would get how much clarity and confidence you be shocked by how much clarity and confidence

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you gain just by slowing down and owning your leadership moment.

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It's your leadership moment.

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And if this helped you, don't keep it to yourself.

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If this podcast has helped you, this episode has helped you.

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Don't keep it to yourself.

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Subscribe, leave a review.

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Please leave a review.

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Let me know what you've learned in the comment section, sections.

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Share with someone stepping into leadership right now that you know and that these could

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help as well.

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You understand?

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So, in the next episode, I'll walk you through the full P-VIAL Blueprint that I spoke about

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earlier.

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You understand?

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I'll walk you through them.

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The full P-VIAL Blueprint will unpack, propose vision, influence, authenticity and legacy and

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how they walk together to elevate your leadership in any space, how they walk together to elevate

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your leadership in any space that you are.

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Until then, lead well and live on purpose.

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But then don't forget, please follow us across all our social media platforms, empowered

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leader at Empowered Leader podcast, empowered leader podcast on Instagram, Facebook, everywhere,

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empowered leader podcast, empowered leader podcast.

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Until then, lead well and live on purpose.

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Cheers.

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you