Do you ever leave a room feeling heavier than when you walked in?
Like you've just absorbed someone else's negative energy without even realising it?
If you're an empath or simply a highly sensitive person, today we're doing something different.
We're not building a wall to keep people out.
We're learning how to protect your energy by building a calm aura around you.
Nobody else can see it, but everybody else will feel it.
Hello there, and welcome back to Calming Anxiety.
I'm Martin Hewlett, clinical hypnotherapist and former frontline paramedic here to help
you find ten minutes of calm every day.
If this is your first time, please do subscribe so that I'm here again tomorrow in your
time of need.
Now find your quiet place, somewhere where you won't be disturbed for the next few minutes.
You can sit upright or lie down whatever feels right for your body today, and if it's
safe, close your eyes.
As a paramedic, I learned to be the room before I'd even cross the threshold.
The pressure of a scene shifts before anyone says a word, the same way air changes before
the storm arrives.
You already have that instinct.
You already feel other people's pressure before they say a thing.
Today we're going to use that same instinct differently.
Instead of bracing for their weather, we're going to generate our own.
We'll use the steady 426 breath today, in for four, holding for that pause and then out
for six.
Every in breath builds your pressure.
Every out breath settles in.
Ready?
Follow my count.
Breathe in.
Two, three, four, hold, two and out.
Two, three, four, five, six.
One more time.
Ready?
In, two, three, four, pause, two, release, two, three, four, five, six.
Good.
Let your breathing settle now into its own natural rhythm.
Just like you, to imagine, somewhere just above your head, a small aura of light, just
there beginning to form.
Any color, whatever feels right for you, but it feels settled, a golden kind of day when
the sky is wide and clean and nothing is rushing, that kind of feeling.
With every in breath, that aura of light grows like a pressure just flowing downwards.
It moves down through your forehead, releasing the muscles around your eyes, down through
your jaw, unclenching with every out breath.
Keeping over your shoulders, your chest and your arms and settling into your hands.
This is your own aura of calm, not borrowed from the room, not borrowed from anyone else
is mourning.
This is yours.
And here is something worth knowing.
For the people's opinions, their own reactions, they don't have any hold on you.
This aura reflects their negativity, their own dark emotions, leaving you within calm,
control completely at peace.
Their darkness, their rage, their negativity cannot break through this clear settled air
around this aura, because there is nothing of theirs that affects you.
Within this shade, within this moment, you are calm and in control.
Nobody else can see it, but they feel the effect.
As your confidence shines brightly, reflecting all of their negative thoughts, their words,
their action.
Relax now.
Let us anchor in this aura of calm and control with these words, repeating them silently
in your thoughts or whisper them, feeling them on your tongue.
I am calm within this storm.
Other people's storms move around me, not through me.
I do not absorb what was never mine to carry.
My calm is steady, even when the forecast around me changes.
I am the climate I choose to create.
And relax now, even further down, every in-breath adding strength and positivity to this aura
of calm, every out-breath, making it more permanent, fixing it around you.
And then once more, other people's storms move around me, not through me.
I do not absorb what was never mine to carry.
My calm is steady, even when the forecast around me changes.
I am the climate I choose to create.
And relax, even deeper, every out-breath feels any tension just melting away.
Slowly, allow yourself to sink so deeply down.
To carry this with you throughout to the day and the weeks and months ahead, here are
your three daily tips.
One, before you walk into a room, a meeting or a difficult conversation, take three breaths
and simply notice the aura around you, with each breath, increase the aura of calm around
you.
Two, let storms pass through, not settle in.
If someone's mood does affect you, that's alright.
You are a human, you're not a weather system.
Just remind yourself, it's passing past.
Just a permanent change in your climate and give it permission to move on.
Three, protect your aura.
Notice who in your life is consistently stormy and be honest about how much time you spend
standing directly next to it.
You are allowed to shorten these visits, to take the call later or simply step outside
of some calm.
Now slowly, start to wiggle your fingers and toes.
Take one more deep breath in and as you exhale, stretch the arms out overhead and gently
open your eye.
Thank you.
I hope this calm stays with you today and the days ahead.
When you have a spare moment at any time today, just breathe out mindfully and imagine
that aura of calm growing, protecting you from the cacophony of the world around.
If today's session helps, I ask just one thing.
Please do, share it on your social media so that it helps another song, no matter where
they are.
And if you would like a moment of calm like this one whenever you need it, the anchored
app is free to download.
Thank you.
Have a lovely day.
Thank you for choosing calming anxiety.
Smile often my friend and to your soul be kind.
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