Why do you feel sick? The second you open up the banking app. Why does one glance at your
balance send a wave of nauseous straight through your stomach? Even when right now, in this
exact moment, nothing has actually gone wrong.
If that's familiar, let's actually understand it and then do something about it within
the next ten minutes.
Hi there, I'm Martin, clinical hypnotherapist and former frontline paramedic.
In my old job, I had to sort genuine emergencies from things that only felt like emergencies
and do that fast and under pressure every single shift.
Today, I'm going to teach you how to do it exactly with your money, wherever you are.
Allow your body to settle. You don't need calm before we start. The breath is how we'll
get there.
Financial dread triggers. The exact same alarm system is physical danger. Your brain genuinely
cannot tell the difference between a low bank balance and a real threat. So we're going
to use the same signal that works for either one, a long, slow out breath. In through the nose,
hold for two at the top and then out through the mouth. Today, in through three, hold for two,
out for five. With me, let's begin. In two, three, hold two, out through the mouth, three,
four, five. Let's do that again, ready? In two, three, hold two,
release, two, three, four, five. Good. Now, notice where this stress, this worry lives within
the body. Often the stomach, sometimes the jaw or the chest. You don't need to fix it.
Just notice it and then one more round. In two, three, hold two and out through three,
four, five. That long out breath is telling the nervous system. There is no stress here,
only a number on a screen. Let's do one more round. No rush, you ready? In two, three,
hold two, relax, two, three, four, five. Now, relax. And within the beauty of your mind,
I want you to picture something I did for real more times than I can count. A line of patience,
all arriving at once, all needing help, all feeling to themselves like the most urgent
thing in the world. And my job wasn't to panic at all of them equally. My job was to
treat, to sort, calmly, who needed me right now, who needed me soon and who could wait.
Now picture the money worries lined up the same way. Every bill, every subscription, every,
I really should deal with that, all standing there, all shouting for your attention at once.
This is what the nervous system is responding to when you open the app. Not one threat,
you're crowded and undifferentiated, warm up, now let's triage them the way it's actually done.
Walk the line in your mind now, the one here, due to day, genuinely, time sensitive. That one
gets a red tag. This one in a fortnight needs your attention, but not your panic. Let's give it a
yellow tag. And this one, the looping worry about a bill three months away, the vague dread
with no actual deadline. That gets a green tag. It can wait. Now, notice the difference. Good.
You were never meant to treat the whole line as an emergency. You were only ever meant to find
the one that was. Now, let's settle these in silently or out loud.
My bank balance is a number, not a measure of my worth.
Not every bill is an emergency, even when my body insists it is.
I am allowed to handle one thing at a time in the right order.
Scarcity is a feeling passing through me, not a fact about my future.
I can feel afraid about money and still be safe in this exact moment.
And deep in here, relaxing and unwinding, allowing those words to settle, relax and unwine,
and repeat once more. My bank balance is a number, not a measure of my worth.
Not every bill is an emergency, even when my body insists it is.
I am allowed to handle one thing at a time in the right order.
Scarcity is a feeling passing through me, not a fact about my future.
I can feel afraid about money and still be safe in this exact moment.
Relax, ever deeper, truly, building strength, a calmness when all around seems like stress.
And continue with these positive thoughts, this clarity of decision making.
Take with you these three daily caring tips.
One, the triage passed. Each morning before you react to anything, give your money worry 60 seconds
to sort. Red, due today, yellow needs attention this week and green, not actually urgent, just loud.
Only act on the red today.
Two, the single taberal.
Open one banking app, one bill, one account at a time.
Comparing five tabs as once is what turns ordinary concern into a spiral.
Your nervous system can only safely process one thing in front of it.
And three, the borrowed worry check.
When the dread shows up, ask yourself plainly, is this due now or am I already worrying about next
month? Most financial dread is borrowed from a future that hasn't arrived yet.
Hand it back.
Now gently, bring your awareness back to the room around you.
Take a deep breath in and then as you exhale stretch out the muscles in your arms and legs.
And then gently open your eye.
Thank you.
Genuinely, for putting your face in trust, not just in me, but in yourself.
There will be setbacks that is part of life, but your bounce back quicker, more positive than before.
You'll understand, things happen sometimes for no reason. It's not you.
So love all at you, my friend, truly. Take time out, one step at a time. Just be kind to who you are.
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A man who is once broken, sharing his understanding, his journey so that you don't have to do it too.
So smile often. Be positive and above all, be kind.