♪ I made a decision ♪
♪ I'll face the sunny sun ♪
♪ And I had a vision ♪
♪ What it's like ♪
♪ Be loved ♪
- Hey everybody, what's up?
Welcome to Our For Cry Not Loud.
And welcome producer Stephanie.
- Oh my gosh, thank you so much.
Thank you for having me.
- Stephanie is sitting in Kalin's seat.
- We're fine, so we're fine.
Motherfucking solar right now.
- Yeah, mother fuckers.
- Yeah.
- I was peaked behind the curtain.
I do this already.
When I record my other Rose Pricks and Bordea F
and drunkish for that matter, I produce it.
So that's why when we kind of made the decision with Kalin,
to us take it over, he's so busy.
And I was like, there's no reason I can't be doing this.
- Right.
- And now we are.
And we're doing it.
And she's sitting behind the desk.
And she's the timer went out.
Oh, it did.
(laughs)
That's all right.
Look on your phones.
- Yeah.
- Start timing on your phone.
- All right.
Anyhoo.
- I'm sorry.
You know why it's on power saving?
- Oh, okay.
- Well, we're just working out the kinks.
We'll clean this up in post.
- Here we go.
Maybe this will, you tell me if it goes out again.
- Okay.
- Tell me.
Okay, let's, you know what?
Let's say how do our, let's say how are you doing?
- Fantastic friends.
We've got Dick who's frallicking around.
- Mm-hmm.
- Kelly.
- Ooh, what a doll.
- I wanna come up with some new names for them.
- Things to say about these people.
But for now, Katie's rolling on these.
Still, Nikki, call your girl.
Elizabeth, she's got a lot of kids.
- Yeah.
Sure does.
- Too many.
- One of my fans.
(laughs)
- Rita's rocking them all in her boss yet, though.
So she's helping out.
Probably we live here.
Pancakes, Valerie hits it out of the park.
Katarina, check it, girl.
- I need to check my own.
- I should take my own advice, Katarina.
Sorry that I'm just...
- Pritchie and I are on every week.
- I don't know. - I don't know what.
- I'm walking the walk.
Gabby and Missy, I saw them at Phil's vet over the weekend.
(laughs)
Oh my God, we have both had a recent vet appointment.
We need to talk.
Let's talk.
- Yeah.
- If we have time, just kidding.
- Eshan Vashpay.
- Ooh.
- Rebecca Lubin, she's old.
- Oh, telly Branch.
She's not your aunt.
Alicia, ask go on, Tay from the city of Malmonte.
- Leslie, come on, girl.
- You're not even when that's coughing.
- I'm over it.
You are.
- It's the flow nays.
The flow nays.
That's gonna be my rapper name.
- That's hilarious.
Erin's a dirty Sanchez.
Jennifer, get up.
Sandra's not easy being green.
Athena, love it.
Love the dancing in the makeup.
- Stephanie, she's going for Ashley.
You're so chic, guys.
- Yeah.
- You guys.
Yep, so.
- We have both visited our respective vet.
- Well, I had a harrowing weekend.
- Oh no, tell me.
- With Phil.
Well, it's more, I was more traumatized.
Well, okay, everybody knows that Phil has epilepsy
and he takes medication for it.
And usually in the past, when he has a seizure,
it's early, very early in the morning
because for some reason he eats something, here's a pattern.
He'll get into the garbage or he'll get into something,
he'll eat something and then it'll digest, sit,
not sit well in his stomach and then by the early morning hours,
he will wake up vomit and not always,
but then that's what would lead to a seizure.
That's has been his past.
- Do you think that the vomiting itself is a precursor
to the seizure or do you think the vomiting inspires?
- He inspires the seizure because he eats something.
He throws up soy packets or whatever it is.
And the vet told me that sometimes,
like something stressful,
like, you know, discomfort in his intestine track
can do that if a dog has epilepsy.
So that's always been his pattern, very early,
or very early hours and most of the time followed
after a farthing session.
So, okay, Saturday, I am, Natalia's been home,
I'll tell you all about that, it's been a whirlwind,
in a good way.
And I was, we're just living parallel lives
'cause I swear to God, I was going to tell you,
yeah, I wasn't sure if it was gonna be Patreon
or just on the show, but about, I'll be being home,
just for like two days.
- Yeah.
- And having a good time with her.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So, okay, so, basically, so I got up with Natalia
was doing a bunch of stuff.
Then I went in my room, I got my laptop sitting on my bed
and it's in the middle of the day.
It's like one 30 on Saturday and Phil did not get into anything
at all.
And I know that, 'cause I control it.
- Yeah, you control it.
- Yes, did not eat anything bad just in the middle of the day,
laying next to the bed on the hardwood floor
starts violently shaking and having a seizure.
And I was like, what?
Like, this is not your time, usually,
you know, it's dark out early morning hours.
So, he starts to have a seizure,
and as we've talked about before, he urnates everywhere.
And I was trying to get ahead of it by getting towels
because what he does is then he gets it all over himself.
Oh, and he was chomping the shit out of his mouth
and his tongue, but luckily this time he didn't have
too much blood a little bit.
But I thought, I mean, it just sounds when he's,
'cause his mouth is like, (imitates gun)
it just sounds like he's chewing, like, I thought,
by the sound of it, I was gonna take him to the hospital
to get stitches or something.
'Cause I thought it was gonna be really bad
with blood like last time.
So anyway, he's, you know, he's okay,
but he's in a safe spot, so he's having a seizure.
I get towels because he's, what he's gonna do is
when he comes out of it, he, well,
he lays there for a long time panting and he can't hear me.
Then all of a sudden he'll jump up and be like,
"What, what?"
And he'll have, you know, urn all over him,
and then but he's out of it, so he's knocking into,
you know, I don't want him bumping into my bed in furniture,
you know, and it was 90 degrees outside,
so I was like, he's, as soon as he comes out of it,
I'm gonna take him outside, hose him down,
it'll feel good to cool him off, you know?
So I had this whole plan, I go into the bathroom
and get a towel and I step over his body
and my bed is like to the right of me
and I like a baby giraffe, like both knees and legs
in two different directions, slip and fall,
hit both kneecaps hard onto the hardwood floor
and then hit like my cheek, my upper cheek
under my eye into the metal frame of my bed.
- Oh no.
- Yeah, and saw like a white flash.
I saw it coming like in slow motion
and I tried to turn my head and that's why
I hit the cheek of my face, but I was like,
I had my bell rang and I've never felt that before.
I've heard people describe it, but I was like,
oh my God, and then I started shaking,
like I got, 'cause it was cool in my bedroom,
the air was going and I wanted to turn it off,
I was getting chilly.
I don't know, I was just like, I was so like out of it.
- I was like, nobody was home, no.
I was like shaking and like shivering
and I was like, oh my God, what the fuck?
I just sat there for a second stunned
and then he comes out of it and I'm like,
oh God, I gotta like get him now
and like I didn't have time to really sit and recover
'cause now he's getting up, he's on the move
and I'm like, I gotta go put him outside
and then as I'm put him outside and it's like
at the door knocking, let me in
'cause she doesn't, I have an app to get into the house
and she has to redo it anyway.
So she's at the door with her friends
and she's like, are you okay?
Like my glasses on my head is all like still like a skew, yeah.
She's like, are you all right?
I was like, and I told her what happened
and she was so helpful, like, oh my God, oh my God,
like let me help you.
So you sit down, I'll go, hose out,
hose down, hose to she went outside and she like started
but then I was like, okay, I'm okay, I'm okay
and I was, I was fine, spoiler alert.
But I was looking at your face,
I don't see a black eye.
- No, there's no black eye.
It was like a big red mark, yeah.
But it just was, I've never been hitting the head like that
before, I've never experienced that.
- That's so scary.
- Are you?
Have you ever?
- I think, but when I was like a kid, yeah.
I fell off of one of those, we ever talk about those,
you know those bars that you would sit on and swing around,
they don't have them anymore, but it would be in the playground
and they had it at our school.
You would sit on the bar and you would go back
where you would do circles on it or you'd hang on it.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
They weren't super high up but you could do like a circle,
like a back flippy thing.
And me and my friend who were gymnasts,
we would try, we were like dare doubles.
So we, Jimmy rigged this way to,
we took a sweat shirt and we put it over our laps
and then we tied it underneath us
so that we could swing forward.
- Oh great plan.
- But one time it didn't hold and I flew off and I hit my head
and I do remember being like stunned.
- Yeah.
- But I was very, I was like elementary school.
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
I've never, I've never felt that before
and I was just like, I like to remember,
it was an Italian when she was like eight years old
and she fell face first on her roller skates
and she's like, yay, so white flash.
You know, now I know what she, what she was talking about.
- Right.
- But yeah, then I was okay and then he was okay
and I hosed him down and I called the vet and I asked them,
you know, it's just, it's unusual 'cause usually this,
like why would he have it in the middle of the day?
And she said, well, he might have, you know,
something upsetting and stomach and you just don't know it.
And I was like, okay, and I said, should I bring them in
and they said, no, if you want to, you know,
of course they always want you to come in
but they were like.
- I'm not saying that.
- But I said, but can I just like keep an eye on him?
They said, yeah, if, you know, if he's lethargic
and he's not back to, after his seizure, he should,
after about at least a full like two hours,
he should be back to his normal self,
not wandering and bumping into furniture
and not, you know, knowing where he was.
I mean, he barked.
Like, I had to leave them outside for a little bit
and I came inside to clean up my mess in my bedroom.
I never hear Phil bark.
He was barking like he wanted to come in.
Then he's out of it.
She said, but after that, if he's not back to his normal self
then bring them in and he was totally fine after that.
But now I'm worried like, is it because he's getting older
that these seizures could happen more often
because what if I wasn't home, you know?
- I know.
- Like what happens?
- How old is he now?
- He's on, he's gonna be nine this year.
- Oh, he's getting up there.
- I know.
- That's so interesting because we've had people nine years.
But I didn't feel like we got our dogs at the same time
but I guess we did.
You got Phil at Christmas.
- Yeah, he was four months old.
- Yeah.
- But you've had him, but okay.
- Yeah.
- So then we got Penelope in May of 2016.
- Okay, so we got the dogs around the same time.
- So you got Phil in 2015,
turning 16.
- Okay, so you got Phil in then a few months later,
we got a dog.
- Yeah, yeah.
- Oh, that's so interesting.
- Yeah.
I didn't realize that.
We go back so, it's crazy.
- I know.
- It's crazy.
- I know because we've raised our kids together.
- Yes.
We've literally raised our kids together.
- I know, I know.
It is crazy.
And I had Molly.
- I know.
- And you were like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
And then you got a dog and you're like,
"Oh, tell me more."
(laughing)
- Because it was very early.
And I was thinking about asking you about this
on the way in because, so we,
John and I took Penelope to the vet.
Basically, a couple of weeks ago,
I started getting a lot of anxiety
about Penelope's behavior.
Because as I've told you,
she's doing this sundowning thing.
We're at night.
She just is not herself.
She barks a lot at night.
She just barks at us for no reason.
She seems unhappy.
And there was this kind of period where I was like,
her quality of life is just not good.
Like she doesn't really want to go for walks.
And she's having trouble with the stair.
She's still having trouble with the stairs, blah, blah, blah.
But she is going for kind of going
for a little bit of walks.
She's back to being a better man.
- She's a little better.
- But the point is,
we made a vet appointment just for kind of,
I was like, just for a piece of mind,
let's just get a checkup.
Yeah, our vet is so kind, you know?
But we, and of course I start crying in the vet appointment,
just in anticipation of, but you know, basically he said,
yeah, this is her final phase.
Like she's, you know, she's old.
And I literally thought of you,
'cause I was like, I knew you when Molly was like,
in her final phase.
I just remember all the things you were having to do
and give her insulin every day.
And, but that unwinding period where it's like,
just starting to do less and less
and you start wondering like, I'm gonna cry.
- Oh.
- But when you're just like, how am I gonna know?
- I know, yes.
- How will I know?
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Not like the Whitney Houston song, but.
- No, I know who that is.
- No.
(laughs)
- When my dog needs to go,
oh, that's horrible.
No, I just was making myself that because,
but our vet, who like I said is very kind,
he said like with, he said, with my dog,
I waited too long.
He said, but I just, I wanted my dog around
and I was doing everything I could and I waited too long.
But he said, but you're not doing that.
Like you're not, she's okay.
- Yes.
- Like, yeah, yes.
- We're not there yet.
- Yeah.
- Like let's just talk about keeping her comfortable,
basically, and he just said,
you know, if she doesn't wanna go for walks,
don't take her for a walk.
- Right.
- You know, it's okay.
It's okay for her just to go pee and come back in the house.
Like, it's not a matter of her needing exercises.
- Right.
- Just like, so if she, he's like,
if she doesn't feel like it, she doesn't feel like it,
and that's okay.
And then we're upping her.
We're past the point of like joint stuff,
stuff working for her.
- We're just past that.
She's a 14 year old dog.
- Right.
- You know, we are keeping her comfortable.
- Yes.
- And she's like, we can, anyway, but you know,
basically he was like,
she'll eat when she eats and she'll walk
when she wants to walk.
- Right.
- And she'll know.
- But I was still wants to go for walks.
- Well, that's the thing.
Like, okay, this morning she--
- That's good sign.
- This morning she, well, here's the thing.
- Yeah, at night she does.
In the morning, I have to make her go for a walk.
- Yeah.
- Because it's been like 12 hours, like you got a pee this way.
But it's because she doesn't,
the getting up in the morning is a little bit hard for her.
She knows she's gonna have to,
she just looks at you like seriously.
- Yeah.
- Then I'm gonna have to get up
from having been sleeping all night.
And I'm gonna have to maneuver the couple of stairs to get
and then once she's out, so what I do is,
I give her a painful in the morning.
Then I give her like 15 minutes.
And then we go for little walks.
So we go like, I mean, like a quarter mile.
- Yeah, that's nice.
That's good.
- Just like a round of really big block in our neighborhood.
And you know, she does her business.
But in the evening, this is where it gets weird.
'Cause we think she wants to go for a walk.
She barks at us, she whines.
But then we go to take her for a walk
and she'll walk like a couple houses
and be like, I'm done.
That sounds like Phil.
- Right, yeah.
But then sometimes a lot of times when I walk her,
she will do another block at night.
But that's where we are.
Like we're not.
- Right, right.
- It's the goner the days were.
- Yeah.
- Sometimes I'm kind of, not bitter.
That's too strong a word.
But I'm like, I miss the days where that was my exercise.
- Yeah.
- I was taking,
can help me for these crazy long walks.
- Yeah.
- And listening to my podcasts
and rolling calls, it's fun.
- Yeah.
Like if I make a call, I'm like, oh, gotta go.
- Right.
- We're done.
- Right, right, right.
But I was wondering like with Molly,
what the final phase, I mean, you were giving her
the, she had diabetes.
I was giving her the insulin shop.
She was blind and one, well, she went blind in both eyes
and then I had it with surgery in one eye
'cause they didn't know if it would work
and then that was fine.
She had one ear locked off because of the cancer
then she had the,
- A whole little she had a bad.
- She had mass cell tumors.
She was 13.
Yeah.
- When did she start getting the tumors?
- She was getting the tumors when she was like six years old.
- Oh, wow.
- Yeah.
She's got diabetes and then she started getting,
- Got a bad luck with dogs.
- With that dog.
Phil's, yeah, Phil just has epilepsy though.
- But other than that,
like so far, so good.
- Right.
- Not gone wood.
- But yeah.
Molly had, yeah, she had all these health issues.
Well, because she came from a pet store.
Like, you know, that's what happens.
But anyway, so it just got to the point.
I knew, so she had these like bloody mass cell tumors
that were the size of a sand dollar,
like huge on her body
and then they would have to operate, get it removed
and then another one would pop up
and they would just like get bloody open sores
and then we would manage it
and then she wasn't in a lot of pain.
She still was like her normal happy, go lucky self.
But it's happened pretty quickly.
Like she, all of a sudden,
could not stand up and couldn't walk.
And that's like within days, when that happened,
I was like, okay.
- That's what the vet basically said.
He's like, you know, they get,
they decline slowly and then quickly.
- Right.
That's happening. - And then it's actually
- Going to go fast.
- Yeah.
That was my experience.
Yeah. - So sad.
- I know.
I know.
- And I know I wasn't like,
I mean, well, I didn't,
I think it happened kind of early on, right?
'Cause what year, do you remember what year that was?
- When Molly died.
- When Molly died, yeah.
It was the first day of the kids' fourth grade.
So, okay.
So I guess we had been recording for a while.
- Yeah.
- Well, I'm sorry for if I wasn't more over the top.
I guess I just didn't get it.
I didn't have a lot of time.
- No, so please.
No.
But you're also, you do keep things kind of close to the vest.
It's not like you came in and you were crying.
- Yeah.
- You know what I mean?
- Yeah.
- I think you were more a matter of fact.
- Yeah.
- Yes.
- Yeah.
- So I blame you.
- Yeah.
- Anyway, you know who I don't blame,
who's sponsor Hero Bread?
- I've heard the ads for Hero Bread on some other shows.
You know, and I was like,
"Well, I don't know.
We'll see."
But then we got them as a sponsor and they sent us
a bunch of really delicious bread.
And I was like, "Wow, this is the thing about this bread
is its low carb bread."
- Right.
- So that's what is different about it.
But if you've ever tried your just grocery store
low carb stuff, it has a weird taste.
- But Hero is great.
It's fluffy.
It feels indulgent.
The texture is amazing.
And it's so great if you're on like, you know.
- Like Natalia.
- She's on a low carb diet and she loved it actually.
She loves it and she wants me to get more.
- Oh my God, and Adam would have loved it.
- And he would have loved it.
- Because they have a Hero Classic Plane Biggle.
- Ooh.
- That sounds good.
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- Ooh.
- Yeah.
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- Woo, first and.
- Yeah.
- Now Kaelin.
- We did it.
- You know, it's funny.
- Not Kaelin will probably listen to our first show.
- If you like let me see how these yachts
is in on their own.
- But yeah, Kaelin likes to show his work, you know.
- Yes.
- Like what he's doing by telling us when to do the ads.
- Right.
- Spoiler alert, not that hard.
I know.
I'm like, I can pretty easily tell us like, let's do hero first.
- Right.
- Because there are new sponsors.
- Right.
- And later we'll do our other two.
- Right.
Yes.
Yeah.
By the way, I don't think this is talking how to turn Dylan
had his baby.
- I know.
I saw some Facebook.
- On that TV.
- Yeah.
- That TV's Facebook.
- Yeah.
- Lucy.
Little Lucy.
- Thank you.
- Aww.
- I love that name.
That's my friend Jody's nickname for Natalia, by the way, is Lucy.
- Aww.
- I don't know where she was little and they were swimming in the pool.
Natalia kept splashing her and Jody goes, oh, shut up, Lucy.
And then just now to this day calls it Lucy.
- What about Lucy?
- You, I know.
Yeah.
- It's funny.
My brother, when we were little, because he was seven years younger than me.
So I would tease him sometimes.
And when he was really little, you know how kids don't have any like muscle tone or anything?
So he reminded me of silly putty.
So I started calling him putty.
- Putty for like silly putty, you know?
And it literally stuck and now all, you know, to this day.
- 50 years later.
Yeah.
You call him let up putty.
- Putty, call him putty.
Hey putty.
- Yeah.
- Did you get a nickname?
- No.
- I didn't.
Cause he was my little brother.
- Right.
Yeah.
- Yeah.
- Okay.
So I have a funny, a little funny thing to tell you.
- Yeah.
Okay.
Well, it's within a bigger story and then we can also talk about our kids.
- Yes.
- All that good stuff, but I'm sure Sonny's not back yet.
- No, not to the night.
- Yeah.
- Right.
Same with, that's when LB gets officially out of school.
But okay.
So my kids had their big music show, you know, the thing I've been hearing up for.
- Yes.
Yes.
I clip.
- Yeah.
And John Facebook.
- So cute.
- Yeah.
- It's John Facebook.
- Yeah.
- It's John Facebook.
- Yeah.
- They did Bonso goes to Bitburg by the Ramones because my husband's raised him right.
And so that was Zander's band.
So the kids are in different bands.
- Right.
- But Zander's band did that song and they had Sadie come guest on the song, which was really
cute.
- That's so cute.
I know.
And it was a great show.
And as I always tell you, like I'm in charge of it.
- Mm-hmm.
- Which I literally just wrote that the, the, the our music teacher just wrote to me and
thanked me for running the show.
And it was, I wrote it back and I was like, it's really funny.
If you really knew me, I'm not type A.
I know everybody listening is going to be like, you are a go getter.
I know, I know that it seems like I'm a go, I don't feel in my heart.
- Right.
- I am not a go getter.
- Okay.
- But sometimes I get forced into it because whatever my issues are where I'm just like,
people please are.
- Yeah.
- Like no one's stepping up to do this.
If I, sometimes if I get asked to do something, I do have trouble saying no and making a boundary.
- Right.
- So then I say yes.
And then I appeal to people's, you know, better nature and I go, hey, who wants to help me
with this?
And other people don't have the same issue.
I have, they're not people, please are.
So they're just like, I'm good time with that.
- Yeah.
- No thing.
They are like, I wish I was, which they're like, hey, tell me what to do and I'll do it.
But I'm not, I'm not like being in charge of this.
- Right.
- I had to be in charge of all aspects of it from doing the raffle because when some in
charge of it, I'm like, well, I want to make money first, right?
You know, and we made a lot of money.
But you're good with the raffles.
Like you have good ideas.
- I do.
- That's one of the main, you know, criteria of being a good raffle put together is you,
you know, is having good ideas about what, you know, stuff you should raffle off and then
going and then following through and going and getting.
- Yeah.
Well, I'm good where I don't mind asking people for stuff.
But I did ask for sort of items and nobody came forward.
Except for my friend, Tamara, who's the gray by Tamara Mello.
- Yeah.
- It's my friend who was a guest on the show, which she has to come back when you're here.
- Yeah.
- And she makes beautiful, really cool jewelry, which is great for like anniversary gifts.
So she made me this like metal cuff thing with earrings that match.
- Oh, yeah.
- That was one of my items.
Then I made all the parents donate gift cards.
- Nice.
- And I did two gift card prizes.
So okay.
So I have two little things to tell you.
But one of the things is funny about myself, which is that, okay.
So I also did collected for a class gift for our music teacher.
Right?
So again, nobody, I had to do it.
I had to be like, here's my Venmo if you want to donate.
And then I had to go to the bank and get the cash.
And then you know, you get people, I'm like, hey, I'm going to the bank to get the money.
And then the next day people are like, hey, can I still Venmo you?
Just bring cash to the show.
Do it yourself.
I'll add it to the gift, you know, because I don't want to, I'm not trying to go to the
bank every day.
- I know.
- So anyway, that happened.
- Hassel.
- So then the morning of the show, it was Saturday morning, I was like, well, I want to
give them flowers with the card and the cash.
And then I really remembered that I was going to my 12 step meeting that morning and my
A8, whatever.
You know what I mean?
My birthday had been the 22nd of May.
That's when I was 16.
- Right.
- You're sober.
We've talked about that.
So, but it just so happened that I didn't take my, do my celebration where they give you
a cake.
It's a fake cake.
- Yes.
- But they, they sing happy birthday and then you make a little, you say something.
Okay.
So that didn't have, that literally happened the day of the music show.
Okay.
All of this is to, I'm putting into context something that I do think it has a little
payoff.
It's funny.
So my sponsor gave me some beautiful flowers.
Oh.
- For my birthday and my mind.
I was like, oh, I know what I'm going to do with these flowers.
I'm not giving it to my music teacher.
- Right.
- So I don't have to go buy flowers.
Right?
- Right.
Great idea.
So I bring the flowers and I'm sitting behind like the bake sale table with this other mom
who's my co-chair of the, she's really a great, she's a friend of mine.
She's really, really nice.
But she, I don't know her that well, you know, at the school.
- At the school, right?
- At the school.
She's my friend at school that was, that, which I'll get to, which she stepped up to help
me the night of.
She doesn't even have a kid in the music show, but she, she, you know, she texted me and
she was like, hey, do you need help the night of our life?
- Oh, are these people?
- Yes.
Thank you.
- You have, yeah, don't have anything, you know, no kid in the show, but like still stepping
up to, she's super involved.
And she's the one though, it's kind of her fault that I'm the co-chair of the fundraising
committee, which is not my jam, but it's because she asked me to do it with her.
And then remember I tried to get out of it and I wrote to everybody and I was like, guys,
I'm really not good at this.
I'm getting all these emails and they're going over my head and they're like, no, please
stay.
We'll send you less emails.
- All right.
So that's my friend.
Her name's Nancy.
But anyway, hopefully she'll never listen to this podcast because so I pull out the flowers
and I was like, hey, I got, so I got the flowers for our teacher and she's like, oh, those
are so pretty.
She goes, where'd you get them?
And I went straight to a lie.
And of course I did a lie that had to make me sound better anyway.
- Right.
- The first thing I thought of I was just like, gelsons.
- That's good.
Good, good, good.
What happened that I had to even, I couldn't say trader, here's what my brain did really,
really quickly.
I was like, I don't remember if trader Joe's flowers say they're from trader Joe's and
these didn't say anything.
- Right.
- So I could have said ralfs like a normal person.
- Yeah.
- But I just went to gelsons because it's expensive.
- And they're beautiful flowers.
- And they look.
- Yeah.
- So I made myself sound a lot better than I am.
And I was like, why did I immediately lie?
Then I had to give myself a little slot because I was like, well, the truth would have required
way too much explanation.
- Right.
Well, I quit drinking 16 years ago.
- Yeah.
- You don't need to go down that road.
- And everybody's, and I'm in a program, releasing you, and somebody gave me flowers and
I thought, yes, you just need all that.
But right after I did it, my heart, I just felt so dishonest and I had that moment where
I was like, do I say, I'm sorry, I just lied to you.
And then I was like, no, because then I'd have to tell her, it was, yeah, I would have done
the same thing.
Yes.
But it was just such a weird lie to go like, I really expensive, like the most expensive grocery
store.
Only the best for our team.
- Yes.
- No, I regifted flowers.
- That's funny.
- What the fuck am I going to do with flowers?
- You're like Adam because there was the mother's day.
- Yeah.
- Tell her.
- There was a mother's day weekend and who, oh, Olga, stop by and dropped off flowers for
me.
And I was like, thank you, Olga.
That was really pretty.
And then she leaves and we're packing up the kids to get ready to have like go over to
Adam's mom's for mother's day brunch and Adam's like, oh, I said, are you going to bring
your mom?
Usually he would bring like champagne or something, you know, like that for his mom.
And I said, are you going to bring something for your mom?
And he was like, oh, I forgot, champagne.
And he's like, hmm, you really want those flowers?
And I was like, okay, take them near my mom's.
What am I going to say?
Yeah.
Didn't he want another time though and not being funny and ironic like we would be, but
didn't he give you a card where he crossed out?
- We have for like a sympathy card?
- Yes.
Oh, that was this thing.
Yeah.
I had cards in our closet.
- Uh-huh.
- Just random, you know, happy two-year-old birthday or sympathy.
It was like, yeah, I think it was our anniversary and he like crossed out, you know, my deepest
sympathies and used it as an anniversary card.
See, now that would make me laugh if I knew the person was just like a funny person.
- Right.
- But even though he is a funny person, I don't think he was doing it.
- Yeah, he wasn't doing it.
- No, he wasn't trying to be ironic.
He went into the closet, looked for a card and was like, well, I guess this is good enough.
I can't give her the two-year-old birthday card.
- Right.
- That's ridiculous.
That would be two over the top.
- Yeah.
- That would actually be funny though.
- Yeah.
- I taught my kids, we have all these like funny things when it comes to cards.
One of the things we do and they do it to their friends now is just get like super religious
cards, you know?
Like in Jesus' name, I want you to be filled blessed on your birth like the more over the
top, like Bible quotes, like the funny or it is.
- I love that your kids have a sense of humor.
It's the best.
- Oh, they're really funny.
- Yeah.
And that their friends have it, you know?
- Oh, yeah.
- I love doing that or they'll do, you know, like a happy 90th to their friends.
- Yeah, that's cute.
- We used to like to do the also the one where you go like it's your like a one-year-old
party and then you just add a little zero or their 10 right?
- Hoping they get that it's a joke.
- Right.
- Not like an Adam.
- Right.
- But like, why would you have a one-year-old birthday card playing around?
- Yeah, exactly.
- Yeah.
- I always feel a little bit embarrassed like I'll go to the 99 cents store or the dollar
store whenever it's, is there even a 99 cents store?
- I don't know, I think it's--
- The dollar store is a dollar 25.
- Uh-huh.
- Everything is a dollar 25.
- Right, right.
- And also I was at the dollar store the other day and they started sneaking into some
shit that's like 450.
- That's, I know.
- Oh, okay.
- Like, let's not the dollar.
You can call yourself the dollar.
It's not the 450 store.
- Yeah.
- And it's not five below.
- Right.
- Yes.
And 99 cents store was doing that too for a while, weren't they?
- Yeah.
- There was little things that were not 99 cents.
- Yes.
- So there was the 99 cents store and then there's dollar tree.
- Right.
- If you're the 99 cents store and you came first, you got to be a little annoyed that
the dollar tree comes by and they're like, we're just one cents a night.
- Right.
(laughs)
- Or if the dollar tree was first and then the 99 cents store comes and they're like,
well, we're 99 cents a day.
- Yes.
- The dollar tree's like, all right.
- Right.
(laughs)
- Oh, look at you.
- Right.
- Undercutting us by a penny.
- Right.
- Feel good about yourselves.
I've never been to a dollar tree.
You have it.
- Mm-mm.
- There's some stuff that is good to get there.
Like, I was actually looking for something to put my gift cards.
That's why I was actually there.
So, because how do you give gift cards?
How do you make it look nice for a rough one?
- Right.
- So, what I did was I bought these little baskets that were a dollar 25, the dollar tree.
And then they were little baskets and then I made, I took this, it's like this gummy stuff
that you buy and it sticks stuff together but it's really easy to pull it apart.
- Oh, yeah.
- Oh, glue.
- Yeah.
- It's like little glue strips and you just take a little piece of it and you just stick
the gift cards together and I made them all a little--
- Oh, that's cute.
- And I put it in the, with a little bit of candy.
- That's cute.
- That's a little like chocolate kisses.
And I had some shred and I just made these little things with the gift cards.
- Oh.
- Nice.
- Look at you, Martha Stewart.
- I know.
I've become somebody I'm not like on the day of setting everything up.
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Okay, so here's my other, this is, I got to pray sometimes that people don't listen to
our show that like, that we know in our life.
Yeah, right?
In our circle.
And then we find out they do.
And we're like, I know.
I know.
Can we have anything to ourselves?
Right.
It's none of your business.
Can we have our public free broadcast that broadcast to anybody who wants to listen to
ourselves?
Yes.
And you not invade my private life.
The worst is when you get that text that said, hey, I was listening to your podcast.
And then you got to open a text and you're like, let me get a gulp of water before I
open this text.
It could go either way.
Yes.
Oh my God.
You guys are funnier.
Yeah.
Yeah, I heard you talk some shit.
Oh my God.
And then your stomach drops and you go, what?
Remember what I say?
What I say?
Remember what I told you that the, that are, that my old neighbor divorced dad.
Yes.
Was sent me a text after a long time.
And it was like, hey, I have a strange thing to ask you.
Remember that?
And I was like, oh no.
And he go back in the archives and like, what did I say was right?
Right.
You know?
Yeah.
That's our busy anyway, right?
But didn't happen.
But so please don't listen to this.
But this is the thing that, that happened that annoyed me at the kid's show.
Okay.
So again, I'm not trying to pat myself on the back, but I worked really, really hard.
I asked the parents, does it give me gift cards?
A lot of them stepped up and gave me gift cards.
Now I had a bunch of cards and I'm trying to arrange like, pick out, pick out, pick out,
okay, I'm going to do two prizes that are gift cards.
And then I had three other prizes.
I had like a whole bath and body, hall.
And I used I bought a gift card for bath and body, my donation and that with my bath and
body stuff.
Then I had tamaraz stuff.
Then I had some, a whole makeup thing.
Anyway.
So most people were pretty appreciative of the fact that I was taking care of it.
Now I also have to do this again in October for our big, we do a big fall school at the
school.
Right.
There is a humongous pain in the ass.
Yes.
It's a community building.
Right.
I'm saying that with some sarcasm and some air quotes because yeah, it's great and people
have a good time, but it takes so much work to put it together.
And not for nothing, but like I did this, this event all by myself and it wasn't that
hard.
Why?
Because I wasn't having committees.
I was in charge of me.
Yes.
So like I took care of the stuff that needed to get taken care of and I asked people for help
and they helped me and it all went really smartly.
And you know, I had to order like pizza for the event and I was, that was the hardest thing.
Was like, okay, how many pizza?
How many pizza?
How many pizzas should I order?
And guess what?
I ordered eight pizzas.
I had it come not at the beginning of the show, but like a half hour before intermission,
sold all the pizza.
It was a perfect amount.
Nice.
It all worked great.
So like, I think I can be trusted to make like decisions, you know?
Right.
So one of the moms donated a couple of gift cards.
I'll tell you what they were for.
So if she listens, she'll know who she is, but whatever.
So her gift cards were to teach, they're like TJ Maxx, Marshalls.
There's like a couple of stores.
Yeah, good for.
And I was like, that's cute.
That's fine.
That's great.
But you know what?
It's not, that's not going to fit in with my emotive.
What I, the ones that I used, I had a bunch of Starbucks.
I did Starbucks, Amazon, and then each set had a couple of like a random one.
Like one had a Dave and Busters.
It was like a little bit kid-oriented.
Yeah, yeah.
And then one had something else that I can't remember, but maybe a makeup or something.
Okay.
So she, so I made it pretty clear to all the parents.
I was like, hey, you could, if I don't need any more gift cards already, I'm going to use
a couple of them for the fall festival.
Right.
Okay.
So this mom comes over.
So one of the ones that I didn't use for this was the TJ Maxx.
Okay.
It didn't go.
I already had enough.
I didn't want to give them all out because I don't need the prize to be worth like $200.
Right.
Yeah.
Or just buying tickets for $5 each.
Right.
Yeah.
And five for 20, which is what most people, so it's not even, it's like $4.
Yes.
Yeah.
Calm down.
Yeah.
It's not, you know what I mean?
This isn't going to change your life.
Right.
Yeah.
You're going to go to Starbucks for free for, you know, and have a little bit of, it was,
but it was like worth like 170 in each one.
Mm-hmm.
Okay.
So she comes over.
She looks at it.
She's like, hey, I don't, I don't see my gift cards in there.
Mm-hmm.
I was so annoyed, so fat.
Do you know that feeling where he's like, are you serious right now?
First of all, not there to help.
Right.
She's standing around.
Okay.
I have other moms that are there to help.
Yeah.
She's a totally nice woman.
Right.
I do, I like her.
She's, she's really sweet.
Yes.
Her kids graduating, so even if she listened to this and got mad, it doesn't really matter
because her kids leaving.
Right.
But anyway, very nice person.
Yeah.
But I was just annoyed because of the way.
You're watching me put this together and also I was like, what does that mean?
You don't see your gift cards.
Like, are you implying I, I went on a shopping spree at TJ Maxx with your $25 to TJ Maxx?
Right.
Well, to be fair, there were two of them.
Mm-hmm.
So there was a TJ, there was two TJ Maxx.
They were for TJ Maxx marshals and like whatever two other companies that are right.
That I, and you could save them for the fall.
I'm going to use them for the fall festival.
Right.
A couple, I held back a panera bread, a cheesecake factory because I, because what we do is we
do baskets for the fall festival.
And then I, it gift cards up the value of those baskets.
Yes.
So like, let's say I do a basket that's got clothing in it or something.
Right.
Then I do, I add like a TJ Maxx gift card in there, right?
Yeah.
It's just didn't fit with my, you know, so I said, I was like, oh, yeah, oh, you go, which
ones were they?
And she, and I said, were they the TJ Maxx ones?
And she's like, yeah.
And I was like, yeah, I'm going to use them for the fall festival.
And she goes, oh, well, I mean, my kid's not even going to be there.
And so my brain had, so I was like, is she serious?
Yeah.
Like what?
I don't care.
Right.
I don't care.
Like, do you want them back?
Like I could arrange to give them back to you.
Right.
And then I put the whole thing together.
And then, why do you have to go, bother the person, the poor person that's been working, putting
these things together and blah, blah, blah.
Why do you even have to go, blah, blah, blah?
And then, you know, it's like, you're working, you're not.
You're working.
Right.
She's not.
I put the whole thing together.
Don't bother people that are working.
It's just, you know, donate.
And then, quietly, leave it at that and let them do their thing.
There's, why do you got to go bother the person, the poor person that's been working,
putting these things together and blah, blah, blah.
I don't even got a question, where's my card?
What do you think?
She thinks you like, you know, went on a shopping spree over the weekend.
I really did all this.
I did all this so that I could spend, right?
So I could steal some of your gift cards.
Yeah, exactly.
I mean, if, and if that's the case, if you even possibly think that, then don't, don't
donate anything.
Right.
Like, if you're going to be so locked into like, no, it has to be used for this, you know,
come this show.
Right.
It's like, listen, the other, the next thing that we need to force literally a few
months away, we start collecting them like in the summer.
Yeah.
So whatever.
But I was like, I don't need this right now.
I don't need to like try to figure out, I have a little pile of them, like in my room,
which is a, on my friend and Tamara, like she's so sweet.
So she gave me the jewelry for the thing.
Then she gave me another thing.
She was like, in case I forget, yeah, there's something for fall festival too while we're
at it.
That's awesome.
I think gold chain bracelet with a, like, Pave Diamonds Infinity.
I love that.
That's awesome.
I know.
She's, but like, why can't everybody be like that?
I know.
Yeah.
Why do you got to like, yes, anyway, anyway, all in all though, the whole show was so great.
These shows are like four hours long.
This was the most crowded.
It's ever been.
It was packed.
And I felt like I was, I mean, I was working.
I was like sweating because when the crowd hit for the pizza, I mean, there were like, oh,
probably 100 and I want to say 160 people.
Holy shit.
That's a lot of people.
Which we have, it's a small auditorium.
It's like, we don't have a, it's not like an auditorium.
We had a normal school because we're a really small school.
So it was packed to the gills in there.
Wow.
Just way standing room only people taking, and so people would come out because it was very
hot in the room.
Yeah.
And they would come out and then they were just lining up.
That's amazing.
It was like, it's deep of people trying to get bake sale stuff, trying to get pizza.
And they'd be like, two pizza pepperoni.
Yeah.
And I had a woman who stepped up and she was like, I got you like helping serve food,
the gloves.
And it was like, holding pizza and then we were taking money and like, yeah, I was like,
this is what it's like to have a job.
Yeah.
But you know what?
You're going to miss that when they, when, when, when, I know, just like going to the sporting
events, you're going to miss it and you have one more year left.
I got to tell you, there were parents that were so upset and crying and just like, you know,
because it was their last year.
Those are last show.
And I was, I was like, I am so grateful that I do have another year of this.
Yeah.
And I mean, just a moment of gratitude, like for my kids school, because for all the years
that I complained, yeah, many years as it been.
Yeah.
We've had many years of our listeners getting mad at me and going, stop what you're doing.
Pull your kids out, put them in a normal school.
Yeah.
And then guess what?
That didn't fucking work.
Right.
Yeah.
So it didn't work.
Yeah.
But I was like, okay, with the pressure from the people that are like, you need to have your
kids in just a normal public school, right?
Did that?
It was the worst year for both of them.
Yeah.
I remember.
It was a tough going for a while.
It was a rough, rough patch.
And you know, it's not easy, you know, when your kids aren't happy, you feel bad.
Like you don't know what to do.
And then your options are limited here in Los Angeles.
So, you know, but then you found this school, how did you find this school?
Well, it was a, it was founded.
It was a different school.
It started as a different school, but then they lost their charter.
And it for, it was formed by a woman who wanted to have a school.
She was a college counselor, like a private college counselor.
She wanted to have a school that that's that gave you that for free.
And helped kids get into it the right college for them, but for free.
That's nice.
And so she started this school and she didn't really know and it started quite a few years
before my kids started going there.
But it ended up being just a, I'm trying to think just like a nurturing, cool, small, not
I, it's, they, we don't call our teachers by their first names.
Yeah.
A lot of the teachers are like your friend, right?
They know all the kids.
Yes.
They have really small class sizes and they have really dynamic programs.
So basically, you know, a friend had her kid going there and was telling me about it and
I went to a meeting for it before Elby went into high school.
Right.
And I loved it.
But Elby was like hell, no.
Yeah.
I want to go to a big school.
I'm done with small schools.
She knew her own mind.
And Sadie and Zander wanted a big school too.
They thought they would go to the taft.
Yes.
Well, Elby went, but then when it, so when they had that bad time, right at the public middle
school, they became a little bit more open to just going to see it.
Yes.
And then Sadie was the first one to go like, oh, yeah.
Yeah.
I want to go to this school.
Right.
It feels, but the thing that I love about it is that it has, the music program is like
very unique in Los Angeles, because the kids play in bands and they don't, it's no marching
band.
Right.
It's not your typical music program.
Right.
Yeah.
But they have jazz and they have guitar classes and they have.
That's amazing.
It's a big music program that does three shows a year.
But then they also have the speech and debate.
Yes.
You may have heard something about that.
Yeah.
But they have a, like a poetry slam kind of group and they have a film club.
But they have a, all the stuff that a lot of bigger schools have.
Yes.
But in a very small environment.
I love it.
And it just made me so happy to see my kids thriving.
Yes.
Yeah.
Nothing like that.
Right.
I know.
They're so happy.
I'll post some videos.
Yeah.
If you follow John on Facebook, John Taylor from Duran Duran, he has a video up.
I was going to make him make it shareable.
Yeah.
So which I will do.
Yeah.
Okay.
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But yes, Adam Lerner's got a car.
Adam Lerner's got a car.
Adam's got a car.
Yes.
Go talk to him.
He will help you.
Yes.
He's amazing.
Super sweet.
Yeah.
That's right.
Right.
If you live in other parts of the country, he, there's a fee, but it comes off of basically
what he's saving you.
Okay.
And he gives our listeners a discount.
Just text him.
Yes.
Anyway, also queer youth resource in Vancouver, Washington.
Listen, assholes.
It's Pride Month.
I was just going to say that.
Yeah.
It is June.
It is June, March, and there's, please help out some of these.
I'm going to, all the charities we do today are going to be Pride Charities.
Queer youth resource.
Vancouver, Washington, QYRC, Vancouver, WA, dot org.
That's our friend, Laura Wingfield's college friend.
So let's help them out.
Also Jacob Crowley.
You know what?
Jacob Crowley and Carrie Kibler, I'm going to double down those two Trevor projects.
TrevorProject.org.
This is, this helps youth in crisis, LGBT kids who, and you know, our pal Trump is cutting
funding to a lot of these places.
We need these, we need these programs.
They're lifesavers for our LGBT youth.
So please give generously to them this month if you're looking for something to give to.
Also, the Get Up Show, it's a podcast incorporates yoga, music, jokes, learning.
It's really fun.
The Get Up Show, check them out, Fern Candle.
That's our friend Kelsey.
She runs this business of making soy candles that smell really great.
They have sense like tobacco sage and go to her Instagram @FernCandle or just go to
FernCandle.com.
If you want to travel somewhere, waves and wonder travel, that's our friend Christine
Black.
Waves and wonder travel, check her out.
If you're on the island of Kauai in Hawaii, go to Sugar Skull.
And get like they do wedding cakes, they do delicious desserts and they, they're a gift store
and small bakery.
And they have an Instagram page at Sugar Skull 808.
Also, if you want a t-shirt or a mouse pack or a mug, go to justbasicbecky.com and use
our gal basic Becky.
She's also on Facebook at Basic Becky.
And if you're in Palm Springs or Palm Desert, go to Wilma and Frida.
Okay?
Yep.
Get some salmon.
Love it.
And ask them if you can have a mimosa or a latte and tell them you're from F-C-O-L.
Yeah.
All right.
Thanks me.
Thanks, Stephanie.
Thanks everybody, your parent now.
Don't eff it up.
Woo!
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