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If you feel, like you're never enough, if no matter what you achieve, it never quite

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lands, never quite settles.

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I want you to know that feeling has a name, and it does not get to write the story of

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who you are.

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This is your space.

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This is your ten minutes, and today we are going to gently put that voice down.

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Hi there.

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I'm Martin. This is the calming anxiety podcast, your daily sanctuary.

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I'm a clinical hypnotherapist, and before that I spent my life as a frontline paramedic.

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So if anyone understands how heavy it feels to carry the weight of not enough and still

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keep showing up, it's me.

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Whatever brought you here today, I'm glad you found ten minutes for yourself.

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And if you'd like this kind of support to follow you through the day, why not try the

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Ankit app?

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There's a link in the show notes.

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It's on Android and iOS.

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Now let's begin.

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Find your quiet place, somewhere comfy.

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You can choose to sit or lie down, whatever you prefer, and if it's safe, close your

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eye.

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Let's start as we always do with the breath.

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Nothing complicated today.

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No counting, no holding for a set number.

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Just breathe in gently through your nose, and then pause a moment at the top.

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And then as you breathe out, I want you to do something different.

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I want you to actually notice the beauty of the exhale.

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Notice how it asks nothing of you.

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It doesn't need to be perfect.

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It doesn't need to achieve anything.

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It simply leaves.

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Let's do that again.

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Breathe in, then pause.

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And now breathe out and really feel the kindness in that release.

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One more time.

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In, hold gently and out, slow and soft, like something settling.

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Let your shoulders drop a little further each time you do this.

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There's nothing to get right here.

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The out breath is already enough, just as it is, and so are you.

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Feel the way your chest rises, expands, how it draws your belly with it, as you inhale.

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And then you pause between the in and the out, just smile and then with every out breath.

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Release the negative anchors of your part, like the deepest sigh at the end of a busy

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day.

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And feel the weight, just evaporating.

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At the moment of time, a gift to your soul.

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Relax now, deeply and softly, within the beauty of a moment, loading down further and

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further.

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I want to say something to the part of you that keeps score, the part of you that adds

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up the day and still decides it wasn't enough.

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That part of you is tired, and it's allowed to rest now.

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So let these words land, even if you don't believe them yet, you don't have to believe

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them.

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Just let them in.

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Listen to them.

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Feel them.

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My worth was never a number I was supposed to reach.

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I am not behind.

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I am exactly where I am.

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Other things I haven't finished, do not cancel out the things I have done.

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I am allowed to rest, without earning it first.

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Breathe in, pause, and as you breathe out, imagine that breath carrying just a little more of

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that score, keeping voice away with it.

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Here's something, my years as a paramedic taught me, oddly enough, in an emergency, nobody

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ever asked if the person in front of me had achieved enough that day to deserve help.

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Death was never the question.

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It was simply there underneath everything the whole time.

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That's true for you too, not because of what you've achieved today, just because you're

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here.

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So once more, relax, imagine, and repeat.

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I am not behind in life.

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I am living it exactly on time.

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I do not have to prove I am enough to the people who love me, they already know.

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The voice that tells me I am never enough is not the truth.

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It's just an old habit, and habits can change.

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I have always belonged here, even on the days I forget.

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I release the need to prove myself today.

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I am allowed to simply exist without justifying it.

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I am home, not because of what I've done, but because of who I am.

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Now just float here, within this feeling, no checklist, no scorecard, just you, breathing,

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exactly in her.

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And to continue with this sense of self-worth, of enlightenment, here are your three daily

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caring tips.

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One, the evidence log, tonight write down one thing, just one, that you did today that had

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nothing to do with achievement and everything to do with being human.

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A kind word, a deep breath, showing up tired anyway, it count.

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Two, the permission pause.

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Next time you catch yourself thinking, I should have done more, stop and ask.

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Says who?

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Often there is no real authority behind that voice, just an old habit.

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Question it before you believe it.

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And three, the score reset.

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At the end of each day this week, instead of asking, did I do enough?

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Try asking, was I kind to myself today?

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Now that is a better scorecard, and it's one you can actually win.

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Now, take a deep breath in, and as you breathe out wiggle your fingers and take a deep breath

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in your toes, bring your awareness back into the room, back to the surface beneath you,

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and when you're ready, open your eyes.

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What you did today, choosing to sit with this, instead of running from that never enough

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feeling that takes courage, my friend, that is not nothing, that is everything.

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Thank you.

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Have a lovely day.

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No sales pitch today.

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No.

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I just want you to take care of you, truly.

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This is about you.

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Don't give up, please.

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You're is deserving of happiness and self-worth as any of the other 8 billion souls on this

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planet.

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So simply, be kind.

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