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Why do you feel sick? The second you open up the banking app. Why does one glance at your

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balance send a wave of nauseous straight through your stomach? Even when right now, in this

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exact moment, nothing has actually gone wrong.

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If that's familiar, let's actually understand it and then do something about it within

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the next ten minutes.

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Hi there, I'm Martin, clinical hypnotherapist and former frontline paramedic.

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In my old job, I had to sort genuine emergencies from things that only felt like emergencies

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and do that fast and under pressure every single shift.

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Today, I'm going to teach you how to do it exactly with your money, wherever you are.

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Allow your body to settle. You don't need calm before we start. The breath is how we'll

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get there.

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Financial dread triggers. The exact same alarm system is physical danger. Your brain genuinely

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cannot tell the difference between a low bank balance and a real threat. So we're going

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to use the same signal that works for either one, a long, slow out breath. In through the nose,

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hold for two at the top and then out through the mouth. Today, in through three, hold for two,

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out for five. With me, let's begin. In two, three, hold two, out through the mouth, three,

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four, five. Let's do that again, ready? In two, three, hold two,

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release, two, three, four, five. Good. Now, notice where this stress, this worry lives within

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the body. Often the stomach, sometimes the jaw or the chest. You don't need to fix it.

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Just notice it and then one more round. In two, three, hold two and out through three,

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four, five. That long out breath is telling the nervous system. There is no stress here,

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only a number on a screen. Let's do one more round. No rush, you ready? In two, three,

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hold two, relax, two, three, four, five. Now, relax. And within the beauty of your mind,

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I want you to picture something I did for real more times than I can count. A line of patience,

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all arriving at once, all needing help, all feeling to themselves like the most urgent

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thing in the world. And my job wasn't to panic at all of them equally. My job was to

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treat, to sort, calmly, who needed me right now, who needed me soon and who could wait.

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Now picture the money worries lined up the same way. Every bill, every subscription, every,

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I really should deal with that, all standing there, all shouting for your attention at once.

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This is what the nervous system is responding to when you open the app. Not one threat,

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you're crowded and undifferentiated, warm up, now let's triage them the way it's actually done.

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Walk the line in your mind now, the one here, due to day, genuinely, time sensitive. That one

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gets a red tag. This one in a fortnight needs your attention, but not your panic. Let's give it a

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yellow tag. And this one, the looping worry about a bill three months away, the vague dread

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with no actual deadline. That gets a green tag. It can wait. Now, notice the difference. Good.

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You were never meant to treat the whole line as an emergency. You were only ever meant to find

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the one that was. Now, let's settle these in silently or out loud.

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My bank balance is a number, not a measure of my worth.

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Not every bill is an emergency, even when my body insists it is.

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I am allowed to handle one thing at a time in the right order.

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Scarcity is a feeling passing through me, not a fact about my future.

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I can feel afraid about money and still be safe in this exact moment.

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And deep in here, relaxing and unwinding, allowing those words to settle, relax and unwine,

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and repeat once more. My bank balance is a number, not a measure of my worth.

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Not every bill is an emergency, even when my body insists it is.

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I am allowed to handle one thing at a time in the right order.

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Scarcity is a feeling passing through me, not a fact about my future.

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I can feel afraid about money and still be safe in this exact moment.

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Relax, ever deeper, truly, building strength, a calmness when all around seems like stress.

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And continue with these positive thoughts, this clarity of decision making.

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Take with you these three daily caring tips.

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One, the triage passed. Each morning before you react to anything, give your money worry 60 seconds

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to sort. Red, due today, yellow needs attention this week and green, not actually urgent, just loud.

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Only act on the red today.

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Two, the single taberal.

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Open one banking app, one bill, one account at a time.

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Comparing five tabs as once is what turns ordinary concern into a spiral.

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Your nervous system can only safely process one thing in front of it.

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And three, the borrowed worry check.

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When the dread shows up, ask yourself plainly, is this due now or am I already worrying about next

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month? Most financial dread is borrowed from a future that hasn't arrived yet.

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Hand it back.

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Now gently, bring your awareness back to the room around you.

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Take a deep breath in and then as you exhale stretch out the muscles in your arms and legs.

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And then gently open your eye.

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Thank you.

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Genuinely, for putting your face in trust, not just in me, but in yourself.

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There will be setbacks that is part of life, but your bounce back quicker, more positive than before.

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You'll understand, things happen sometimes for no reason. It's not you.

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So love all at you, my friend, truly. Take time out, one step at a time. Just be kind to who you are.

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A man who is once broken, sharing his understanding, his journey so that you don't have to do it too.

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So smile often. Be positive and above all, be kind.

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