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Do you ever leave a room feeling heavier than when you walked in?

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Like you've just absorbed someone else's negative energy without even realising it?

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If you're an empath or simply a highly sensitive person, today we're doing something different.

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We're not building a wall to keep people out.

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We're learning how to protect your energy by building a calm aura around you.

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Nobody else can see it, but everybody else will feel it.

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Hello there, and welcome back to Calming Anxiety.

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I'm Martin Hewlett, clinical hypnotherapist and former frontline paramedic here to help

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you find ten minutes of calm every day.

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If this is your first time, please do subscribe so that I'm here again tomorrow in your

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time of need.

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Now find your quiet place, somewhere where you won't be disturbed for the next few minutes.

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You can sit upright or lie down whatever feels right for your body today, and if it's

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safe, close your eyes.

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As a paramedic, I learned to be the room before I'd even cross the threshold.

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The pressure of a scene shifts before anyone says a word, the same way air changes before

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the storm arrives.

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You already have that instinct.

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You already feel other people's pressure before they say a thing.

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Today we're going to use that same instinct differently.

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Instead of bracing for their weather, we're going to generate our own.

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We'll use the steady 426 breath today, in for four, holding for that pause and then out

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for six.

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Every in breath builds your pressure.

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Every out breath settles in.

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Ready?

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Follow my count.

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Breathe in.

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Two, three, four, hold, two and out.

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Two, three, four, five, six.

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One more time.

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Ready?

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In, two, three, four, pause, two, release, two, three, four, five, six.

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Good.

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Let your breathing settle now into its own natural rhythm.

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Just like you, to imagine, somewhere just above your head, a small aura of light, just

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there beginning to form.

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Any color, whatever feels right for you, but it feels settled, a golden kind of day when

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the sky is wide and clean and nothing is rushing, that kind of feeling.

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With every in breath, that aura of light grows like a pressure just flowing downwards.

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It moves down through your forehead, releasing the muscles around your eyes, down through

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your jaw, unclenching with every out breath.

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Keeping over your shoulders, your chest and your arms and settling into your hands.

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This is your own aura of calm, not borrowed from the room, not borrowed from anyone else

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is mourning.

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This is yours.

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And here is something worth knowing.

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For the people's opinions, their own reactions, they don't have any hold on you.

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This aura reflects their negativity, their own dark emotions, leaving you within calm,

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control completely at peace.

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Their darkness, their rage, their negativity cannot break through this clear settled air

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around this aura, because there is nothing of theirs that affects you.

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Within this shade, within this moment, you are calm and in control.

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Nobody else can see it, but they feel the effect.

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As your confidence shines brightly, reflecting all of their negative thoughts, their words,

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their action.

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Relax now.

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Let us anchor in this aura of calm and control with these words, repeating them silently

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in your thoughts or whisper them, feeling them on your tongue.

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I am calm within this storm.

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Other people's storms move around me, not through me.

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I do not absorb what was never mine to carry.

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My calm is steady, even when the forecast around me changes.

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I am the climate I choose to create.

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And relax now, even further down, every in-breath adding strength and positivity to this aura

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of calm, every out-breath, making it more permanent, fixing it around you.

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And then once more, other people's storms move around me, not through me.

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I do not absorb what was never mine to carry.

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My calm is steady, even when the forecast around me changes.

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I am the climate I choose to create.

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And relax, even deeper, every out-breath feels any tension just melting away.

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Slowly, allow yourself to sink so deeply down.

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To carry this with you throughout to the day and the weeks and months ahead, here are

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your three daily tips.

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One, before you walk into a room, a meeting or a difficult conversation, take three breaths

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and simply notice the aura around you, with each breath, increase the aura of calm around

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you.

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Two, let storms pass through, not settle in.

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If someone's mood does affect you, that's alright.

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You are a human, you're not a weather system.

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Just remind yourself, it's passing past.

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Just a permanent change in your climate and give it permission to move on.

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Three, protect your aura.

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Notice who in your life is consistently stormy and be honest about how much time you spend

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standing directly next to it.

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You are allowed to shorten these visits, to take the call later or simply step outside

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of some calm.

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Now slowly, start to wiggle your fingers and toes.

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Take one more deep breath in and as you exhale, stretch the arms out overhead and gently

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open your eye.

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Thank you.

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I hope this calm stays with you today and the days ahead.

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When you have a spare moment at any time today, just breathe out mindfully and imagine

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that aura of calm growing, protecting you from the cacophony of the world around.

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If today's session helps, I ask just one thing.

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Please do, share it on your social media so that it helps another song, no matter where

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they are.

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And if you would like a moment of calm like this one whenever you need it, the anchored

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app is free to download.

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Thank you.

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Have a lovely day.

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Thank you for choosing calming anxiety.

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Smile often my friend and to your soul be kind.

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